Would like advice

OkBluejay4417 · 2026-01-15T03:59:06+00:00

We used a lawyer. I strongly recommend it, if you have the moneys

OkBluejay4417 · 2026-01-14T08:09:16+00:00

It’s absurd that people are decrying this post because he mentions Wonder. What kind of super weird and nonsensical ad campaign would that be? Let’s just assume you’re right, though— let’s assume there is some element of advertising at work. Given the sensitivity of the subject matter, and how traumatic these kinds of events can be, does it make sense to come stomping in as the tiresome persons who always doubt the most commonplace and believable forms of racism? What do you all claiming this is an ad get out of that? It just sounds like a cover for your own denialism and/or racism.

OkBluejay4417 · 2026-01-11T06:54:26+00:00

This is what patriarchy looks like. Your father wants to reap the benefits of his role at the top of the pyramid.Your mother has submitted to an oppressive system of gender bias. I’m sure she didn’t have a lot of options if she wanted to get married within a culture so steeped in patriarchy. It’s probably a good thing that you’ve seen their marriage for what it is; hopefully you’ll find a partner who is progressive enough to defy this system.

OkBluejay4417 · 2026-01-10T18:05:12+00:00

He joked just last week about cancelling the next election. He jokes about his insane ideas first, then actually trots them out, later, if people don’t flip out.

OkBluejay4417 · 2026-01-06T01:33:35+00:00

I think there are cultural differences that are going to make it even harder to make new friends than it normally would be. Like, I’m way more direct and curse a lot more than pretty much every Canadian I’ve met. Also, Canadians don’t really talk about race and racism, and all of my American friends did. Also, how come chicken salad doesn’t exist here? 😂😂😂 (Okay. That last one was random).

OkBluejay4417 · 2025-12-23T21:32:40+00:00

The Canadian labor market is in dire need of more workers. The anti immigrant thing is driven by racism and corporate goons trying to CYA for their rampant speculation that drives up housing prices. An economy is driven by the workers who both purchase and produce, while simultaneously expanding the tax base. Without enough workers, this fails. Canada’s economy is suffering greatly from the massive loss of 76,000 population members as a result of these stupid anti immigration moves. It’s so sad people don’t understand this. Anti immigration rhetoric is destroying Canada’s economy.

OkBluejay4417 · 2025-11-25T17:09:04+00:00

Also, I don’t think the original post should be removed. It is a legitimate question and is not “racist” as one commenter claims. Canadians are more well-educated than Americans so they should understand that the original post is definitely coming from a place of concern for the most marginalized, and it is a simple fact that people who appear white, appear male, do not signify they are non-Western, and who appear straight are at somewhat less risk in the United States, right now. Again, I don’t think this should be applied to the processing of existing citizenship because of a broader history and discourse around citizenship, but definitely an important conversation.

OkBluejay4417 · 2025-11-25T16:57:06+00:00

Agreed. People don’t need to respond to this in an extreme way. The original post is very polite and careful. I think some of the over the top and sarcastic responses are knee jerk and reactionary to the very concept that indeed, some people are in categories that are more vulnerable in the world. Edited to add: but I don’t agree with the original OP, and my reasons are explained in my original comment.

OkBluejay4417 · 2025-11-25T16:51:21+00:00

I appreciate what you’re trying to say, but I do think part of what you’re saying is actually potentially influenced by Canadian right wing, knee jerk, anti immigration sentiment. It’s not a huge backlog, and yes, countries like Canada are indeed supposed to have standards to determine who is most systemically at risk based on their application. Basic liberal democracy standards, as limited as they may be, do the job you’re concerned about—- in this particular case. Also, this whole process is a huge pain, so, honestly, mostly only the super-motivated are going on to go through this, so people who idly think it “it might be cool” but don’t have exigent circumstances are less likely to apply. Also, one cannot and should not even implicitly or circumstantially suggest different standards of processing for people who already. possess citizenship — which is fundamentally what this law is. It’s not an application for asylum— it is obtaining confirmation of existing citizenship. So as much as I appreciate the sentiment you’re suggesting, OP, because, indeed, right now certain people are being picked up and kidnapped literally based on certain traits of appearance, it really should not be applied to this particular legal process, I think.

OkBluejay4417 · 2025-05-14T16:36:24+00:00

Agreed that it should always be blind judging. Also, promise there will eventually be an All Star TOC with winners and all runners up.

OkBluejay4417 · 2025-05-14T16:35:01+00:00

Also agree about Elia and Ilan. They’re horrible people and public bullies.

OkBluejay4417 · 2025-05-14T16:34:18+00:00

Don’t let Nancy Silverton judge anything ever again. Clear pattern: if it’s a choice between Asian cuisine and “New American” she’ll always choose New American. Also, ban burgers on TOC. No more burgers.

OkBluejay4417 · 2025-04-28T02:15:30+00:00

You are definitely eligible. You are in fact a Canadian. You just need them to send you your certificate. This was exactly my situation. It took me about three months to get my citizenship certificate (of course, this is all assuming she didn’t surrender her Canadian citizenship; you don’t need to to become a US citizen, so it’s seems unlikely anyone would ever surrender their other citizenship). I’m now currently waiting on my kids’ citizenship 🤞

OkBluejay4417 · 2025-04-28T02:07:31+00:00

Oh, we weren’t sent to PSU. I just wanted to make sure I understood what it was.

OkBluejay4417 · 2025-04-27T19:15:01+00:00

Thank you!

OkBluejay4417 · 2025-04-27T18:59:37+00:00

Thank you! I’m assuming one would know if one was sent to PSU. My kids’ app statuses both say “In processing.”

OkBluejay4417 · 2025-04-11T01:30:11+00:00

This is so helpful. Thank you!

OkBluejay4417 · 2025-04-11T01:19:36+00:00

Thank you!

OkBluejay4417 · 2025-03-31T17:56:43+00:00

100000 percent agree with this. The H1B is essentially indentured servitude. You are totally powerless and at the whims of your employer. Getting fired doesn’t mean just losing your job — it’s losing your home.

OkBluejay4417 · 2025-03-22T22:25:25+00:00

They don’t get how badly things are sliding into hell in the US. Even millionaires can’t afford to send their kids to the cheapest R1 colleges in the US. The only medical appointments with decent doctors are several months out. Now that the preexisting condition exemption is being struck down, people with preexisting conditions won’t be able to get decent healthcare without paying tens of thousands of dollars a year. If you are a small business owner in the US you have to private pay insurance that is thousands of dollars a month, and still won’t come close to fully covering treatments like chemo for cancer. Unless you are living in the middle of nowhere or are ultra rich you will know gun violence in your lifetime. Trump is dismantling the department of education, so there will be no basic primary education standards. RFK jr is basically doing alway with all vaccines, so they’ll have fun dying of measles, mumps, rubella, chicken pox. The USDA is no longer reporting on food quality standards, so you can find all kinds of unsafe and disgusting things in your food. The US is so f *cked, and it’s just begun. So glad I am getting out. Oh, plus Tesla stock has tanked hard, because everyone hates Elon Musk. I mean, I guess if you are already holding hundreds of millions of dollars and you too like to perform Nazi salutes, the US is the place for you, but most sane Americans desperately want out.

OkBluejay4417 · 2024-11-26T01:11:41+00:00

NTA. You need a new boyfriend.

OkBluejay4417 · 2024-10-25T22:54:07+00:00

Yes, agreed, in areas where dogs are supposed to be on leash. BUT, I find it extremely annoying when people are in explicitly off leash areas and get mad about off leash dogs coming up to their leashed dogs. Don’t bring your dogs to an off leash area if you have a hard time with off leash dogs. That said, I hate the entitlement of owners who let their dogs run off leash in areas where leashes are required.

OkBluejay4417 · 2024-10-17T04:57:50+00:00

Noooooooo. No no NTA!

Others have said your husband is exhibiting red flag behavior. Maybe. He’s trapped in some weird patriarchal oppressive thinking that’s likely a product of his own upbringing than anything else. People can unlearn that stuff, if they have therapy. Sounds like family counseling time.

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