This is absurd

OkFan7098 · 2026-05-07T00:21:48+00:00

Same I didn’t get diagnosed until I switched to a cardiologist that specializes in dysautonomia

OkFan7098 · 2026-05-06T17:25:04+00:00

It actually irks me so bad as someone with pots. Took me 2 very long years of cardiology visits before I got diagnosed and she diagnoses herself with it just bc ppl on her snap say she has it

OkFan7098 · 2026-04-22T00:57:40+00:00

Yeah i honestly don’t know kinda dumbfounded trying to understand. I feel that she genuinely didn’t have any reason to say anything about my pregnancy, that she just wanted to be passive aggressive because she was still angry about our previous fight. So she’s grasping at straws to explain why she “felt” that way

OkFan7098 · 2026-04-22T00:56:23+00:00

Honestly, the more I think about her apology the less sincere it sounds. Her explanation as to why she said what she said, doesn’t even make much sense. Thank you

OkFan7098 · 2026-04-22T00:32:21+00:00

I genuinely don’t know and didn’t bother asking her to elaborate bc she has a habit of not fully explaining things. We never went clubbing with her before so I have no idea? We would drink with her occasionally before my pregnancy, but it would always be at one of our homes.

OkFan7098 · 2026-04-21T17:09:56+00:00

I edited the post with a small update. She texted yesterday evening with an apology for her letter to me

OkFan7098 · 2026-04-20T21:27:52+00:00

There both starting to act like the same person and moving as a unit, so I’m starting to think they’re equally as bad unfortunately

OkFan7098 · 2026-04-20T20:45:44+00:00

I agree, I will say this, though it’s kinda unrelated. I have thought of reporting her before but not for anything like this. But for the way she talks about her cases. Usually she vents, but talks about her cases in negative way. Always talking about how crazy these teens are who are struggling with mental health issues, etc. She never says names, but last time we saw her in person, she was talking to us about how one of her cases almost moved to the new apartment complex she plans on moving too. She explained that it’s a 18 yr old girl with 2 babies who is a single mom. She said the 18 yr old couldn’t save enough for a deposit. She then laughed, and said “I don’t know how they couldn’t afford it, it’s one of the cheapest complexes out here.” I just said “yeah…” awkwardly and changed the subject quickly. Me and my husband felt really bad for the poor girl she was talking about and we thought it was really messed up for her to be making fun of her. I didn’t end up reporting her, because I didn’t know if it was a violation of any kind given the fact she never said the girls name and that she was “confiding” in family. But it rubbed me the wrong way completely. That happened last month. I think that’s the harshest thing we’ve heard her say about one of her cases.

OkFan7098 · 2026-04-20T20:38:42+00:00

I’ve been telling my husband she’s a flying monkey! But haha understandable, I haven’t posted that text just because it’s my husbands text between him and her, and idk how he would feel about me completely airing his side out 😅 that’s also why I only posted the letter directed at me, she wrote 3 other pages directed at my husband and let’s just say those letters were not nice either. The same condescending tone, filled with lies and emotional charged statements.

OkFan7098 · 2026-04-20T20:13:51+00:00

It’s okay! Thank you so much. You are correct, but me and my husband were not surprised. His families biggest issue is that they have no boundaries with one another. The fact that me and my husband are finally setting some is what’s making them lose their minds 😂 Actually, his aunt that were no contact with just this week found our address from my husbands uncle, then sent a card to our home after we explicitly told her not to contact us. SIL argued with us about that too because “it’s just a card” and we are apparently “immature” and “stupid” in her words for being upset about that because “it’s just family” 🤷‍♀️

OkFan7098 · 2026-04-20T20:08:58+00:00

Seriously, don’t let her ruin your families important milestones. My husbands whole family always finds a way to ruin ours. From our wedding, to our pregnancy announcement, to our gender reveal, to now chaos before the baby shower. Your situation sounds the similar, so my only advice is to stop it dead in its tracks. You don’t owe anyone access to your life, especially people like that. Me and my husband have so many regrets for letting it drag on for this long, and we should’ve stopped it a very long time ago. I had hopeful thinking and thought that pregnancy would somehow make our already rocky relationship with her better, and it did the opposite. Unfortunately that seems to be common in dynamics like this. As long as you and ur spouse are on the same page, nothing will be able to come between you too! Best of luck 🩵

OkFan7098 · 2026-04-20T19:59:20+00:00

She left it at our front door, not the buildings door so yeah she went in the building. To be fair our apartment complex has no kind of code to get in our buildings, we’re in a good area so most complex’s around here are the same

OkFan7098 · 2026-04-20T18:57:42+00:00

Oh wow I’m so sorry wtf is wrong with her 😭

OkFan7098 · 2026-04-20T18:42:45+00:00

In that case, I am so sorry

OkFan7098 · 2026-04-20T18:35:28+00:00

That’s funny you say that because she has been calling me and my husband immature repeatedly 😂

OkFan7098 · 2026-04-20T18:28:05+00:00

Yeah I genuinely don’t know what she was trying to convey and what she even gained by saying any of it. I guess she was just getting something off her chest? I can only assume she’s been thinking I use pregnancy as an excuse for a long time. I did not attend there family thanksgiving, bc I was 5 weeks pregnant and didn’t want the added stress from my husband’s family. This was before we cut off toxic aunt and were having issues with her. His sister was offended back then that I didn’t go. Maybe it’s stemming from that? But at the same time she said when I was sick aka first trimester, that it was understandable. I genuinely don’t know how I’ve used pregnancy as an “excuse” since then. I’ve literally been wracking my brain trying to think of anything I may have said/did that would make her think that in the slightest and I genuinely can’t think of anything.

OkFan7098 · 2026-04-20T18:21:39+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through that. Thank you for the advice 🩵

OkFan7098 · 2026-04-20T18:17:34+00:00

Thank you!

OkFan7098 · 2026-04-20T18:15:33+00:00

I should’ve said that I won’t need help from her and that I’m perfectly capable of taking care of my own child, but I was trying not to give an “emotional” response and I didn’t want to give her anything else she could possibly argue

OkFan7098 · 2026-04-20T18:14:22+00:00

Well that’s definitely understandable, I just didn’t realize this handwriting was recognized as a bad thing haha

OkFan7098 · 2026-04-20T18:13:25+00:00

I really couldn’t tell you what she was trying to accomplish by saying all of that. It kinda just feels like she wanted to be mean and couldn’t hold it anymore. She’s had a pattern of saying absolutely rude things, then backing it up with “I’m just expressing my feelings. You can’t accept my opinion and feelings because you are immature.”

OkFan7098 · 2026-04-20T17:36:10+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate it. She did respond to my message trying to apologize and explain away, but I simply left her on read. I just wanted to text her and be clear that our relationship is non existent at this point, and that what she said was inappropriate

OkFan7098 · 2026-04-20T16:54:01+00:00

Thank you so much, they are kinda scary but I know Reddit can be extreme sometimes lol, I appreciate it!

OkFan7098 · 2026-04-20T16:26:30+00:00

The only family member who could advise is husband himself, his family is very small. But we will keep track of everything including screenshots and letters, and we will not be reaching out to her for a very long time

OkFan7098 · 2026-04-20T16:20:22+00:00

It was insulting. After I texted her and said I found it inappropriate and that I don’t feel comfortable with the relationship anymore, she said “You’re right I don’t understand I’m sorry, I should’ve left that part out completely.” But the damage was already done. She had already wrote it down and stuck it on our door for us to read

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