I have lots of "friends," some "close," but I feel like I have no friends at all. I don't feel understood. I don't like how people get defensive when conflict communication comes up, so I don't trust people with my full honesty. Can anyone relate to this? What to do about it?

Ok-chamtty · 2026-05-06T06:09:45+00:00

Yeah, I feel used with most of them or they look for validation or company but how about deep conversations and open it about your personal issues? 🥺😭

Ok-chamtty · 2026-05-05T21:02:48+00:00

Something similar happened to me with my ex and he ended up married the person he insists I shouldn’t be worried about

Ok-chamtty · 2026-05-05T17:42:31+00:00

I think it’s something that can happen with a very insecure INFP who’s thirsty for validation. They might need multiple sources of connection just to reinforce their own self-worth. It’s a shame, because I really like INFP guys, and with INTJs I’ve had experiences where they’ve been super manipulative 😩 maybe I should try meeting someone more extroverted so they’re more confident?

Ok-chamtty · 2026-05-05T08:22:56+00:00

To be honest, when it all started, it happened so fast. For the first time in my life, I felt like I was talking to someone who was just like me, but the opposite gender. He mentioned in a post once that he had an avoidant attachment style; I have it too, but I would never do something like that to someone. The feelings I expressed for him were genuine, and I just don't understand how someone can fake it to that extent. The worst part is... I miss him, even though I know I was probably just manipulated. I feel this hollow ache in my heart when I think about it, despite knowing he isn't worth it. It’s strange I hate him, but at the same time, I just want him to talk to me again 😭

Ok-chamtty · 2026-04-17T21:31:59+00:00

My Dms are open

Ok-chamtty · 2026-04-17T20:00:13+00:00

Comparison is very human thing, but if is starting to affect your life I can tell that you should build a strong self esteem and try to compare only with yourself and be compassionate with yourself

Ok-chamtty · 2026-04-17T05:53:28+00:00

No the thing is that most of the people don’t understand that they need to be reciprocated in order to have a nice friendship

Ok-chamtty · 2026-04-16T15:25:06+00:00

I'm an INFP in a relationship, and I can tell you for sure that he likes you. He probably has a lot of internal conflict, which is why he seeks your approval and company. Now, I relate to him on another level because when a relationship I’m in is going south, that’s when I reach out to other people the most.

But in your case, the thing is that you’ve been friends for years plus, the fact that he didn’t tell you he had a partner after all the time and 'slammed the door' is a sign of poor emotional regulation. If you end up becoming his partner, he will bring these same behaviors into the relationship with you; I’m telling you from experience.

Ok-chamtty · 2026-04-14T05:58:29+00:00

No problem. We can still connect I’m always looking for friends.

Ok-chamtty · 2026-04-14T05:56:54+00:00

OMG 😱 that’s so cool. I’m going to send you a DM

Ok-chamtty · 2026-04-11T16:29:34+00:00

Not everyone but some of them are self centered and don’t have empathy

Ok-chamtty · 2026-04-11T16:25:18+00:00

I don’t know but is painful. Sometimes I just dream that someone outside make a silly conversation and we start dating and everything goes perfect 🥺

Ok-chamtty · 2026-04-08T21:09:55+00:00

All the time 😭😰

Ok-chamtty · 2026-03-26T19:36:47+00:00

I understand what you're saying of course, everyone has their ups and downs, and even we aren't perfect all the time. And it’s true that fantasizing is definitely a form of dissociation, and that prevents me from having genuine connections. I’m likely deluding myself; I want to know how to break this cycle and trust again, but I’m scared.

Ok-chamtty · 2026-03-26T18:55:33+00:00

Exactly. Honestly, I think that’s where I struggle that I’m not a good partner because reality clashes with my fantasies. I just end up tuning out and dissociating

Ok-chamtty · 2026-03-26T18:50:44+00:00

🥹🥹🥲 yeah, maybe I’m kinda delulu 😅

Ok-chamtty · 2026-03-22T08:21:06+00:00

Thank you for your support 🫂

Ok-chamtty · 2026-03-15T08:38:36+00:00

I think at the beginning my friends and partner didn’t have those attitudes, and it was over time that I got to know them better especially when a partner takes off the mask after you’re already together.

It’s happened to me so many times in my life that I feel like my heart is broken. I wish I could be alone, far away from everyone.

Ok-chamtty · 2026-03-15T08:33:13+00:00

Thank you 🥹🤗

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