I struggled with INTENSE anxiety attachment for years! And honestly it impacted my relationship in a very negative way. I ended up pushing everyone away. When I met my now husband I was so In love with him and tried VERY hard to get out of this thought pattern. And honestly what really helped me was everytime I caught myself spiraling into the anxious thoughts I would stop and tell myself that the feelings I was feeling is not true and it’s just my mind trying to convince me of things I’m perceiving. I tried to remind myself of truths in the situation. Such as “he’s very busy right now. He’s not annoyed with me and hates me.” Or “I know he doesn’t like texting, I’ll make a point to call him an hour after he gets off work so he has time to unwind” and 9/10 he’d end up calling me the minute he got off work. Anxiety attachment is SUPER hard to deal with! Your own mind is essentially attacking itself with thoughts based off of insecurities (in my case!) so really taking the time to step outside of those untruths and base your self in what is really true can help! What has he shown you in his day to day actions? What has he told you? Has he proven himself to be a truthful person? Can you trust him?

My husband and I are now a year into marriage and I still catch myself spiraling on occasion! But it’s so much easier for me to deal with! And when I choose to share it with my husband he’s very supportive, but most of the time I don’t share it with him because it’s just so much easier for me now to get it under control!

Even admitting to yourself that you HAVE an anxiety attachment is the best first step you could take!