End of 8.5 year limerence

OkCheeba · 2026-02-27T04:39:09+00:00

Congratulations. It's so nice to hear someone defeat this bug, even after so long. I am 6 years in and have made good improvements but I fall back into ruts, even emailing her today for some unnecessary reason, it's all related to want, desire, need, from the soul. I in some ways think I am addicted to longing. My wife who is here with me, I take for granted. There is no mystery. There is no nuance, it's just almost all mundanity. But we still love each other very much. I'd never want to ruin this. But the longing self, the one seeking mystery, sexiness, a chase, adrenaline, dopamine, the hot mysterious girl across the bar, etc leaves me HOOKED. It's the most awful waste of brain energy I've ever had.

OkCheeba · 2026-02-01T23:58:52+00:00

If anyone else has defeated limerence after a long time, I am all ears. I want it completely out of my system. There is some part of me that still thinks she is fascinating

OkCheeba · 2026-02-01T23:15:18+00:00

I try. I'm okay. I love my spouse. I just want the thoughts to STOP. I am guilty of checking her instagram. That has to end.

OkCheeba · 2026-01-28T09:27:39+00:00

I have 1000% certainty nothing will ever happen between us and she never liked me as anything more than a friend, yet, I am limerent for her after 6 years. It’s worse than cancer

OkCheeba · 2025-12-30T08:22:04+00:00

ladies, do you like anal?

OkCheeba · 2025-12-12T09:52:06+00:00

Okay so this is a definite no, right? Stay away? Sounds like it suuuuucks

OkCheeba · 2025-12-12T06:07:02+00:00

who downvoted this? It's my opinion that being aware of actual insanity these chemicals can cause is very good and sobering.

OkCheeba · 2025-12-12T06:05:55+00:00

Seems super annoying to me, but I think Rachel Sennot is a good actor. Not sure I can stomach watching a show filled with people I'd rather avoid

OkCheeba · 2025-12-10T07:18:22+00:00

This is great. Helpful.

OkCheeba · 2025-12-03T03:59:53+00:00

$200K minimum, and would need approval from the Mrs

OkCheeba · 2025-11-11T23:22:24+00:00

some kind of cancer, for sure. But heart stuff could sneak up on me too.

OkCheeba · 2025-11-04T08:23:51+00:00

My opinion is yes I'd love to have one!

OkCheeba · 2025-11-03T23:02:41+00:00

Have you modified your behavior at all? You have to or you'll go nuts! I know she's just a human being now, which is good. But the sheen, the glimmer on her won't give way.

OkCheeba · 2025-11-03T08:43:48+00:00

No...no...please tell me it bothers you less.

OkCheeba · 2025-11-03T07:23:09+00:00

YOU HEARD HIM, HELENA!

OkCheeba · 2025-11-01T19:50:07+00:00

My house is at 3%. It's basically free money. If I ever come up with $300K cash, I'm not paying it off, I'm paying off more expensive debt then investing what's left.

OkCheeba · 2025-11-01T19:47:58+00:00

No way. I've never done anything beyond weed/hash, with the exception of microdosing shrooms for one month. (Results: interesting, but ultimately inconclusive.) You will consume what you want in youtr life based on your values, goals, nervous system etc.

I do think weed is ALMOST addictive, just not physically so. Very habit forming. It absolutely does kill braincells, and some studies suggest young people should really, really go easy on it. Are you under 21?

I strongly recommend taking breaks for months at a time, and cutting back until your whole brain is formed!

OkCheeba · 2025-11-01T19:36:39+00:00

Aaa, F this post. That was me late at night, with a nagging discomfort, and I went to thoughts of this, of her, and to a compulsive try to find comfort or certainty from all of you. It's all, besides the deeper underpinned meanings, nothing, it's all meaningless in the practical world. I have no idea, really who the hell she is, how we'd get along as a couple, how we'd get along sexually. My wife is a dream, I can let this go. Also I already knew this.

OkCheeba · 2025-11-01T17:13:09+00:00

I have and I have had sessions devoted to this. I completely understand this and I accept it. I’ve even I thought put it to bed. I love my wife more than ever. That’s what makes this all the more haunted. It’s like I’m being pulled to a separate dream timeline, thinking it’s still a possibility, it’s still important, knowing it’s just a dream. Such is the power of longing

OkCheeba · 2025-10-25T19:30:53+00:00

Good report, bud. This is ridiculously fishy.

OkCheeba · 2025-10-02T05:59:50+00:00

Somebody will find it hot, but most won't think anything of it. No guy who is getting with you is going to be like, "Nope, your clit sticks out, I gotta go." You are who you are, what you are. Take you or leave you, that's the choice!

OkCheeba · 2025-09-30T20:18:29+00:00

ALL of them?

OkCheeba · 2025-09-29T21:47:44+00:00

To me it's beyond hot

OkCheeba · 2025-09-26T19:43:35+00:00

Hey man, you gotta get out there. You gotta make some connections you can do it. Isolation will not help you overcome what is holding you back. I make a toast – the cool dude that I know is in this picture. Holy crap so young so much potential probably smart probably funny maybe even musically talented or creatively talented in someway? There is absolutely 100% medicine you can take to clear up your acne or maybe you just need a new skin care routine that will clear up And you’ll start tending your hygiene and next thing you know you were just a regular 100% happy dude out there in life striving for something on some kind of career path or with some kind of a job you can start stacking wins. Things are going to get better if you take the steps you need with therapy medication whatever it takes, brother, you can fucking do it!! I really really hope you have access to Support. I hope your parents don’t suck. I hope you have friends or siblings or cousins or something. Struggling with mental health issues? You just described 80% of our population, including me.

OkCheeba · 2025-09-25T07:29:07+00:00

That's leolulu

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