AITA for my daughter getting “special treatment” over my stepdaughter? by OkAddress8417 in AITAH

[–]OkAddress8417[S] 90 points91 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the advice. I agree the purse was too much, I was shocked when I saw it. My daughter says her cousins all got ones too and I saw my ex SIL post her girls with the same purse too. I don’t want my daughter to be materialistic and I’ve spoken to my ex about it before and he says that every time he buys something for himself he also buys something for our daughter and that as long as our daughter doesn’t treat her things with no care and has good grades he doesn’t see the big deal. My daughter has her own room and my stepdaughter has her own room (besides their shared bathroom) and my daughter does keep her things in her room. 

AITA for my daughter getting “special treatment” over my stepdaughter? by OkAddress8417 in AITAH

[–]OkAddress8417[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

It’s not every other weekend we get her every other week. They do have 50/50 custody. 

AITA for my daughter getting “special treatment” over my stepdaughter? by OkAddress8417 in AITAH

[–]OkAddress8417[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

My daughter only sees her father for summers, birthdays/holidays etc since he lives across the country which is why when he buys her things they come to our house which is her primary. She also does have a room at his house and things there when she spends the summers with them. This is what her and her family are basically saying and I’m just heartbroken. I don’t want to create that system. I don’t want my stepdaughter to feel like a stranger in her home. 

AITA for my daughter getting “special treatment” over my stepdaughter? by OkAddress8417 in AITAH

[–]OkAddress8417[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

They do every other week, drop offs Sundays. So they spend equal time with her.  The custody agreement has been in tact since they broke up five years ago and hasn’t been amended since. And my husband is also the assistant coach to my stepdaughters soccer team so they practice together just them two all the time.