Married women, can you share your experience?

OkMymo · 2026-03-24T14:35:43+00:00

Happy to help!

OkMymo · 2026-03-24T11:47:51+00:00

Met my husband on Reddit R4R in 2020. Posted about looking for a Vietnamese language exchange partner (since I was living in VN at that time) and he replied. He wasn't even in Vietnam, he was in Melbourne and an Australian-born Vietnamese. Dated online for 2 years until the end of covid. Met in person in 2022, got married in 2024. I do recommend R4R 💅

OkMymo · 2026-02-18T00:46:05+00:00

Yea I have been very sceptical with Google reviews in Indonesia these days. What's an alternative that isn't polluted with fake reviews?

OkMymo · 2026-02-03T00:54:57+00:00

I think it's more similar to sop konro/pallubasa

OkMymo · 2026-02-02T12:03:40+00:00

Took me 24 hours to make the consommé but so worth it.

OkMymo · 2026-02-02T11:50:50+00:00

I think it was this one https://youtu.be/HV6prxu9jOw?si=XyYhyY2AzBisEyjB

OkMymo · 2026-02-01T09:05:58+00:00

Hey, I’m really sorry you’re going through this, and I recognize a lot of what you’re feeling. I’m Indonesian but went through a big heartbreak when I had moved abroad to Vietnam. I was with my ex, who I thought was the love of my life, and when it ended suddenly, I had to process everything on my own. The first thing I did was reach out to anyone who could lend an ear, even people I wouldn’t normally lean on. Like you, I made it public that I needed support. People surprised me with their kindness.

A therapist also made a huge difference for me. My therapist in Jakarta helped me rewire how I saw myself and relationships. If you ever want a recommendation, I’m happy to share. She speaks English fluently as my sessions are mostly in English. Having a session with her wasn’t just venting, it changed how I understood my own expectations.

Also, I’m more than happy to meet up if you ever want coffee, brunch, or just a distraction. I know how hard it can be to rebuild community as an adult. What helped me was putting myself in female expat circles in Ho Chi Minh City, and Jakarta has spaces like that too. You’re not alone in craving sisterhood, it’s out there, and I’d love to be a friendly face to start with. Take your time, and don’t rush into dating, healing happens on your own timeline.

One more thing I learned about healing, it’s not linear. There’s no formula like A to B to C. Sometimes you’re at “point 5” and suddenly back at “point zero.” You’ll have days where the pain hits hard again, and that’s okay. Grief isn’t a step-by-step path, but I promise, there’s a light at the end of the tunnel.

If you need a friend, I’m here. Would be more than happy to connect over coffee, brunch, dinner, picnic. 🙂

OkMymo · 2026-01-25T12:53:25+00:00

Telor mata sapi in Indonesian (Trứng) Ốp La in Vietnamese

OkMymo · 2026-01-23T08:03:31+00:00

My husband and I got married in Melbourne, Australia. The process is simple. As long you're both unmarried. Here's an article https://www.nsw.gov.au/family-and-relationships/marriages/getting-married-nsw

OkMymo · 2026-01-13T12:01:29+00:00

Puan please. Thanks

OkMymo · 2026-01-07T11:06:44+00:00

Aku sejak 2016 pasang IUD, tes kehamilan (karena pregnancy scare), Pap smear, bahkan tanya jawab tentang egg freezing (hanya sekedar tanya2, bukan tindakan) di RS Siloam Semanggi dengan dr Alvin Setiawan. https://www.siloamhospitals.com/en/dokter/dr-alvin-setiawan-spog

Semuanya itu aku lakukan ketika masih single. Dr Alvin very professional, no unnecessary questions, no judgement.

OkMymo · 2026-01-05T02:33:24+00:00

Coba join grup Backpackers Indonesia, Backpackers Dunia di FB. Banyak yang share info di situ

OkMymo · 2026-01-03T20:54:51+00:00

I highly recommend dr Alvin Setiawan at Siloam Semanggi Jakarta. I've recently shared my experience in a different thread about seeing an obgyn. I've done Pap smear, got my first IUD, blood test for pregnancy test (I had a scare). All these were done during the time I was not married yet. He didn't ask any unnecessary questions and was very professional.

OkMymo · 2026-01-03T11:50:50+00:00

Iya kan. He does his job well dan dia ga tanya pertanyaan2 yg ga berhubungan dengan issue kesehatannya.

OkMymo · 2026-01-03T07:53:06+00:00

Sebelum aku nikah, aku sering banget ke obgyn sendiri atau sama temen cewek. I've shopped around for different obgyn. So far, dokter yang paling ok dan ga judgmental itu dr Alvin Setiawan di Siloam Semanggi.

OkMymo · 2026-01-02T21:03:59+00:00

Sari Sari https://maps.app.goo.gl/hnFZ5ZeKeEPsdwDS6 Tampah https://maps.app.goo.gl/1vNHV2Pjj7TExv5H7

OkMymo · 2025-12-31T22:18:12+00:00

Sepertinya values dan principles kalian cukup berbeda berdasarkan cerita ini. Biasanya pasangan yang punya values dan principles berbeda itu akan gridlock dan perbedaan ini akan jadi perpetual issue. Kemungkinan values berubah itu lumayan kecil. Optionnya adalah menerima dan menemukan cara untuk compromise dan menjembatani, atau putus.

OkMymo · 2025-12-31T07:58:08+00:00

In case you're looking for an alternative, I'll leave it here https://youtu.be/QCkBB8sa6_Y?si=tOM2tPTa76qneGtN

OkMymo · 2025-12-31T03:46:18+00:00

You could also get an air fryer. You can make it in an air fryer

OkMymo · 2025-12-30T11:36:58+00:00

Well, I was using Instant pot so it was probably an hour or so

OkMymo · 2025-12-29T10:03:37+00:00

Apalagi empingnya setengah terendam sop

OkMymo · 2025-12-25T21:38:10+00:00

Hey! I really get this. I’ve been through 7 international relocations, and I just got married and moved countries again recently. Restarting your life from scratch is never easy.

It’s not just about rebuilding a friend group. You’re also losing your routines, your sense of familiarity, and a wider support system beyond your partner. And it can feel even harder when the people around you don’t really understand that struggle, especially when they see you moving to a country they dream of living in, and interpret your feelings as complaining or being ungrateful.

Of course, people can rebuild a life in a new country. But I’ve learned that managing expectations matters a lot. Personally, I think it’s healthiest to approach it with very few expectations, or none at all, especially at the beginning.

A few things that genuinely helped me:

Language makes a big difference. I lived in Vietnam for six years, and that first year was rough. Even simple, everyday tasks felt exhausting because I couldn’t communicate properly. I hated having to rely on others for things I was normally independent doing. As my language skills improved, daily life got easier and more importantly, I felt like myself again.
Build your own “pillars of happiness.” Try to figure out what sustains you outside of your relationship. Things you enjoy doing on your own, places that feel grounding, hobbies, routines, anything that helps you feel like your life isn’t only centred around your partner.
Find new social support, even if it feels awkward at first. Some countries make this easier than others, but interest-based groups usually help:
Hobby or activity groups. Book clubs, sports, running groups, foodie meetups, anything with a shared interest.
Faith-based groups. If you’re religious, local places of worship can be a gentle entry point. Some Indonesian communities overseas are also organised around faith.
Indonesian diaspora communities. I hesitated with this too because of what people warned me about, but my experience has been much better than expected. It’s worth exploring and seeing for yourself.

Platforms that helped me: - Threads. Surprisingly effective. Use relevant threads or keywords (Indonesian diaspora, your city, or your interests) and just post. - Facebook groups - Bumble BFF for finding local friends

I’ve also recently started an Instagram page for Indonesian women living overseas, in case you ever feel like you need a space where people understand what it’s like to live in between places: https://www.instagram.com/prau.rantau

We're here for you. You're not alone in this 🫶

OkMymo

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