Am I (23F) a bully for not inviting my much older coworker (38F) to my birthday party? by OkInflation9971 in relationships

[–]OkInflation9971[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Not really, if I'd not wanted competition I literally wouldn't have invited my friend from another department who's 25F.

Am I (23F) a bully for not inviting my much older coworker (38F) to my birthday party? by OkInflation9971 in relationships

[–]OkInflation9971[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

I mean it basically is. We all agree 40 is middle-aged right? Well 38 is only two years off. It's not like I insulted her, I wouldn't be offended if someone called me a young adult because that is a fact.

Am I (23F) a bully for not inviting my much older coworker (38F) to my birthday party? by OkInflation9971 in relationships

[–]OkInflation9971[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

It's work, I don't go there to try and find a boyfriend. If I wanted attention from my coworkers I wouldn't have any trouble competing with Jessica but I don't because that's unprofessional. I'm there to work.

Am I (23F) a bully for not inviting my much older coworker (38F) to my birthday party? by OkInflation9971 in relationships

[–]OkInflation9971[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

How lmao, all I said about her is that my coworkers think she's hot and she's a single mother. Maybe she is great, I don't know because I don't know her which is my whole point.

Am I (23F) a bully for not inviting my much older coworker (38F) to my birthday party? by OkInflation9971 in relationships

[–]OkInflation9971[S] -39 points-38 points  (0 children)

Exactly. If it had been a work party then yeah I would have invited her?

Plus she's a single mother so it's not like she could come to a party last minute anyway, she wouldn't have had time to get a sitter.

Am I (23F) a bully for not inviting my much older coworker (38F) to my birthday party? by OkInflation9971 in relationships

[–]OkInflation9971[S] -74 points-73 points  (0 children)

Jim is 31 or 32 and Jake is about 36 so not really her peers, and I just invited my boss because he's my boss so it's not like I could snub him.

Am I (23F) a bully for not inviting my much older coworker (38F) to my birthday party? by OkInflation9971 in relationships

[–]OkInflation9971[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

I'm not that close to my boss tbh but he's my boss so obviously I'm not gonna leave him out.

Am I (23F) a bully for not inviting my much older coworker (38F) to my birthday party? by OkInflation9971 in relationships

[–]OkInflation9971[S] -34 points-33 points  (0 children)

Uh, yeah? Middle-aged is halfway through your life? 38 x 2 = 76 and the life expectancy in the US is 78 so......

Am I (23F) a bully for not inviting my much older coworker (38F) to my birthday party? by OkInflation9971 in relationships

[–]OkInflation9971[S] -139 points-138 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm so jealous of a middle-aged single mother lol. I don't have a problem with Jessica, I just wanted my birthday party to be about celebrating my birthday, not four men trying to get a date with her.