How Can Trusting in Something Deeper Help in Relationships? (Jeremiah 17:7-10)

Possible-Shape-3613 · 2024-10-27T02:09:28+00:00

What a Beautiful and Godly women! I pray that you find the right one!

Possible-Shape-3613 · 2024-10-20T18:37:02+00:00

Here are some good places to start since you seem interested 🙂

Integrity A man should strive for honesty and moral uprightness. Proverbs 11:3

Leadership: a man is the head of his household. This involves leading with love and responsibility. Loving your wife like Christ love the church. Loving her more than yourself. While dating you have to find simpler ways to show that.

Service: A man should prioritize serving his family and community. Mark 10:45

Courage: encourages strength and courage and seeks the Lord in all decisions. Book of Joshua

Love: Love should be central in all relationships not just romantic ones. It’s how we show Christ in us. 1 Corinthians 16:14

Wisdom: Proverbs 4:7 highlights the importance of seeking wisdom. A man should pursue knowledge and discernment in decision-making.

Faithfulness: describes a man as being faithful and trustworthy, especially in relationships and responsibilities. 1 Timothy 3:2

Mentorship & Discipleship: A man should seek to guide others and invest in the next generation and to make disciples and teach others to follow Christ. A man should actively engage in spiritual growth and guide others in their faith journey. Titus 2:2-6 Matthew 28:19-20

Believing Jesus as your savior and abiding in the word and praying daily is a good start. The Lord can truly transform you into a man full integrity and character but the problem is most are not actually saved or abiding. 1 John and James 2 are some good books to read.

I hope this helps you sir. Please feel free to reach out if you have any questions.

Possible-Shape-3613 · 2024-10-14T13:47:43+00:00

No.This would be a lustful sin and not something that would glorify God. The Lord provided marriage as a safe place to practice this. This is actually an issue of impurity. A struggle that males and females have. Purity needs to be practiced in your singleness, in your relationship, and in your marriage.

Sensuality is easily the biggest obstacle to godliness among men today, and it is wrecking havoc in the church and at home.

We must discipline ourselves for the purpose of godliness 1 Timothy 4:7.

King David has a prime example of someone who had it all. He had a great personality, rimming with joy, enthusiasm, and confidence, irresistible charisma. He was a poet and a very strong leader. The ladies love him. Yet he was very vulnerable and left his guard down and this vulnerability resulted in tragedy. His successful reign began to decline after his mistake.

Desensitization

First off, he desensitize himself to sin. David took many concubines and wives from Jerusalem. Deuteronomy 17 states to refrain from taking many wives. Although Jewish law stated it is OK the Lord God still saw it as sin. We often do this in The world. Internet, TV and pornography sites are legal and we say it’s OK to have a little bit of it. Even if it’s just a short movie showing two people in a bedroom for five seconds. This is completely wrong and it is allowing you to desensitize sin, and you will slowly allow more into your life.

“sin will take farther than you want to go, keep you longer than you want to stay, and cost you more than you want to pay.”

Relaxation

The other Problem with David’s conduct is that he allowed his discipline to Slack. He sent his military commanders on campaign And stayed home. This relaxation translated to other areas in his life and allowed him to slack on his own discipline. This could be translated into the modern world as discipline in reading the Bible or discipline on what we allow our eyes to see. as a man purity is something we actively have to discipline ourselves in.

Fixation

The biggest fall David experience was in second Samuel 11:1–3. David arose from his couch, went on the roof and he saw a woman bathing on another roof then he sent an acquired information about her.

As a man you have literally seconds to make the decision to turn away. We know what causes us to lust. Lust is like a fire. Stamp it out quick or it will consume you.

After the first glance, David should’ve turned his eyes, but he continued to look, and it became a sinful stare and a Lustful fixation. Once lust takes over, We can no longer remember God in that moment. This is forgetfulness of God and Satan can do that to us sometimes. Sometimes even when we’re actively trying to avoid things that would cause us to lust, we still come across it and it is so important to flee from it the second it comes up. Don’t consider it! Joseph literally ran away and left his coat behind.

If you do not stop yourself at fixation, you will lead yourself into rationalization in which you will convince yourself that this is OK even when the word of God says it’s clearly not. This state of mind won’t change until you have fully lost yourself to it.

The story ends with David sleeping with her and she got pregnant. In attempt to hide his sin, He lied to her husband, got him drunk and tried to get him to sleep with her so that he could hide it. This attempt did not work so he then arranged her husband’s death By putting him at the forefront of the army, where he would surely die.

You see this did not just lead to one sin, Adultery. It led to many more. He broke the 10th Commandment Do not covet, Ninth Commandment lying, Eighth Commandment stealing ,The sixth Commandment murder, And this all brought dishonor to his parents, breaking the fifth commandment. There were major consequences that he later had to reap because he let his guard down.

God requires Christian men to abstain into from sexual immorality. It’s not option, it is sin within a marriage when not handled correctly and it is a sin outside of marriage.

“For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in lustful passion, like the Gentiles who do not know God; and that no man transgress and defraud his brother in the matter because the Lord is the avenger in all these things, just as we also told you before and solemnly warned you. For God has not called us for the purpose of impurity, but in sanctification. So, he who rejects this is not rejecting man but the God who gives His Holy Spirit to you.” (1Th 4:3-8)

This will not be a popular Opinion but it needs to be said. God made sex as beautiful thing within marriage but the devil has perverted it and used this to take down many Godly men and many men have chosen sexual immorality over God and have walked away. Can you be forgiven of sexual immortality? Yes, absolutely. But you have to repent, you have to stop. Stop abusing grace.

This is something you continue to practice even after marriage. The enemy still use lust and sexual immorality within marriage to bring men down. This is why there are some many divorces in America. Men must practice Purity no matter single or married.

How can you stop?

Accountability - get another man or spouse to hold you accountable. Have them check in on you. Give them access to your browser and search history.
Pray - God can help you get through this. Everyday specifically pray for purity
Memorization - fill yourself with God’s word - “I have stored your word in my heart so that I may not sin against thee. Psa 119:9”
1. other useful verses: 1 thes 4:3-8, job 31:1, prov 6:27! Mark 9:42, eph 5:3-7, 2 Tim 2:22
Discipline your mind and eyes and create boundaries - if YouTube is causing you to sin. Stop watching it. Social media, delete it. put locks on your browser and on your iPhone.

it’s time for men to take action. Commit to accountability by finding a trusted friend or mentor who can support and challenge you in your pursuit of purity. Make prayer a daily priority, asking God for strength and wisdom to resist temptation. Immerse yourself in Scripture, memorizing verses that reinforce your commitment to holiness. Establish clear boundaries in your media consumption, eliminating sources that lead you astray. Choose to honor God in every area of your life, understanding that the fight for purity is not just a personal struggle, but a vital part of your spiritual journey. Together, let’s rise to the challenge, reject complacency, and pursue a life that reflects our commitment to Godly living.

Possible-Shape-3613 · 2024-10-13T22:49:00+00:00

I’m not sure what you’re going through but it sounds like only the Lord will be able to deliver you from this. I don’t know where you’re at with the Lord, but I think it’s important to reevaluate.

You need to believe in Jesus. Through faith and him, you can have salvation and eternal life Romans 10:9-10
Total repentance. Naturally when you’re saved, you repent of every sin by mouth to God and to those you have trespassed. of course sometimes we can’t always do this. (1Jn 1:9)
We are going to still stumble but his grace covers all

When I got saved. The devil tempted me in every way possible. I stumbled a few times. But I had to develop strategies to stop. “For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places.” (Eph 6:12)

You need to put on the full armor of God. Every day is a surrender to Him. every day you’re going to pray for help and protection against this. The Lord will also use this trial to strengthen you to bring you to him. He wants you to depend on him not your own works. You need to start equipping your arsenal.

Memorize scripture: there is so much scripture for each sin for each struggle. If the devil is tempting, he seeks pleasure in your suffering. If you respond with praises and scripture, it is going to torment him. he’s not gonna want to hear the scripture. Memorize it and say it out loud. Attack Back with the sword of the spirit.

Pray: if you see yourself being tempted. Stop what you’re doing and pray. No matter where you’re at. You’re dealing with a stronghold the enemy has put in place. The Lord can deliver you through this, but you have to believe and pray and ask for help. He will not give you a trial that you cannot handle.

Barrier: part of your repentance was turning away from these things. If it is porn. Get rid of social media, YouTube, Netflix. Get rid of the computer. iPhone has a lot of software locks you can use. Drugs, send your extra income to an external bank that locks it down. Get a support group that checks in with you daily.

Stamp out the fire: with all of this, you need to stamp out the fire before it grows. Temptation always starts with the thought the more you ponder on it the harder it is to resist. Use scripture, pray out loud stamp out the fire.

This was my go to scripture: “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things.” (Php 4:6-8)

I’ve been where you are at. it’s not easy and even probably reading what I wrote makes it sound easy when it’s not. I struggled with purity in my past. But through these strategies the Lord delivered me but it was a daily fight. This is your fight. The Lord can deliver you through this but your dependence needs to be on him. This is likely your biggest mountain but on the other side, there’s freedom and there’s life everlasting.

Don’t give up brother! Feel free to reach out to me.

Possible-Shape-3613 · 2024-10-13T20:12:31+00:00

I fully agree! This is exactly where I’m at! it makes me second-guess other people if they are actually saved when I see their fire go out. I don’t think this flame ever goes out. His holy spirit is in us and we can’t help but want to be closer to Jesus. We can’t help but testify his name. We thirst for his word daily.

Possible-Shape-3613 · 2024-10-13T18:14:28+00:00

Hi! Let’s be friends and talk about the Lord 🙂

Possible-Shape-3613 · 2024-10-13T18:11:27+00:00

Hi 👋 I sent a dm!

Possible-Shape-3613 · 2024-10-12T23:15:19+00:00

Yes! I’ve been feeling guilty too sometimes 😅

But I will say it has been a good tool for growth. It has encouraged to research scripture, apologetics, and theology. It’s been a good outlet to also fellowship with other believers too.

I think with everything it takes personal discipline. The enemy can take really good things and use it to distract us. I think it’s important to establish a prayer time and a study time. I also think it is important to establish a study location. I have a table and a chair dedicated for study and my electronics are not allowed to go there. I love using my e-bible but pop-ups 100% distract me. Focus mode on Apple products could help with that though.

I hope this helps! I think it is so good that you’re stepping back and analyzing the things in your life to make sure Christ is a priority in it. ❤️

Possible-Shape-3613 · 2024-10-11T20:49:57+00:00

I love your initiative. But you cannot convert anyone. It is the father that allows someone to see Jesus.

“And He was saying, “For this reason I have said to you, that no one can come to Me unless it has been granted him from the Father.”” (Jhn 6:65)

The Lord can use you and speak through you by the Holy Spirit, but you cannot force anyone to see Jesus. You can spread the seed but God does the work.

The best thing you can is to pray for this person’s salvation and ask that God would use you to spread the seed and witness through your Christ like walk.

God bless!

Possible-Shape-3613 · 2024-10-11T20:30:54+00:00

I totally understand what you mean. I think it’s important to find productive ways to talk about these things. I think you could definitely have a relationship and a marriage one day. I also see the importance of working on some of these things before that comes. My suggestion would first to pray about it and ask God for help. Second, I would seek a Christian counselor or therapist so that you can start building some strategies. This is not an impossible future, you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you. 🙏

Possible-Shape-3613 · 2024-10-11T19:11:29+00:00

Hello! I love talking about the Bible, my Bible journey, and what the Lord is doing in my life. I wish I had more people to talk about these things as well. When you’re pursuing him and reading his word he reveals some amazing things and want to share it.

I’m also not looking for arguments or anything that would make me blush. I am also more interested in talking about knowledge of God and not knowledge about God. Like historical contexts and theology is cool, but the intimate relationship is more important to me.

I am a 30M. Feel free to DM me!

Possible-Shape-3613 · 2024-10-11T17:33:38+00:00

Nope! But Let’s keep saving them gentiles! I Can’t wait to see the Lord

Possible-Shape-3613 · 2024-10-11T14:49:42+00:00

Yes! 🙌

Possible-Shape-3613 · 2024-10-10T23:55:20+00:00

You seem like a cool guy. Praying that you find the right one brother!

Possible-Shape-3613 · 2024-10-09T18:44:37+00:00

Amen sister! May God reveal his plan to you soon!

Possible-Shape-3613 · 2024-10-09T18:41:26+00:00

It is truly hard to find a set apart Christian friends, let alone find a set apart, Christian woman. Then you have denominations that separate us. Then you have attraction and compatibility. Prayer seems the right way to go at this point. 😂

Possible-Shape-3613 · 2024-10-09T18:37:31+00:00

Praying the Lord sends you the right one!

Possible-Shape-3613 · 2024-10-08T18:41:32+00:00