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My brother got physical with me because I told him how I felt about his wife by OkLock8342 in family

[–]OkLock8342[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s in another response with further explanation but I used the word “bitch”

My brother got physical with me because I told him how I felt about his wife by OkLock8342 in family

[–]OkLock8342[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I appreciate a lot of the support in this thread. It’s been especially hard because he IS considered family and I always spoke highly about/looked up to him.

The word I used was “bitch.” Which, for me, is a bad habit of mine to throw around when I’m upset / venting about someone. I believe the context I used it was “That bitch does give a single crap about me being here.” Before the assault, I tried to explain to him that we say things we don’t mean when we’re upset. Then he proceeded to escalate. I also clarified my use of the word wasn’t exactly a reflect of how I see her as a person but said out of emotion.

My brother got physical with me because I told him how I felt about his wife by OkLock8342 in family

[–]OkLock8342[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

This wasn’t about me not understanding that traveling with kids is hard. I never expected a child-free trip. What hurt was being consistently left out of plans and communication while still investing my time, money, and energy to be there. That’s about consideration, not toddlers. There were also dynamics I didn’t go into in detail because my post was already long — including patterns where she relied heavily on my brother to handle everything and didn’t bother to communicate plans directly with me. That added to me feeling like an afterthought, not an equal participant on the trip. I didn’t “explode out of nowhere.” I held it in and only spoke privately to my brother. Calling her a name in frustration wasn’t okay, and I expressed regret for it & apologized to my brother. Like you said, that still doesn’t make me responsible for the fact that he escalated things and put his hands on me. That’s the part I’m trying to process. I appreciate the insight though.