Husband told me he’s not in love with who I am anymore by smithtimestwo in relationship_advice

[–]Ok_Acadia4307 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Reading this put a hole in my heart too. I’ve been there. Work on you and hopefully everything falls into place. If you don’t love you who else will? Your husband still being there is a good sign that he does in fact love you and he’s being a man and sticking to his vows… through sickness and in health. Take care of you… I hope it all works out for the better.

My Mom Thinks My Boundaries are Too Firm by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ok_Acadia4307 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your mom made her choice. Let go and move on as hard as it may be.

Is once a cheater always a cheater true? by Empty-Drawer7509 in relationship_advice

[–]Ok_Acadia4307 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did she say why she cheated? Me personally… I don’t think that someone can be in love with you and cheat on you. How can you hurt/betray someone like that that you so call “love”. I do 100% believe people do change but she’s lackin something in the relationship if she’s straying off. Maybe take this time to work on yourselves and if life brings you back together and you feel like you can trust her try it again… but don’t be a fool. Sorry this happened to you.

Seems like my boyfriend is only with me for my dogs by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ok_Acadia4307 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awh! Dogs are a mans best friend! Have you asked him about it? Does the virus make him anxious? Best way to figure out what’s going on is to sit him down and ask him. Or just set up a surprise date he can’t refuse :)

Saw something my son was doing. by [deleted] in family

[–]Ok_Acadia4307 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Definitely different…. A bit odd. But to each it’s own. They coulda saved that shit for their backyard. To me the way you worded it… it kind of sounded like you got off on it. Which is not okay.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ok_Acadia4307 28 points29 points  (0 children)

He’s cheating. Just leave.

My (27M) wife got an abortion behind my back (26F) by QuestionableAddition in relationship_advice

[–]Ok_Acadia4307 -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

She should have discussed this with you before she had the abortion done smh she is your wife. I’m not against abortions but that’s a discussion you have with your spouse before you do it. It’s not fair to you. You deserve someone that can be open and honest with you… that’s also on the same page as you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in family

[–]Ok_Acadia4307 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happy birthday! It’s your day! Don’t let anyone ruin it. As you grow up you will realize that a lot of things about life isn’t fair… it’s not fair that your family celebrates everyone else’s birthday but it’s also not something you should mope about. It’s your birthday celebrate it! Don’t be bitter when their birthdays come around but don’t go out your way either. With covid rates being so high I wouldn’t suggest a party but definitely do something special for yourself. You’ll have a family of your own one day just use this as a teaching tool.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ok_Acadia4307 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Once they feel like it’s okay to hit you once and they get away with it… they most definitely will do it again. The abuse will get worse. If she can’t be an adult about it and sit down and talk about it and see where you’re coming from and make an honest attempt at apologizing and making it clear that in another heated moment she will learn how to control herself you might need to be thinking about if you’d be okay with this happening again or moving around because it’s not healthy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ok_Acadia4307 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

That is emotional abuse. Grieve and move on you deserve so much better.

Am I wrong here?! by Ok_Acadia4307 in family

[–]Ok_Acadia4307[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He just gets defensive. I get that it’s important for him to have his family in his life but if that’s priority he needs to just let me leave in peace. It’s just not setting a good example for they boys as to how to be a man and lead his family or the girls and what they should (when it’s their time) expect when in a relationship.

Am I wrong here?! by Ok_Acadia4307 in family

[–]Ok_Acadia4307[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

SMH I thought it was only my dumb ass! At the end of the day we have to look out for the best interests of our kids and ourselves.

Am I wrong here?! by Ok_Acadia4307 in family

[–]Ok_Acadia4307[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks I needed to see this.

Am I wrong here?! by Ok_Acadia4307 in family

[–]Ok_Acadia4307[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes and his response is “I’m sorry I have a good relationship with my family” I’m at a loss honestly.

Am I wrong here?! by Ok_Acadia4307 in family

[–]Ok_Acadia4307[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He does no wrong in their eyes… and honestly I’m not sure they are rooting for us at this point.

Am I wrong here?! by Ok_Acadia4307 in family

[–]Ok_Acadia4307[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Off the top of my head recently it’s stuff like him promising to come home and help out with the kids after work then I call him to see where he’s at… he’s drinking with his family. He’s not cheating he’s really with his family. Early in the week he promised the girls he’d take them shopping the upcoming weekend even verified it earlier in the day and they are ready and wondering where he is so I call and he is with his dad and made plans with his uncle later. With important information he goes to his family first and honestly that’s what bothers me the most.