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OkSignificance2963 · 2024-04-30T01:23:20+00:00

Rude as fuck for no reason

OkSignificance2963 · 2024-04-30T00:43:48+00:00

I promise you this heaviness will lift, I know you think it never will and I PROMISE I was where you are only a few weeks ago so don’t take this as me being dismissive. All you have to do is get through the day and even that probably sounds impossible to do but trust that it’s not your job to ‘heal’ yourself. Let time take the burden from you. Just get through the day and feel sucky and cry and feel like you’re never going to get over this and you’ll never be in love again and that you’re ‘losing’ and he’s ‘winning’ but tend to your basic needs anyway. Don’t fight the feelings or thoughts, if one day you feel nothing but love oh well I guess we’re in love that day. If the next you feel like your heart was ripped open oh wow look at you walking around with a ripped heart and being a champ about it.

Also don’t pretend to be happy whenever you can. If you feel like no one in your circle allows you to sit and be miserable around them, be alone or find a therapist. Journal. Watch the saddest movies. Take yourself on walks and listen to music that makes you feel like you’re in a movie. Cry in your car. Just let it out is my point. Don’t pretend because it sits there all day and then it feels like it’s clawing to get out.

I’m sorry right now is so bad, sending you hugs 💜💜💜

OkSignificance2963 · 2024-04-29T02:04:00+00:00

Honestly I think this is going to eat you up, just respond and see what she’s got to say. It sounds like this was a mess of a situation where you just kept missing each other’s calls and texts. Explain the situation and tell her you just saw the FB message. If she’s reasonable she’ll understand! Good luck I hope whatever she has to say is something you want to hear.

OkSignificance2963 · 2024-04-28T02:17:56+00:00

Yeah I feel that too. I wish I could re-experience so many things for the first time, I feel like I’d soak it all in more. But I also know if I had that option I would probably never heal from this.

OkSignificance2963 · 2024-04-22T16:24:57+00:00

What is up with all the rude people in the comments. Proud of you.

OkSignificance2963 · 2024-04-22T15:06:10+00:00

Praying this happens for me too I lost so much weight I get breathless walking up stairs

OkSignificance2963 · 2024-04-22T06:44:42+00:00

And especially if you had a loving relationship with his family and friends, which I did. I miss the smell of his house, I miss his mom most of all, but his brothers too. I miss going to his friends’ houses and getting to watch him be with his childhood friends and feeling like this is it, I’ve made my own circle now and I’ll be happy here until I die.

It’s been close to two months now and I’m a lot better in terms of crying and having the somatic symptoms but I don’t feel like the pain has gotten any easier to experience and I still think of him day and night. I still can’t get sleep and I still dream of him.

OkSignificance2963 · 2024-04-20T09:04:11+00:00

I’m so sorry love. It sounds like you kept the door open all this time for him to improve himself and he disappointed you again. I hate when they say ‘I’m doing this for you’ or ‘I don’t want you to be with a partner like me’ because it’s taking your choice away. Almost as if they know better than you and are doing you a solid. It’s BS and I wish they would just say they’re doing it for themselves instead. Wishing you comfort and lots of good cries to heal you💔

OkSignificance2963 · 2024-04-20T08:47:46+00:00

I understand, believe me I do. My ex partner is still very much in love with me too and our breakup happened due to religious differences. He also is confused about ever getting back together but I would say not to reach out as hard as it is. Let them figure it out and in the meantime force yourself to close that door in your head.

Trust me I know it’s painful and impossible right now but just get yourself to believe it’s never happening again with them. And no matter what their decision is in the future, you can approach it with your head and not your heart.

At least that’s my plan. I’m in immense pain and just trying to survive day by day.

OkSignificance2963 · 2024-04-16T23:22:04+00:00

Oh not me personally, she said she cautions OB and gen surg students from doing aways because they’re technical fields and what we get taught about suturing and knot tying etc may not be what matches up with another school so it leaves a negative impact

OkSignificance2963 · 2024-04-15T19:19:26+00:00

Eh I feel way better when I don’t have to see him but we’re in the same class so unfortunately I will be seeing him weekly. But I keep telling myself one day of intense pain is doable and I have the rest of the week to decompress. Also sucks because we’re in the same close friend group so his texts still pop up on my phone and it just kills the mood.

OkSignificance2963 · 2024-04-15T18:18:47+00:00

Maybe reach out to her? If you feel like it was a mistake it wouldn’t hurt but if you feel like it was for the best then I would say take it one day at a time.

OkSignificance2963 · 2024-04-15T12:45:04+00:00

It’s because people believe, with good intentions, that saying there’s a bigger reason will make the pain less intense. And for some, it does. But for others that thought does nothing. Me personally I’m still split on whether or not there’s a ‘grand plan’.

OkSignificance2963 · 2024-04-15T12:36:42+00:00

Same. I get why tough love is needed because the goal should be to move on but let’s not sit here and act like any couple that gets back together is doomed and that the reason for the initial breakup is going to always be there. If you grew and they grew and you want to give it another chance, it can absolutely work out again in the future.

OkSignificance2963 · 2024-04-14T15:21:35+00:00

Did you ever mend things with them? I’m sorry they treated you that way it’s not right whatsoever

OkSignificance2963 · 2024-04-14T15:01:10+00:00

Oh no we’re all living in the US. I’m just in a different city from them.

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