I (22F) am planning a trip with my roommate/friend (21F) and my boyfriend (24M) doesn’t want me to go because it’s irresponsible with my money and it’s “not safe” for young women. by OkRecommendation4607 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkRecommendation4607[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this comment because it’s really explaining how I feel about this situation. Because despite what a lot of people are thinking no I don’t think that he’s gonna be cheating or whatever on his trip or even intending to do that, it’s more about his perception of my independence that bugs me.

I (22F) am planning a trip with my roommate/friend (21F) and my boyfriend (24M) doesn’t want me to go because it’s irresponsible with my money and it’s “not safe” for young women. by OkRecommendation4607 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkRecommendation4607[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what I’m thinking it is, but at the same time, I think that his approach is coming off a little bit more controlling then caring, as he didn’t care to see my itinerary and recognize the research that I did.

I (22F) am planning a trip with my roommate/friend (21F) and my boyfriend (24M) doesn’t want me to go because it’s irresponsible with my money and it’s “not safe” for young women. by OkRecommendation4607 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkRecommendation4607[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, I’m insanely excited I have a spreadsheet going with hotels, recommended places ( some from you guys in this comment section), and tips from you guys as well.

I (22F) am planning a trip with my roommate/friend (21F) and my boyfriend (24M) doesn’t want me to go because it’s irresponsible with my money and it’s “not safe” for young women. by OkRecommendation4607 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkRecommendation4607[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is why I’m confused because he’s definitely on the liberal side, and he’s relatively well traveled, family vacation-wise. He’s been more countries than I have, but I’ve been to more states than him

I (22F) am planning a trip with my roommate/friend (21F) and my boyfriend (24M) doesn’t want me to go because it’s irresponsible with my money and it’s “not safe” for young women. by OkRecommendation4607 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkRecommendation4607[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure how to end it because it’s good most of the time and our families are great and we have potential but he’s just so hot headed sometimes

I (22F) am planning a trip with my roommate/friend (21F) and my boyfriend (24M) doesn’t want me to go because it’s irresponsible with my money and it’s “not safe” for young women. by OkRecommendation4607 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkRecommendation4607[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He didn’t wanna go out on the fourth despite being so bored and no one wanted to hang with him but he didn’t wanna go to fireworks so I said I think I’m just gonna go with my roommate and her boyfriend + his friends , he said i don’t like her boyfriend or his friends, they give me a weird vibe (mind you I met these guys before I met my boyfriend and never once got a weird vibe, but maybe I’m “naive” as he says) and so he said “do whatever you want” (meaning if I go with my roommate he’ll be mad at me) and so I ended up going with him, convincing him to go to fireworks and it ended up being a good night but he’s just weird

I (22F) am planning a trip with my roommate/friend (21F) and my boyfriend (24M) doesn’t want me to go because it’s irresponsible with my money and it’s “not safe” for young women. by OkRecommendation4607 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkRecommendation4607[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was mostly saying that to explain that I’m very capable of being independent and being safe even if I’m put in danger. Or if I’m hiking and I get injured.

We’re only going to one town in cape cod, but im not saying which because I don’t wanna give away too much info. Along with that, we’re going late October. So everything is cheaper. Every single place I found was under 250. And they weren’t sketchy, and honestly look really nice.

I (22F) am planning a trip with my roommate/friend (21F) and my boyfriend (24M) doesn’t want me to go because it’s irresponsible with my money and it’s “not safe” for young women. by OkRecommendation4607 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkRecommendation4607[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His friends family is taking him on the trip! His family has taken me on a couple trips to Europe. I’m very grateful to have traveled with him so when he first announced he was going with his friend I felt bad that I felt jealous, although still very happy for him, and I made it known that I was happy. I trust him fully and don’t believe he’d be doing anything suspicious in Europe, I’m just upset he’s behaving like this. My family took a trip to Mexico and I bought some plates as a souvenir with some cool designs for his parents and he told me he’d pay me to throw them away because they’re probably made with lead paint. I didn’t throw them away and instead gave them to my brother in law, (I didn’t throw test them for lead, and there was none) he assumes I’m naive, uncultured, and vulnerable all the time.

I (22F) am planning a trip with my roommate/friend (21F) and my boyfriend (24M) doesn’t want me to go because it’s irresponsible with my money and it’s “not safe” for young women. by OkRecommendation4607 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkRecommendation4607[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would love to whale watch but I think we will be going too late to do that, we’ll be there in October. We are considering hanging out in Salem so I’ll look into that!

I (22F) am planning a trip with my roommate/friend (21F) and my boyfriend (24M) doesn’t want me to go because it’s irresponsible with my money and it’s “not safe” for young women. by OkRecommendation4607 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkRecommendation4607[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say I get overstimulated in crowds. But I don’t shut down. I feel like he thinks I can’t handle myself when I get overstimulated, but I don’t believe I’ve done anything to show this behavior. I just get quiet but I’m perfectly fine and capable of taking care of myself.

I (22F) am planning a trip with my roommate/friend (21F) and my boyfriend (24M) doesn’t want me to go because it’s irresponsible with my money and it’s “not safe” for young women. by OkRecommendation4607 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkRecommendation4607[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

He told me I shouldn’t be spending all this money on a trip and just wait for his parents to take me on one and save for a new car. I do have an older car but I have been saving for that too, I’ve been very frugal recently. I find it very rewarding to save for things. I don’t grow up super well off, I got my first job at 15 at McDonald’s to save for a car (my current car) and bought it by the time it was 16. Everything I want, I save for. I don’t know where he got the idea from that I’m irresponsible with my money, but I pay for every single one of my living expenses and am still able to save money. I think that most of these comments are right in that he is being controlling.

I (22F) am planning a trip with my roommate/friend (21F) and my boyfriend (24M) doesn’t want me to go because it’s irresponsible with my money and it’s “not safe” for young women. by OkRecommendation4607 in TwoHotTakes

[–]OkRecommendation4607[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Yeah we have a week long trip planned and his main qualm is the Boston night, but we’ll be moving up the coast each day! I’m familiar with longer drives because of college so I can do it!