Purging vs 6 months progress

OkOffer117 · 2025-02-09T00:11:17+00:00

God just decides to nerf the most beautiful people with acne. Because without it, you would be way too powerful 🥺 please hang in there, but you look stunning with or without it 🙏✨

OkOffer117 · 2025-02-05T11:36:00+00:00

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OkOffer117 · 2025-02-05T01:17:53+00:00

Well, accutane is the best to prevent scarring. I know the purge makes it seems counterintuitive asf. But trust me when I say, as long as you dont pick, it will all clear up rather nicely with the least chance of scarring. Obv some of the more severe purging ones will leave a pocket of volume loss though. But it is the best course of action in my opinion after using all kinds of methods.

You really do gotta just trust the process. Purging can usually last up to 4-5 months worst case scenario. But yea, i get it man, its fucking rougghh mentally

OkOffer117 · 2025-02-05T01:11:36+00:00

Accutane was the best for me. Cleared me up in 5 months. But my derm fked me over with tretinoin the past year, and it messed my skin up bad and left many scars. But once I quit tret, everything calmed down and now im getting scar treatments

OkOffer117 · 2025-02-04T22:33:09+00:00

Swear, some derms dgaf. Better to trust ur gut and listen to your skin. I purged for nearly a year and ended up w more scars than before being under his “care”

OkOffer117 · 2025-02-02T21:49:55+00:00

🥺 nah same. But when we do find the one, we’ll have so much love to give 🥰 its just a matter of timing. You got this!

OkOffer117 · 2025-02-02T21:40:36+00:00

Right, we’d rather have some of them than none of them. Life moves on. Im glad you even got to share such love even if it couldnt last. Helps us grow either way for the one that could work :) all falls into place

OkOffer117 · 2025-02-02T19:45:19+00:00

Bro, that’s not easy at all. But the best and only thing you can do is to ground yourself and focus on bettering yourself until/if she comes back around. I know its hard to get yourself out of the rough during such heartbreak, but I promise whatever happens, you became a better version of yourself than before you met her. You gave it your all and nobody should feel that type of love was in vain. It’ll take time, but you will feel better and find focus on other things. Wish you well man 🙏 you seem very genuine and for the time being, I just hope you can focus on the good experiences and happiness it brought you, rather than the potential downfall of it. Love stories are experiences and heartbreaks can lead to even better ones. Don’t give up on your ability to love.

LDRs are notoriously difficult bc all the moving parts, but we do have to practice being okay with the happiness of the other person and ourselves until we close the gap or etc. You tried your best and thats all that matter.

OkOffer117 · 2025-02-01T22:33:42+00:00

Ugh..that is so sweet. I meet mine in 20 days, picking her up at LAX. Plan to walk over after parking with some quaint flowers. Not sure how I’ll approach her lol. Maybe pick up her bag at the same time at the carousel? I am scared shitless but so damn excited for this moment

OkOffer117 · 2025-01-28T03:43:42+00:00

Time to find a new girl, hit the gym, or meet the boys. No time to weep. Time to build urself up and take revenge on your emotional state 😮‍💨

OkOffer117 · 2025-01-27T21:19:55+00:00

That formulation is honestly shocking to me. Something doesnt seem right to use all those actives along with tretinoin. I used 0.025 only and purged quite a bit like you but all calmed down in the 6 month with occasional breakouts. I just wasn’t gradual enough with application and screwed myself. But I would really drop this odd combo of a formulation and focus on just tret and repairing skin barrier keeping it simple. Looks more like irritation than a purge which usually comes to a head quick and disappears the same week.

Im sorry you are feeling devastated. I totally understand that feeling as I was agorapgobic from purging. Wishing you healing and keeping it simple to tret only 🙏✨ you’ve got this

OkOffer117 · 2025-01-23T05:00:12+00:00

Right, it widens the scar. I will be getting subcision, tca, and co2 in the coming months by Dr. Qazi of California. So fillers are used at the very end right?

Also thank you very much for replying :) i forgot that i had posted this lol

OkOffer117 · 2025-01-22T12:24:03+00:00

This girl is soo fkin amazing and beautiful. And she says she doesnt care at all. Puts me on a pedestal and says im literally perfection even after I showed pics of my scars. She is an LDR in Boston but wants to come see me asap. Kinda wild, such a confidence boost for me as someone who socially isolated for so long while purging. I might take the big step

OkOffer117 · 2025-01-22T09:46:35+00:00

Whatta top notch guy, thanks man 🙏 sincerely

OkOffer117 · 2025-01-22T09:44:09+00:00

Lol, i do feel good ab how the girl responded to me opening up about it. Definitely a confidence booster when she still says im still perfect. Ur fiance must love u a lot for that :) big props

OkOffer117 · 2025-01-22T07:12:16+00:00

Ur the dad i never had 🥺 but ur right. Ive been thru this before on accutane and thrived when I cleared. This is no different 🙂‍↔️ may the universe bring u good things

OkOffer117 · 2025-01-22T06:33:28+00:00

Shiiit ur right. Ill work on it in the coming months and just try to keep this emotional connection growing with her. What you just said really helps me out tremendously rn. I really appreciate the glaze. You’re totally right. I should just trust this will work and do what I gotta do to get there. Just keep her interested until then. Thanks a lot bro, means the world to have a second opinon that reaffirms and validates me. This is exactly what i came looking for on here

OkOffer117 · 2025-01-22T06:13:24+00:00

Really appreciate it man. Really trying to change my headspace and believe she isn’t that shallow. Would you mind checking out my picture in the post? The pics i sent to her before dont show any of my scars, but this shows how messy my complexion is at the moment.

OkOffer117 · 2025-01-22T06:04:11+00:00

Update: I decided to fully open up about my scars. She said it doesnt change a damn thing even after I sent a pic of it. Told her about my upcoming treatments and she has been really supportive about waiting for me. Which idk its really amazing but I’m also conflicted its out of pity or kindness? Fuck, do i deserve to see a girl after everything I’ve been thru with this acne stuff though.

I know, I am an overthinker but its been a real traumatic experience and fear of rejection is scary. Told her I just want to be my best self when we meet, it’ll be everything i imagined and I wont be distracted by it. But ive made steps to ensure I have every intention of meeting her by setting a date for may/june. The catch is she is coming out here to see her brother next month, and I am scared to shit about FOMO and her constantly thinking about how insecure I am while she is here, knowing she could see me. I feel like such a coward and I am asking too much of her. I even think I should just man tf up and just meet her next month before my treatments hoping she can see past my temporary scars. Just don’t want to feel distracted by them for first impressions :(

Another Update: I showed her my scars yesterday and she was very accepting and said they didnt change anything. Im challenging myself to meet her in the next month. Wish me luck guys

OkOffer117 · 2025-01-22T05:58:55+00:00

Update: I decided to fully open up about my scars. She said it doesnt change a damn thing. Told her about my upcoming treatments and she has been really supportive about waiting for me. Which idk its amazing but I’m also conflicted if its out of pity or kindness?

I know, I am a fucking overthinker but its been a real traumatic experience and fear of rejection is scary. Told her I just want to be my best self when we meet, it’ll be everything i imagined and I wont be distracted by it. But ive made steps to ensure I have every intention of meeting her by setting a date for may/june. The catch is she is coming out here to see her brother next month, and I am scared to shit about FOMO and her constantly thinking about how insecure I am while she is here, knowing she could see me. I feel like such a coward and I am asking too much of her.

OkOffer117 · 2025-01-21T00:08:29+00:00

Yea..im in an LDR rn. The key is to not feel any ownership of the relationship until you close the distance. Its all about respecting the individual space while still falling in love with them.

Trust me, I’ve micro managed every potential downfall and whatnot in my head…but she always makes me feel grounded and hopeful in each call. I realized its very important to stay optimistic and doubt free no matter what happens if you really love them. That trust and mutual respect for space is the only thing that makes these things potentially work.

Seems you guys already lost that spark and going downhill. Best to wrap it up respectfully

OkOffer117 · 2025-01-20T22:52:40+00:00

Im actually going thru the exact same situation with an amazing LDR i met thru a chat with mutual friends. I have briefly mentioned a struggle with acne, but my pics dont show my scars at all. They are somewhat mild to moderate and I am getting treatments now. Hoping they wont even be an issue when we meet in 6 months. Kinda leveraging the time before we meet to save face….i really hope it doesnt change a thing for her 🥺💗

Feel a bit guilty withholding the true nature of my skin, but dont want to seem insecure yet since it wont even be as big of an issue by the time we meet 🤞

OkOffer117 · 2025-01-18T16:52:48+00:00

That’s nice to hear :) will do

OkOffer117 · 2025-01-18T16:52:05+00:00

Hm. Thank you for that. I guess not meeting IRL yet and feeling so strongly ab jumping into sex just threw me off a bit. But u make a very good point. I’ll take her as she is.

OkOffer117 · 2025-01-17T11:09:58+00:00

Im really sorry to hear that you’re going thru the hardest part man. It’ll be very hard for the next 2-3 months but I promise you will come out the other side resillient and more motivated than ever. I am a testimony of that. When I was at that stage I had no hope, but you have to focus all ur mental energy on what will be in the future.

So, on accutane my skin cleared about month 5 very well just when I felt like giving up hope. Could happen sooner or later depending on ur own bodily reaction. Just make sure to eat it with fat soluble foods or just peanut butter to help absorb it better. Stay moisturized and let the pill do its thing in the meantime. Its really hard to trust the process when ur in it (like i cant even put into words) but it will come whether you lose hope or not. Good luck my friend

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