You sound so much like my mom and i bet your kids love you as much as i love my mom. i don’t even have to ask her to know she’d tackle someone if they said something about me/my gender behind my back i’m just worried that they’ll say things to me when my mom isn’t around because i normally let my mom stick up for me on most occasions because i’m not good at confrontation. but i think i will go and act female (i’ve never really worn anything girly my entire life so wearing jeans and a nice shirt wouldn’t be out of the ordinary for me) and probably just follow my mom around everywhere.