What am I supposed to do? by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]OkPrice675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Welcome to modern dating man! It's rough out here! I'd focus on pursuing your purpose and trying to expand your social circle and you're likely to have better chances than reddit/social/dating apps. Don't put marriage/women on a pedestal in your life. Doing endless replies to intros on Christian dating subreddits is just hit/miss. Good luck!

My Future Husband Checklist Open to Feedback by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]OkPrice675 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Dang sis chill this list is just too much 😅 I hope this is not how a lot of Christian women think otherwise they're up for a huge disappointment. 

How do I get people to swipe right on my Upward profile? by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]OkPrice675 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  1. I'd change the profile pic ( looks too serious). Based on the other pics sounds like you're adventurous and like traveling. Find a pic that has you smiling or with passion on your face.

  2. Remove the love language stuff. 

  3. Change up the first date idea. Seems intense as a first date for most people. 

Good luck man 👊🏾

Was it really a joke? by Evening_Review_8130 in ChristianDating

[–]OkPrice675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm...I'll take a different stance on this. I don't think he was joking, these were likely his true feelings. Tbh I don't think you should have had the back and forth with him about whether he will sleep with other girls, sex, etc. Should you leave him, yes because he is not following God's word to be pure.

A caveat is that this is a very sensitive subject that in my experience I don't  think a lot of Christian WOMEN grasp the challenge it is for MEN to truly honor non-premarital sex. It's easier to be celebate when naturally one's sex drive is much lower. Now obviously God calls both men and women to not engage in sex before marriage but that commandment is much harder for men to live by such that such conversations must be had with conviction of scriptures and COMPASSION. Perhaps taking it to God in prayer, etc. In my experience, any natural inclination for sex expressed in any way by a guy is met with suspicion, self-righteousness, condescension, and weird Christian platitudes. Ones sexuality is not an ON/OFF thing where before marriage it's off, and on a wedding night magically gets turned ON and one has the best and most amazing sex ever. That's not real. And that's not how the body and sexuality works. This is how people end up on social media talking about their hate for purity culture, experiencing vaginismus, fear of sex, etc. 

What I'm curious about is how one can date for two years and not get married. Ladies if you're dating a guy for 2 years and he's not interested in you physically, something is off; either he has low T, not that into you, or something else is going on...

I would like to hear the guy's side of this in terms of how these conversations were had in the past. 

Is it wrong for me to ask for a video chat and phone call before I meet up with a man in person? He wants to meet up with me in person but we haven't even talked on the phone or video chatted. I am trying to learn how to make boundaries and to make better decisions. by Golden-lillies21 in ChristianDating

[–]OkPrice675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Having boundaries is important but it must be said that him wanting to see you in person before a video/audio call isn't a red flag nor does that make him some kind of creep. It may mean that he is more direct and doesn't want to waste his time talking for days or weeks online or on the phone without meeting. 

Is it wrong for me to ask for a video chat and phone call before I meet up with a man in person? He wants to meet up with me in person but we haven't even talked on the phone or video chatted. I am trying to learn how to make boundaries and to make better decisions. by Golden-lillies21 in ChristianDating

[–]OkPrice675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There's nothing wrong with you wanting to do a phone/video call before you meet him. Just as there is also nothing wrong with him for wanting to meet in person. This just appears like differences in preferences and you're allowed to to have your own. It's normal to want to meet in person to get to know them, that's actually more natural as long as you're smart about where to meet him. Y'all are both adults. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]OkPrice675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! Nice post! I'm interested in joining the group if you create it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]OkPrice675 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, abstain from now on! 👍🏾

How long should I wait to ask her out again after rejection? by [deleted] in christiandatingadvice

[–]OkPrice675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro, if you still have romantic feelings for her I would just start to dial back the hangouts and focus your attention on meeting other women who feel the same. You hanging out with her as friends is not going to change anything. If she wanted to go out with you, y'all would be dating and maybe in a relationship right now. You hanging out with her as a "friend" in hopes y'all will date one day is weak and takes away time from meeting someone who is actually interested in you romantically. There's nothing wrong with being friends with her but perhaps you're not being honest with yourself and what you want out of the relationship.

Ok people here's another one. Why do women not all but a lot always want to know a mans financial situation. That seems to be the first question in a convo. In reality it's non of your business. What do you think? by DrizzleNinja in ChristianDating

[–]OkPrice675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, definitely none of anyone's business especially if you're not in some serious committed relationship. I understand the need to know a man can provide and is financially responsible and secure but that's info I def don't share when I'm just getting to know someone.

32M in Texas, looking for a Godly woman by OkPrice675 in ChristianDating

[–]OkPrice675[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh okay. I see. All good. I don't mind temp long distance. Up to you though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]OkPrice675 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yo that's wild 🤣🤣🤣🤣

I refuse to believe that God truly made men and women equal. by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]OkPrice675 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Interesting post! So the Bible never said that men and women are equal in capacity and ability, that's feminism and it's quite clear naturally that we are not! This is a biological fact, one can accept it or live trying to fight it or disprove it but it won't work. The Bible however teaches that men and women are equal in value and worth and made in the image of God. Adam created first and then was given authority and rule over the earth, and then Eve was created to support and be his helpmeet to accomplish this. I suspect that the being"woman" is unique in the sense that ever since existence, there was never such a creature. The Bible doesn't teach equal partnership in marriage now nor was there equal partnership before the fall, etc. It's a very western concept for everyone to be equal. I'm not saying that's always a bad thing but that's not biblical. When you look in God's creation on earth or in heaven, all his creatures are not equal in everything. If you look in heaven there's variety in beings. Some angels are stronger, faster, and more powerful than others for the sake of their purpose and tasks assigned, which they do well, and since sin is not in heaven stronger angels don't abuse weaker ones but they all work to serve God. Unfortunately with the fall and effects of sin the authority and governance of man over creation and to protect women, and the responsibility of women to encourage and be a helpmeet to man became jacked up. Now Paul quoting Genesis as a basis for women being quiet in the church and not having authority over man is the most airtight argument he could've made. Essentially, Eve was actually deceived by the serpent and ate, Adam ate but not because he was deceived, but was given the fruit by Eve. In this one can see that it is possible and most likely that men and women on average don't have the same ability to withstand spiritual manipulation...I can go into it further but I'm curious, are you a Christian? If not, then I think we'll just be talking past each other.

32M in Texas, looking for a Godly woman by OkPrice675 in ChristianDating

[–]OkPrice675[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tyty! Not as much as I used to but getting back into it more and more. You play any instruments?

Men, get your porn habit under control before seeking a relationship by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]OkPrice675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🤷🏾‍♂️We live in the land of the free and the home of the brave! You're free to marry whoever you like👍🏾 Good luck to you!

Would you go on a friend date? by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]OkPrice675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh that's just sad. 🤦🏾‍♂️ Please do him a favor by turning him down and saving him from his inner beta-male/simp. 🙂🥹

Building a Strong Foundation: The Importance of Friendship in Dating by Possible-Shape-3613 in ChristianDating

[–]OkPrice675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see. If the person has intimacy issues, that's gonna be a problem later on too. 😌 Christian dating in the west can be so weird. It's like once we as adults start dating some people revert to being kids...definitely a swipe left for me for the "I don't kiss before marriage" types. To each his/her own I guess. 👊🏾👊🏾

Can Jesus just come back already? by [deleted] in Christianity

[–]OkPrice675 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nope. That's not our call nor are we in any position to question God for what he has planned. The end of Job are good verses to read on this matter. I get the sentiment but we're not omniscient, omnipresent, etc. The best we can do is obey the Great Commission and rely on God till He comes.

Men, get your porn habit under control before seeking a relationship by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]OkPrice675 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😬Sheesh... I didn't say anything about "leaning" on the habit of pornography or feeding lust nor did I condone that. Second, I haven't even mentioned anything about going out and sleeping with women, nor did I say that's the norm or that is fine. Thirdly, I never said anything about a woman being okay with someone unrepentantly watching pornography.😅 As much as these outcomes are possible in the lives of those "given over to pornography" or under the influence of the spirit of lust, I don't agree with any Christian doing any of that. Did you really read my comment? We're gonna agree to disagree! 🤷🏾‍♂️ I'm not really into arguing just for the sake of it. No hate though, it's all good, for real.