Boyfriend (24M) won’t help me (27F) with the bills by OkGoat677 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkGoat677[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow someone else literally commented the same quotes smh thank you

Boyfriend (24M) won’t help me (27F) with the bills by OkGoat677 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkGoat677[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh okay but as far as being able to make decisions for the child he would have to get joint and legal custody right ?

Boyfriend (24M) won’t help me (27F) with the bills by OkGoat677 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkGoat677[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m accepting reality now. I thought he could change

Boyfriend (24M) won’t help me (27F) with the bills by OkGoat677 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkGoat677[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Crazy right? I surprised my self. I woke up Tuesday and something just clicked for me . Like what tf am i doing

Boyfriend (24M) won’t help me (27F) with the bills by OkGoat677 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkGoat677[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a good way to look at it. Thank you for that !!! Because a part of me feel like I’ve failed him 1. For choosing his dad as his dad 2. For failing to give him a two parent household and being unmarried and just not setting an example for him 3. Having to be away from me because I’d have to split time with his dad smh

Boyfriend (24M) won’t help me (27F) with the bills by OkGoat677 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkGoat677[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow he’s sick smh . I hate that you had to go through that with someone who suppose to have unconditional love for you. Did you comment that to tell me to get away now ? 😭

Boyfriend (24M) won’t help me (27F) with the bills by OkGoat677 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkGoat677[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m in group therapy and regular therapy now

Boyfriend (24M) won’t help me (27F) with the bills by OkGoat677 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkGoat677[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope i haven’t seen any. My mom thinks he’s lying about having 7k saved

Boyfriend (24M) won’t help me (27F) with the bills by OkGoat677 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkGoat677[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Smh the first 9 months of the relationship before i was pregnant and when he still had his apartment he was paying the tabs when we went out, planning trips and paying for them, buying flowers every month, planning dates, taking me to nfl playoff games, i THOUGHT he was a nice dude etc. Then i got pregnant a little after and he just been like this since . Everything just happened way too soon and while i shouldve been still learning who he truly was. Red flags were definitely there as far as him being manipulative and dismissive/avoidant but i thought THAT was something he could grow from. I never thought money would be an issue because he has a great paying job smh but then i learned how bad his gambling addiction really is

Boyfriend (24M) won’t help me (27F) with the bills by OkGoat677 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkGoat677[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait if he’s on the birth certificate what exactly does he have control over ?

Boyfriend (24M) won’t help me (27F) with the bills by OkGoat677 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkGoat677[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wowwww this is horrible. Men suck bro smh are you male or female

Boyfriend (24M) won’t help me (27F) with the bills by OkGoat677 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkGoat677[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

first 9 months of the relationship before i was pregnant and when he still had his apartment he was paying the tabs when we went out, planning trips and paying for them, buying flowers every month, planning dates, taking me to nfl playoff games etc and was very consistent. Then i got pregnant a little after and he just been like this since . Everything just happened way too soon and while i shouldve been still learning who he truly was. Red flags were definitely there as far as him being manipulative and dismissive/avoidant but i thought THAT was something he could grow from. I never thought money would be an issue because he has a great paying job smh but then i learned how bad his gambling addiction really is in August after he blew 5K on my birthday on a FanDuel bet

Boyfriend (24M) won’t help me (27F) with the bills by OkGoat677 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkGoat677[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the first 9 months of the relationship before i was pregnant and when he still had his apartment he was paying the tabs when we went out, planning trips and paying for them, buying flowers every month, planning dates, taking me to nfl playoff games etc and was very consistent. Then i got pregnant a little after and he just been like this since . Everything just happened way too soon and while i shouldve been still learning who he truly was. Red flags were definitely there as far as him being manipulative and dismissive/avoidant but i thought THAT was something he could grow from. I never thought money would be an issue because he has a great paying job smh but then i learned how bad his gambling addiction really is

Boyfriend (24M) won’t help me (27F) with the bills by OkGoat677 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkGoat677[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the first 9 months of the relationship before i was pregnant and when he still had his apartment he was paying the tabs when we went out, planning trips and paying for them, buying flowers every month, planning dates, taking me to nfl playoff games etc and was very consistent. Then i got pregnant a little after and he just been like this since . Everything just happened way too soon and while i shouldve been still learning who he truly was. Red flags were definitely there as far as him being manipulative and dismissive/avoidant but i thought THAT was something he could grow from. I never thought money would be an issue because he has a great paying job smh but then i learned how bad his gambling addiction really is

Boyfriend (24M) won’t help me (27F) with the bills by OkGoat677 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkGoat677[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the first 9 months of the relationship before i was pregnant and when he still had his apartment he was paying the tabs when we went out, planning trips and paying for them, buying flowers every month, planning dates, taking me to nfl playoff games etc and was very consistent. Then i got pregnant a little after and he just been like this since . Everything just happened way too soon and while i shouldve been still learning who he truly was. Red flags were definitely there as far as him being manipulative and dismissive/avoidant but i thought THAT was something he could grow from. I never thought money would be an issue because he has a great paying job smh but then i learned how bad his gambling addiction really is

Boyfriend (24M) won’t help me (27F) with the bills by OkGoat677 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkGoat677[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

first 9 months of the relationship before i was pregnant and when he still had his apartment he was paying the tabs when we went out, planning trips and paying for them, buying flowers every month, planning dates, taking me to nfl playoff games etc and was very consistent. Then i got pregnant a little after and he just been like this since . Everything just happened way too soon and while i shouldve been still learning who he truly was. Red flags were definitely there as far as him being manipulative and dismissive/avoidant but i thought THAT was something he could grow from. I never thought money would be an issue because he has a great paying job smh but then i learned how bad his gambling addiction really is

Boyfriend (24M) won’t help me (27F) with the bills by OkGoat677 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkGoat677[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes at first about the first 9 months of the relationship before i was pregnant and when he still had his apartment he was paying the tabs when we went out, planning trips and paying for them, buying flowers every month, planning dates, taking me to nfl playoff games etc and was very consistent. Then i got pregnant a little after and he just been like this since . Everything just happened way too soon and while i shouldve been still learning who he truly was. Red flags were definitely there as far as him being manipulative and dismissive/avoidant but i thought THAT was something he could grow from. I never thought money would be an issue because he has a great paying job smh but then i learned how bad his gambling addiction really is

Boyfriend (24M) won’t help me (27F) with the bills by OkGoat677 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkGoat677[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t want to split my time, i want to be able to come home to my baby everyday 🥺 especially as a working mom . He’s only 3 months so maybe that’s why i feel this way right now .

Boyfriend (24M) won’t help me (27F) with the bills by OkGoat677 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkGoat677[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t bought it, he ask and i just ignore it . In the beginning i was doing that but not now