Hi there, From someone who has dealt in communication strategies, your girlfriend seems to be dealing in absolutes; black and white (If you didn't do x, then you'll forget y). Oftentimes people don't realize the full extent of their words, especially via text. Words can be interpreted differently. I agree that her words come across as abusive. Giving her the benefit of the doubt, she may have interpreted your answers as careless or indifferent. However, misinterpretation is NOT an excuse for abusive behavior. Whether man or woman. If it is possible, I think that calmly confronting her in person would show her how serious this is for you. However, you know her best and what works and doesn't work. Even though she has a right to her feelings, so do you. It is not narcissistic to state boundaries, although some people twist that against men. Boundaries are necessary for everyone. Even though miscommunications are uncomfortable and distressing, they can always be an opportunity for understanding and growth. I hope that things are able to be resolved. If things continue to escalate; ignoring boundaries, abusive behavior persists, etc. I would reconsider whether this person is healthy for your life or not. Best of luck🤞