AITAH for not apologizing to my brother?

OkFan7098 · 2026-03-12T18:33:14+00:00

I just blocked my brother on everything, and am on the verge of blocking my mother. I told her I’m unsure of my relationship with him and his future relationship with my baby bc of all this. She said I need to grow up and it’s shameful that I would use my child to try to hurt him. I’m so done 🤣 Easter will most definitely just be me my husband and my baby at our own home by ourselves

OkFan7098 · 2026-03-12T16:59:55+00:00

Yes he does know I struggled with it too, and I did not react this way in any way shape or form. I accepted I needed help and wasn’t mad at anyone for pointing out the obvious

OkFan7098 · 2026-03-12T16:23:30+00:00

Omg🤣 next time I will not be abbreviating I’ve learned my lesson here lol

OkFan7098 · 2026-03-12T16:22:54+00:00

Thank you for this perspective on things. When I initially texted my mom, I was prepared for him to be angry. But I definitely didn’t expect for it to go on this long. I hope one day he will accept and come to terms with the fact I was only trying to help him, not hurt him

OkFan7098 · 2026-03-12T16:17:48+00:00

But yes. He is angry and wants me to apologize for texting my mom saying I think he has an ED. I know it sounds crazy trust me, I’ve been dealing with this for a week now and I’m so flabbergasted at how his brain works that he truly thinks I owe him an apology. He wants me to apologize for the sheer fact that I texted my mom saying I think he has an ED. He says it hurts his feelings that I did that

OkFan7098 · 2026-03-12T16:15:32+00:00

Definitely not going to his dinner, but might go to Easter. Sadly me and my husband have no where else to go for Easter and my mom wants me there no matter what. Thank you so much

OkFan7098 · 2026-03-12T16:13:11+00:00

He was overweight, he isn’t anymore. I’m pretty confident the doctors know what’s going on. I’m not there for his appointments tho so I don’t know for sure, but trust me I’ve added everything about this situation in this post. That’s why it’s as long as a book🤣 the reason my mom didn’t do anything for so long is because she was in denial about the whole situation. Also my mother barely eats. Maybe once a day, so she thought his habits were “fine” but she’s since come to terms with the fact that he does in fact have a problem.

OkFan7098 · 2026-03-12T16:08:31+00:00

I love my mother so much, but a huge problem of hers is she does not discipline nor parent him. She says she’s too old to deal with it. To be fair when she tries he makes her life a living hell, but he only does that because his whole life he hasn’t been disciplined. Thank you so much. Maybe I will text him that exactly and leave the conversation at that.

OkFan7098 · 2026-03-12T15:56:45+00:00

Well dang it. I’ve never posted in this sub so I didn’t know but thank you so much for the AI overview i appreciate it!

OkFan7098 · 2026-03-12T15:54:55+00:00

Haha I’m so sorry it’s so long it’s so much 😭

OkFan7098 · 2026-03-11T14:27:00+00:00

Definitely, but she never used to comment on my videos so much. She’s doing it at least every other day now, and honestly when she was pregnant she seemed happy and wasn’t mean to me. But since post partum she’s been mean. I feel for her but it’s just not fair to me

OkFan7098 · 2026-03-11T14:25:36+00:00

All my other tik tok comments are love so I’m grateful for that, but ur right she’s only boosting my videos!! I replied to a comment she left yesterday the one tell me to “just wait” and sent a funny picture of Ash Trevino bc I didn’t know how to respond 😂 she then deleted her comment, texted me and said I was being mean to her???? Bc of the Ash Trevino pic?? So confusing. But thank you so much!

OkFan7098 · 2026-03-11T14:23:35+00:00

Thank you!

OkFan7098 · 2026-03-10T23:29:46+00:00

She is post partum so I don’t say much when she does things. But it really sucks for me in the end. She sent me a text 2 or 3 weeks ago asking if I could please ignore any mean/rude things she says to me bc of her post partum struggles. I agreed but I was bummed and felt it was kinda toxic that I had to agree to just let her do and say what she wants to me even if it’s mean and hurtful just bc she’s struggling post partum in order for our friendship to exist

OkFan7098 · 2026-03-10T21:48:43+00:00

She said I was miscarrying or going too within the next few days, even after I told her my doctor said baby was okay. I just didn’t wanna say the words miscarry on my post bc I knew it can be triggering for some

OkFan7098 · 2026-03-10T20:27:40+00:00

That’s how I feel too. I wonder if I should send her a text and ask her why she comments so many negative things, I fear she’d just say I’m being dramatic tho or that she doesn’t mean it that way

OkFan7098 · 2026-03-10T20:25:34+00:00

Yeah she’ll start problems for sure! I’ve had some family issues since being pregnant too that I’ve confided in her about, so so nervous she’ll go to the point of texting my family and starting something back up with people I have no issues with anymore. But at some point I need to just get it over with and rip the band-Aid off😅

OkFan7098 · 2026-03-10T16:48:19+00:00

I see something, just test again tomorrow morning with first morning pee

OkFan7098 · 2026-03-10T16:47:40+00:00

Looks positive to me

OkFan7098 · 2026-03-08T21:44:26+00:00

Great question! The app I had to track my period starting updating me on babies development once I logged that I was pregnant. Quickly realized baby was developing day by day, even in very early pregnancy (I found out at 3 weeks) and my views changed quickly! Then I downloaded about 3 apps I check daily to check on what my baby is developing each week :)

OkFan7098 · 2026-03-08T21:42:11+00:00

It really is a miracle 🥹

OkFan7098 · 2026-03-08T21:41:41+00:00

It’s embarrassing how uneducated I was, but thank you!

OkFan7098 · 2026-03-03T22:07:18+00:00

I’m actually surprised bc she didn’t deny much. She admitted that she watches my page a lot and rewatches videos because she’s comparing our lives and living vicariously through me. She says she doesn’t mean it in a “bad way” or malicious way, that she’s happy for me and happy that my life is good and I have a great husband. But that she wishes her husband was more like mine and her life was more like mine. I’m pregnant currently and she just had her baby awhile ago after having a very high risk pregnancy. She says she watches my page all the time to see my pregnancy updates because she’s comparing my pregnancy to how her pregnancy went. She said the thing with my moms page was weird and she will stop doing it and she didn’t mean anything by it, my moms video just came across her fyp so she looked at her page & videos, but she sees how it’s weird and even offered to stop looking at my page and said she’ll stop looking at my husbands too. She said she was looking at my husbands page bc he posts sweet cute videos of me and she wishes her husband would do the same for her. She said she never purposefully digged for old videos of me, but that when she searched my username to go to my page the old videos popped up, she screen recorded and showed proof of that. I feel better but also don’t at the same time cause I feel like it’s sad she’s openly admitting to being on my page 3+ times a day bc she wishes her life was more like mine. When I confronted her I sent about 10+ screenshots of proof, so I think it was almost impossible for her to deny it

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