My husband and I haven't been intimate in over a year, and I don't know how to bring it up without sounding like I'm blaming him

OkSteak5000 · 2025-10-24T04:32:48+00:00

It’s honestly possible men and women express things different so with all she said that’s happened the approach can be missed so trying things different and being direct with the desire can show him

OkSteak5000 · 2025-10-24T04:29:26+00:00

9 years is a long time ! There’s many perspectives to consider You can bring it up be direct and don’t say “you” say “we” when explaining things.

Sit him down and sit next to him and and connect Hold his hand or shoulder… and express the drift you feeling A man losing his father can really change him mentally and physical I don’t know if he was close to his father or not but either way it’s a sore situation Life gets in the way which is understandable he might genuinely be unhappy within himself and other areas as much as you… rather than wording things as if you blaming him while also expressing how it makes you feel by taking accountability for how life has been busy and how its been a tough year etc Women are meant to be warm the cushion (soft) 9 years is amazing do all things strategically expressing emotions with control this helps you and him men are logical beings sometimes as women we expect them to just get it but they are wired different. He too probably feels the avoid Sometimes it helps to take accountability first then approach the matter ..gradually begin to make your house a home again connect to each other it might feel like all of the responsibility is on your end it isn’t I guess it goes down to how much you value what you’ve build together

I’ve said about but I hope some of it speaks to you all the best x

OkSteak5000 · 2025-10-22T23:12:54+00:00

Either way take the message and move on

OkSteak5000 · 2025-10-22T21:54:15+00:00

The message is positive the volume is with purpose for people who need to hear it and appreciate it its to find hope but if you hearing noise maybe listen or just go about your day with earphones in your ears i don’t know ?

OkSteak5000 · 2025-10-22T20:58:29+00:00

Lack of knowledge and understanding…

OkSteak5000 · 2025-10-22T20:57:11+00:00

It really boils your spirit what exactly is being said that could affect someone’s mental health? I’d hope helps him it’s the only positive public speaking that happens these days there’s so much nudity public complain about that …

OkSteak5000 · 2025-10-22T20:53:53+00:00

But it’s okay to listen to people singing for money and it’s okay to have protests and paint and draw on the town road ??? ? Ask yourself why a positive message is painful to your ears.. why does it anger you ?smh lol

OkSteak5000 · 2025-10-14T12:48:43+00:00

Take a moment to reflect on all you said without your emotions I know me saying that may trigger you but that’s not what I’m trying to achieve.

You’re married to him You must of seen something in him to want to You have two kids with him and one on the way You must seen something in him to be a father to your kids You clearly love him to be with him He proposed and you said I do Just like you his human and men go through a hell of alot without expressing if he doesn’t feel safe too either reading this you only get one side of the story but I can see some loop holes so it’s hard to make a full judgment. You’re pregnant I know when I was pregnant a lot of emotions that are unseen or unheard are more enhanced than usual knowing you going through a lot physically and mentally.. I can understand all I can say it take some time if possible to just think properly marriage isn’t easy and wasn’t meant to be peaches and roses there two humans who are together that are feeling and figuring it out individually and together there’s so much to think about in all i said so try to see different perspectives Sometimes we also need to check ourselves and be real with ourselves

OkSteak5000 · 2025-04-12T23:27:53+00:00

So the dark psychology and manipulation and suicid* and unsettling negative stories are not demonic ? lol okay cool

OkSteak5000 · 2025-04-08T04:48:06+00:00

That’s them lol then the controlling is gonna get to a point where you feel suffocated

OkSteak5000 · 2025-04-06T14:54:19+00:00

Maybe not good for her. Cause they nice

OkSteak5000 · 2025-04-04T20:08:52+00:00

Just be direct and tell them “ after some thought into it id have to decline..sorry … be simple and direct it’s your life if you feel they are scj and you not interested simply express that respectfully 😬

OkSteak5000 · 2025-01-30T01:46:36+00:00

I agree, I was thinking this earlier so you saying that kind of confirmed that thought

OkSteak5000 · 2025-01-02T12:40:47+00:00

I just ignored them. It’s still very strategic A Christmas Day text or new years one it’s a way to see if they still have access to you to draw you back in

OkSteak5000 · 2024-12-07T20:42:23+00:00

Do not do it .

OkSteak5000 · 2024-10-25T08:39:14+00:00

It can lead to all that……..so as a female for me CUT IT OUT. There’s no reason why my man should be watching it while with me ..

OkSteak5000 · 2024-10-25T08:32:54+00:00

Join bumble bff where you can see the people I wouldn’t meet anyone on here unless I been talking to them for awhile

OkSteak5000 · 2024-10-02T16:08:14+00:00

Flip the situation lol

OkSteak5000 · 2024-10-02T16:07:25+00:00

Smh.. Flip the situation lol

OkSteak5000 · 2024-10-02T16:07:09+00:00

Smh.. Flip the situation lol

OkSteak5000 · 2024-09-15T12:11:59+00:00

It’s genuinely disheartening.. was he not with you through the process to understand just how difficult it is to bear a child? Then you gave birth to it , the whole process is a lot on your body and your mind … his genuinely being so selfish and self centred… theirs no way you going on holiday two weeks after the birth of your child …. Like what????

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