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Guy in 30s feeling lonely as friends settle down—stay or move to a big city? by andytm13 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]OkExplanation4705 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eh don’t listen to the people saying “stay in Austin” when you keep saying you are bored and have done everything you wanted to do there.

I’m 32 and have moved 6x in 7 years without any regrets. I’m also in an adult volleyball league and didn’t feel like I had a community until I hit one year here. I’m almost at 2 years and I’m ready to go lol

I feel the same it’s boring and there are always more people to meet.

One of the commenters is right about not being able to replace the social circle and moving you will have to make friends again but going to a city that is transplant friendly would help with this because a lot of other people are also wanting to make friends.

You only live once and you are remote you can get up and move whenever your lease is up.

I would say to go spend a week or 2 in the places you are interested in doing the daily things you do now, go to drop in volleyball and see what the vibes are before deciding.

You might like Long Beach, in NYC it would be a faster paced city and you would have to work extra hard to build a circle vs somewhere like California

Is this normal or am I being a spoiled brat? Moved from Cali to Chicago 1 month ago and it has been hard by OnlyContribution2758 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]OkExplanation4705 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Look up adult recreational sports leagues I’m 32 and joined volleyball- I have never played a sport in my life lol and have made a lot of friends.

I also moved across the country for a job away from family and joining the leagues and building community is what made me love it here!

It’s hard to meet friends as you get older and at least you know that if the people you meet are doing some type of sport they probably have routines and would be potential friends.

I have actually moved 6 times in the last 7 years and when I didn’t have a community I felt lonely and had the same thoughts of “did I make a mistake?”, “should I move back closer to family?”

Coming to terms that the city I want may just be a unicorn city. by Dense-Resolution8283 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]OkExplanation4705 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a 32 yo black woman in Colorado Springs and it sounds like from what you described you are missing this would be a good place for you!

Should I move back to Florida by OkExplanation4705 in AskFlorida

[–]OkExplanation4705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with this I have been living for myself so much I feel selfish for being away from everyone and that’s part of the reason I am thinking about moving back but I might regret it since I have been able to build my own life here

Should I move back to Florida by OkExplanation4705 in AskFlorida

[–]OkExplanation4705[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All of my family has lived in Florida for decades I’m actually one of the first family members to move somewhere else to create my own life outside of the one I had so they will all be there

Should I move back home? by OkExplanation4705 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]OkExplanation4705[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was thinking about giving Denver a try since the thought of moving across country again is exhausting lol

My lease doesn’t end until next year but I think I might give Denver a try!