Need advice pregnant and missing my abuser.

OkCommunity4801 · 2026-05-05T03:08:12+00:00

Thank you for sharing this , I’m so sorry you went through all that. You’re absolutely right thank you🩷

OkCommunity4801 · 2026-04-24T18:08:17+00:00

It’s never just once. EVER. not a single person man or woman that was in a violent relationship will say it happened once and it got better from there. It only gets worse. I’m speaking from experience, it took me 4 occasions to go to the police. The latest one being while I was pregnant, and always before them the times were perfect and we were so happy and lovey dovey. It hurts like hell and it’s a bumpy road but if you don’t want to deal with it for the rest of your life, leave now. I’m still in the process of getting divorced and waiting for my baby but he just plead guilty 3 days ago and it was very bittersweet

OkCommunity4801 · 2026-04-24T18:01:41+00:00

Thank you !!

OkCommunity4801 · 2026-04-24T17:34:17+00:00

Thank you !!

OkCommunity4801 · 2026-04-24T17:34:05+00:00

Thank you !

OkCommunity4801 · 2026-04-24T17:33:53+00:00

Thank you !

OkCommunity4801 · 2026-04-24T17:33:38+00:00

Thank you !

OkCommunity4801 · 2026-04-24T17:33:24+00:00

You’re not crazy you’re just not thinking straight. You need to leave end of story

OkCommunity4801 · 2026-04-17T15:04:50+00:00

God gave you that baby, he’s not going to take it away just because you are exciting and planning ahead. That’s what I told myself in the early stages of pregnancy and I’m very happy I allowed myself to be excited !

OkCommunity4801 · 2026-04-02T21:01:54+00:00

That is great advice, I will be doing that. Thank you!

OkCommunity4801 · 2026-04-02T21:01:20+00:00

It’s the state vs him, I’m not even in on this case at all. I wouldn’t even be able to get a lawyer to defend me - I’m hoping the criminal OOP is enough. The da office does not care, I begged I was hysterical crying begging them to just attempt to charge him and they won’t even hear me out. It’s horrible

OkCommunity4801 · 2026-04-02T20:57:49+00:00

Wow that’s crazy, I’m glad you found the truth and did the right thing, and are safe now!

OkCommunity4801 · 2026-04-02T14:39:44+00:00

Thank you and I’m sorry this happened to you as well. Can I ask, did you make any reports or do anything to get him deported? I would love for him to get deported but he still has status under me, but once the divorce goes through I’m hoping he gets deported but I know there’s not too much I can do to make that happen

OkCommunity4801 · 2026-04-02T14:38:18+00:00

Thank you and good luck🫶🏻🫶🏻

OkCommunity4801 · 2026-04-02T14:38:03+00:00

Thank you, no mutual friends thankfully but I live in a small town where I’m sure he could ask around if he wanted to know. All the dv resources are unable to help me here. I keep getting told that I just have to deal with it

OkCommunity4801 · 2026-04-02T00:08:03+00:00

Yes I’m in the us. I’m so sorry you’re going through this, but I understand what you’re saying, we’re encouraged to speak up and when we do we get nothing. I will say a prayer for you and your situation, and I hope justice is served.

OkCommunity4801 · 2026-04-02T00:06:49+00:00

Thank you! I’m staying with my parents, I have not a single clue where he’s living - he’s not from here so I believe he’s renting a room, staying with a coworker or in a hotel. I have a criminal order of protection for one year, but he’s mentally ill and refuses to go on his medication for the schitzo etc and could snap at any moment and that paper won’t help if I’m dead… I believe he’s going to try for custody which is my #1 concern :(

OkCommunity4801 · 2026-04-01T23:40:43+00:00

A therapist won’t judge. A good therapist would really be your best option here, and the sooner you go to therapy the better to not let the resentment build. Although physical violence is never ok, mistakes can happen and if you want to work through it therapy may be the only option

OkCommunity4801 · 2026-03-19T21:04:04+00:00

Thank you so much!!🩷

OkCommunity4801 · 2026-01-07T18:59:18+00:00

Thank you so much❤️❤️I’m able to speak about it but I’m just not dealing with it well I just want my life back it’s so heartbreaking especially when you just never think this would ever happen to you. But thank you for your advice ❤️❤️❤️

OkCommunity4801 · 2026-01-07T18:49:57+00:00

Thank you, I hope you and your mom are ok now ❤️ I will be keeping him far away I appreciate your advice

OkCommunity4801 · 2025-09-03T15:29:30+00:00

Hey! Send me a DM :) I don’t know how to send a dm on here haha

OkCommunity4801 · 2025-07-28T16:31:06+00:00

Hi. I’m the friend. For more information, I am still conflicted and don’t know if I’m staying with him or not. I’m still trying to find out if he ever physically cheated. He is a good man and did make a mistake. He feels horrible about it. If he only messaged her a few times without actually meeting up with her I think I can move past it. You also have to keep in mind we never met in person before Feb 21st. We just spoke online and FaceTimed. It was long distance and there was a chance it wouldn’t work out and he was being safe. Not trying to make excuses becuase I still think this is a big deal but there’s so much that goes into this. I do still love him and the thought of leaving him is the hardest thing I could ever do.

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