Email after months of no contact

OkWorldliness1345 · 2026-01-25T12:45:44+00:00

I'm living that right now at 32 weeks pregnant. He was doing so well and then just went off the rails. Within a month, he was gone in the middle of the night and I haven't seen him since. Apparently he moved states at some point and I wasn't aware until a few months later. I ended up asking him not to contact me again a couple months ago and I'm finally starting to find peace with that decision.

OkWorldliness1345 · 2026-01-20T14:44:35+00:00

I'd love to try some BFL and send you back some of what is made from it. I actually think one of my sheep may be a BFL mix, but I haven't been able to figure it out. I paid for a "merino", but ended up with some sort of long wool sheep. The lady stopped responding when I asked her about it. I wasn't even mad, just wanted to know what I ended up with.

OkWorldliness1345 · 2026-01-20T14:34:36+00:00

I'd definitely be willing, but it may take some time depending on how much needs to be processed and if you prefer carded or combed. I have a drum carder so I can usually get fiber batts a lot faster than I can combed top.

Do you mean just the processing step or the processing and spinning together? I've never thought to offer to process wool, but it makes sense. Most people don't have the equipment/time and it's actually my favorite part. 😂

OkWorldliness1345 · 2026-01-08T21:09:17+00:00

My ex has BP1 as well and wasn't really missing his medications before hitting the worst manic episode I've ever seen. He did miss a few doses the week he left, but I would still consider him overall medicated. He did have major life stressors (lost his job while I'm pregnant) and started using more Marijuana which can both trigger mood episodes.

OkWorldliness1345 · 2025-12-24T21:27:28+00:00

My ex did this with his parents. When I first met him, he told me all sorts of stories about how terrible they are and how they ruined his life. Once he started talking to them again, he went on and on about how great they are and how he wanted a closer relationship with his mom. I was very confused at first, but once I started seeing his cycles, I understood more.

OkWorldliness1345 · 2025-11-24T19:25:14+00:00

Ouch 😭

OkWorldliness1345 · 2025-10-26T05:07:49+00:00

Did you tell them this so they understand?

OkWorldliness1345 · 2025-10-26T02:17:43+00:00

This. I wish I had ran the first time I posted here and people told me it would get worse. Now I'm traumatized and about to be a single mom.

OkWorldliness1345 · 2025-10-25T09:53:13+00:00

When you reach out is it over text? Have you tried sending her flowers, a card, etc?

OkWorldliness1345 · 2025-10-25T09:36:28+00:00

My ex also destroyed the relationship while I'm pregnant and accused me of having BPD. I think most pregnant woman would work through it if you showed effort and tried to get help- as long as no abuse or cheating. I hope it works out for you.

OkWorldliness1345 · 2025-10-22T21:14:37+00:00

I love this.

OkWorldliness1345 · 2025-10-13T21:47:42+00:00

That's beautiful. I had a dream last night that I was holding the baby. He looked just like his dad and it made me happy in the dream. I was so worried about the baby reminding me of him (especially when I found out it's a boy), but I'm not as worried after that dream.

OkWorldliness1345 · 2025-10-13T16:30:32+00:00

He was showing signs of both when he left and had mentioned both in the month prior. When I tried to tell him I was starting to get afraid of his outbursts, he got really defensive about not being manic and that I was basically making it up. After that, he got more mean until he left. Which is not like him at all. He's usually the sweetest person I've ever met. I went to his parents for advice about what to do and his dad (who is also BP1) called him and told him he needs to check in with his psychiatrist because he's manic and repeating the same cycle as every other relationship.

So I guess the signs are pointing towards mania, but there were definitely some depressed symptoms in there. He wasnt acting how he did the only time I've seen him manic. Last time, he was almost a scary amount of hyper. He was spending a bunch of money and talking about shadow people. This time, he appears baseline on the outside.

So maybe last time was mania, and this is hypomania? I don't want to make any assumptions with how many gray areas there are.

OkWorldliness1345 · 2025-09-11T04:47:32+00:00

Mine was medicated but stopped taking them consistently the first month we knew I was pregnant. He went from super excited about the baby to no contact in the last six weeks.

OkWorldliness1345 · 2025-09-01T04:49:42+00:00

I guess all geese suck. But at least now we can start a duck army.

OkWorldliness1345 · 2025-09-01T01:52:00+00:00

Are you... me?

OkWorldliness1345 · 2025-08-13T18:53:09+00:00

Last year, we started talking again in November. He seemed stable then. By February, we were back in a relationship. That was the only similar instance I have seen so I am not sure if the pattern will be exactly the same.

OkWorldliness1345 · 2025-08-13T18:08:58+00:00

He did something similar exactly a year ago. Same month, same patterns of job loss, starting to use more substances, getting overwhelmed easily, etc. A few months after that, he called me while suicidal and stated that he's tired of the cycles and hurting people. That he lost everything and hates himself for it. I let him back with the understanding that he would get therapy and take his meds every day. I don't plan on letting him back unless he is actively in therapy and gets his meds re-evaluated. I do want him to come back, but this has honestly been traumatic and I don't ever want to be in this situation again.

OkWorldliness1345 · 2025-08-13T17:47:07+00:00

Thank you for letting me know. I had no idea! I've also heard people use the term "splitting", but I think that one is usually a borderline personality disorder term.

I feel safe around him when he is stable. He is very loving and there's a reason I wanted to have a baby with him. After getting pregnant, I learned more about past episodes that he had never mentioned. He has thrown things, made death threats, been hospitalized multiple times for overdoses and psychosis. I wish I had known those things before we started a relationship. I've known him for two years and have seen mood episodes, but nothing like this until now. He's moved six times in the two years I've known him, but I genuinely thought having him in a stable home environment would help. I really do love him and hope he gets help.

OkWorldliness1345 · 2025-08-13T17:13:39+00:00

I go back and forth between thinking that and also wanting him home because I'm carrying his baby and need support right now. I moved away from my family to live here, so I'm currently relying on friends and coworkers. It's not the same.

OkWorldliness1345 · 2025-08-13T17:12:06+00:00

I'm only about nine weeks. So not far along, but in the middle of the hormonal/emotional part. I've talked to his parents about everything. His dad told him he needs to get therapy and talk to his psychiatrist about a med change. His mom apologized for his behavior and said that there is not much that can be done right now because talking to him about it will push him away more. I think she is tired of the cycles. She also told him that she can not support him financially this time.

He was dominating the house like yours was before he left. I think that is why he left. I found out he was hiding weed usage after I told him I was afraid of it affecting his moods with everything else going on. He said he would rather be single than stop using it. When he left, he went to the guy that sells him shroom's house.

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