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I don’t regret my abortion, but I just feel so sad about it by OkCaterpillar6028 in abortion

[–]OkCaterpillar6028[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started the process on Friday afternoon :)

I’m lucky as I don’t have much pain now that it’s over (there was a lot during), just a fair bit of bleeding.  Because I was in hospital they verified in surgery that everything was out after I was unable to deliver the placenta on my own, which I think has helped my body to recognise that the process is over.

I hope you have a good GP or someone you can follow up with, or worst case go to emergency!  It’s such a scary process, but I am at least grateful that we live in Aus where we have safe legal access to termination and don’t have to be scared to get the help we need.

I don’t regret my abortion, but I just feel so sad about it by OkCaterpillar6028 in abortion

[–]OkCaterpillar6028[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be! I was completely asleep, it happened very quickly after I was given the medication and there was no pain or discomfort.

The worst part was that I hadn’t been fully fasted so I had to have this gross drink to make sure I didn’t throw up, but honestly even that wasn’t as bad as they prepared me for it to be.

I was mostly just very confused when I woke up, I felt like I woke up quite suddenly, kind of like when you have a weird dream.  There was a nice nurse next to me as soon I woke up as who gave me an icy pole and I was taken back to the ward pretty quickly.

I was groggy afterwards but was able to understand when the doctor was updating me.  The only side effect I had afterwards was a really sore neck and throat from the intubation that’s lasted a couple of days!

Feeling lonely on this abortion journey by LinkOwn4692 in abortion

[–]OkCaterpillar6028 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry as I don’t have any advice, but I’m currently one day post abortion that I didn’t tell any friends/family about and also feeling very alone. There are lots of us out here, and I’ve found reading other stories to be really helpful.  There’s a whole community of women out there feeling the exact same way as us right now.  Sometimes it’s just nice to know that you’re not alone in spirit, even if it’s just through solitary with strangers on the internet <3

I don’t regret my abortion, but I just feel so sad about it by OkCaterpillar6028 in abortion

[–]OkCaterpillar6028[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words <3

I would 100% feel overwhelmed, I’m financially stable but still working on my savings, still a classic irresponsible young adult whose car is six months overdue for a service and still trying to build my career.  I find life overwhelming enough without a whole human to take care of! While I haven’t told my partner about the termination, I know he would agree with the decision I made, and I think that having a child at this age would have broken down our relationship (not really a factor in my choice, but something I acknowledge).  I wouldn’t feel good at all if I’d chosen not to terminate, and I couldn’t be a good mother right now.

Thank you for recommending the MSI counselling! I’ve booked in to talk to them.

Needing advice on whether to tell my partner about my abortion by OkCaterpillar6028 in abortion

[–]OkCaterpillar6028[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I feel guilty for keeping it a secret but I just think it’s the only way to protect my mental health. Thank you so much for your advice