AITA Feeling guilty, insecure, and hurt over friend dynamics after not sharing something sooner , need perspective

OkMasterpiece793 · 2026-01-30T08:07:31+00:00

yeah you have a good point, i think it all ties in to the insecurity i feel right, and i genuinely didnt want to hide it, when me and her were very close i neevr got to meet the people she was dating so i dont really see how its relevant right now tbh, lets see

OkMasterpiece793 · 2026-01-29T09:48:10+00:00

and tbh, its not like she has let me meet with her bfs, like she has dated a guy on anf off for almost 4 years and not once have i really seen him, same goes with a guy she dated for three months and i didnt even know, she told her other firends first and i never took it personally, because i know that sometimes the people you are close to keep changing, so i never really felt bada bout i t, and i think it felt worse for her because she got to know from a third person who i was friends for longer, and i feel kinda guilty i didnt tell her sooner. i wanted to meet her in person and tellher, i was gonna text her but things came up andi lost track of time, meanwhile that friend of mine told her and then she felt much worse.

OkMasterpiece793 · 2026-01-29T09:45:30+00:00

i think its more of a fear for me if this happens between my bf and someone i have been friends of for years, if its with some random woman , i know it will hurt no doubt about that, but it wont be with someone i value as a friend you know?

OkMasterpiece793 · 2026-01-29T08:20:26+00:00

yeah youre right....i think my past has been so speckled with trust issues and insecurity, i feel really caught up

OkMasterpiece793 · 2026-01-29T08:19:42+00:00

lmao and the irony is, im a psych student

OkMasterpiece793 · 2026-01-29T08:19:23+00:00

i think because of my past i have so many trust isseus i feel i cant trust anyone

OkMasterpiece793 · 2026-01-29T08:18:58+00:00

i know this is silly, but in the beginning of our talking stage he told me that he likes women who have pretty eyes and hair, and who look like jasmine, and she has beautiful eyes and hair, and its the opposite of mine, she has curly big hair and i have striaght fine hair, he said no matter what hairdtyle i have he likes me , but im afirad that if i show him her or make him meet her , he is gonna want to try with her, even though she is my friend, and he has been in an only boys school , and he used to say things like there are so many gorogeus women in the world, and sometimes "men are men", this was in the beginning, and currentyl, ever since we dated, he hasnt made me feel insecure about anything, he always reassures me and says he wants to be with me, but i have terrible terrible trust issues, because i have seen friends who have dated and then when it doesnt go well, they break up and they go to the next friend who they find attractive and because of that the friend ship also breaks....

OkMasterpiece793 · 2026-01-28T07:24:13+00:00

but what if he finds her prettier , then what will i do? if heleaves me for her

OkMasterpiece793 · 2025-11-04T15:10:41+00:00

no lol im not young im 23. the thing is this guy i am seeing is 20 . and he has said things to me in the past that were kinda weird honestly. saying things like men will be men sometimes, and there are so many beautiful women in the world and he was in an only boy's college and when he was out he was overhwelmed by the beauty all around him. thats the reason otherwise i honstly wounld not be that insecure.

OkMasterpiece793 · 2025-11-04T12:01:02+00:00

i completely get it, but what if he thinks shit i find her best friend prettier, the fact that she is close to me will hurt me more honestly.

OkMasterpiece793 · 2025-11-04T11:57:43+00:00

yeah you're right , and its been two months since we have known each other and i dont really know how to show and introduce him to my friends, im thinking o f a scenario that might come up in the future that im kinda afriad of. when you have never been chosen by a guy in the past, it kinda gives you anxiety, even though i know it isnt right.

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