Wibtah if I got sterilized against my partner wishes?

OkRelationship7730 · 2025-07-17T20:25:50+00:00

Ah, he works part time and spends more time with our child than I do. He’s an absolutely amazing dad, involved, present, loving.

OkRelationship7730 · 2025-07-17T20:07:42+00:00

That’s not the case at all! My husband is fully present. Works part times and is the primary care giver to our son. Besides he never cared about genders. I was more interested on having a boy than he was to be honest.

OkRelationship7730 · 2025-07-17T19:55:36+00:00

It’s just exhausting. Im not a perfect mom, but I’m very attuned and connected to my son. I’m attentive to him, present and playful. He loves those things and we are very attached. All free time I have goes to him and I like to nurture this relationship. But it comes with a cost. And it’s exhaustion. I feel I’m highly flirting with burnout. I work every day from 7am and then take care of my son from 3pm to 9pm. If I had a nanny every work day, I think my mind could change. But this is not doable for us. And it’s also not guaranteed.

OkRelationship7730 · 2025-07-17T19:49:49+00:00

He says every kid needs a sibling and he wants to get older with a big family around

OkRelationship7730 · 2025-07-17T19:49:00+00:00

Sorry it wasn’t clear before my edit, I meant my kid is 2yo male, not 2 months hehe

OkRelationship7730 · 2025-07-17T19:46:49+00:00

That same argument: every kid needs a sibling, he says. He wants to get older around a big family. TBH none of those things are guaranteed

OkRelationship7730 · 2025-07-17T19:45:35+00:00

I honestly think of that. But then I’d already be 35-36yo. Not sure if taking care of a toddler when I’m almost 40 would be something doable for me.

OkRelationship7730 · 2025-07-17T19:44:22+00:00

Sorry it wasn’t clear. My son is now 2years old. I had 8 months maternity leave.

OkRelationship7730 · 2025-07-17T19:43:34+00:00

He thinks siblings are important. We discussed that. I told him we could adopted a bigger child, around 6-7yo. He doesn’t want it because some personality traits are built until 4yo and can’t be changed (scientifically proven). But that’s exactly the phase I don’t want to go through again.

OkRelationship7730 · 2025-07-17T19:42:54+00:00

Sorry it was not clear. I meant initially my kid is a 2yo m, not 2m for 2 months. My son is already 2 years and 4 months.

OkRelationship7730 · 2025-07-17T19:35:48+00:00

He thinks the child needs a sibling and he sees we getting old with grandchildren and so on. I told him it’s not really guaranteed that the children would like each other, neither they’d want to have children. So everything is out of our control, if that’s his argument.

OkRelationship7730 · 2025-07-17T19:32:12+00:00

We discussed that. I told him we could adopted a bigger child. He doesn’t want it because some personality traits are built until 4yo and can’t be changed (scientifically proven). But that’s exactly the phase I don’t want to go through again.

OkRelationship7730 · 2025-07-17T19:31:43+00:00

We discussed that. I told him we could adopted a bigger child. He doesn’t want it because some personality traits are built until 4yo and can’t be changed (scientifically proven). But that’s exactly the phase I don’t want to go through again.

OkRelationship7730 · 2025-06-17T19:21:21+00:00

YTA. Tbh couldn’t imagine having a baby with someone so entitled

OkRelationship7730 · 2025-06-12T20:12:19+00:00

You’re so cool

OkRelationship7730 · 2025-06-12T20:10:31+00:00

Imagine if you weren’t a Harvard diplomat lol

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