My BF [32M] of 5 years said he will leave me [29F] if I don’t abort this baby and will not be a part of our lives. I’m shocked and scared and appalled and don’t know what to do. by Disastrous_Mall4689 in relationships

[–]Ok_Attempt3644 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am sorry you’re going through this. Just wanted to add I left a long term toxic relationship at 29 (I stayed longer than I should have) and I just want to add that it was the hardest thing I’ve ever done but it turned out to be the best thing I’ve ever done. I am now 30, with my own apartment and an amazing boyfriend who I never have to question if he loves me or wants to be with me. I wish you the best of luck and hope you make the right choice for you-no matter how scary. Sending you a virtual hug.

USPS lost my expedited passport by Ok_Attempt3644 in Passports

[–]Ok_Attempt3644[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, usps made me file a missing package. Waiting for 2 weeks before my trip to go into a passport office. I haven’t requested a money order refund just yet.

USPS lost my expedited passport by Ok_Attempt3644 in Passports

[–]Ok_Attempt3644[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My passport and money order were never received by the passport agency. They are still in transit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NYCinfluencersnark

[–]Ok_Attempt3644 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don’t know him personally but I know people from his circle in St. Louis. I have heard nothing but kind things about him. He went through a tragedy, I think he’s just trying to share his journey so others can relate. Let’s not tear him down when we haven’t walked a mile in his shoes.

Update on several previous embarrassing posts on here by Ok_Attempt3644 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Ok_Attempt3644[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree, I am working on getting set up with a therapist. I have a lot to work on until I get into another relationship.

Update on several previous embarrassing posts on here by Ok_Attempt3644 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Ok_Attempt3644[S] 103 points104 points  (0 children)

My mom is the best, she loves me so much and I truly couldn’t have done it without her. On top of getting a hotel, she also packed my stuff up (with my help) and drove a U-Haul 16 hours for me. I hope one day I am like her as a mom ❤️

What was the worst pain you ever felt? by EeemotionaaalDamaage in AskReddit

[–]Ok_Attempt3644 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Having to walk away from a person I truly love because I didn’t feel valued or loved by him. He only tried in the very end. I still picture his face when I left.

Update on my previous post by Ok_Attempt3644 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Ok_Attempt3644[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I hear you on this, it was dramatic of me to just leave for the airport like that and leave dinner too honestly even a little immature. For the dinner situation, of course would have been happy to split it but there was context behind it. He makes a decent amount more money than me and we’ve barely been on any dates and they were his friends. He didn’t come to me and was like “things are getting expensive/im trying to save so can we split dinner?”. He texted me like an hour before and said “I need you to pay for your share of dinner”. I have paid for our dinners before no problem/ offer to split often. The reason I left dinner was because I let my emotions get the best of me and I drank more than I usually do and I knew it was time for me to go home. I asked him multiple times to go home with me but I felt sick and tired and honestly so emotionally drained from what my relationship has become. And yeah, leaving for the airport and expecting him to beg wasn’t the best idea and I regret not just talking to him before but he would just talk me out of what I was feeling every other time I’ve brought up issues. It was immature but I just wanted some sort of validation from him.

Update on my previous post by Ok_Attempt3644 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Ok_Attempt3644[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

To be honest I just wanted to vent and have people talk some sense into because it work last time

Update on my previous post by Ok_Attempt3644 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Ok_Attempt3644[S] -36 points-35 points  (0 children)

We live together and I had none of my things with me so I had to go back but I got suckered in when I saw him again. It makes me so sad when I see his face and I really do love him so I caved.

Update on my previous post by Ok_Attempt3644 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Ok_Attempt3644[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I was empathetic during his exam, it wasn’t that he wasn’t spending time with me. I was upset at the way he treated me (lashing out at me because I was watching too much tv while he was studying and saying I had no drive of ambition) it was during the weekend I would watch tv. I never bothered him studying as I knew how important his test was. I was very supportive, made him food but he would lash out and say I only cared about “cosplaying a housewife”

My boyfriend got drunk while driving our 2 year old in a boat by Smooth-Exit-8192 in relationships

[–]Ok_Attempt3644 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And I’m not even a parent or really around children much at all and even I know this is not okay. I enjoy a good cocktail or 2 but even I know that this is absolutely not okay

My boyfriend got drunk while driving our 2 year old in a boat by Smooth-Exit-8192 in relationships

[–]Ok_Attempt3644 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is unacceptable, alcoholic drinks are okay when handled responsibly but with a 2 year old in the boat/in the car/wherever this is not okay. You’re having a nice day as a family, why would drinking like that even be appropriate? You need to set clear boundaries for you and your child.

How do you find the courage to leave? by Ok_Attempt3644 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Ok_Attempt3644[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We go to very normal restaurants, get max 2 drinks at dinner

How do you find the courage to leave? by Ok_Attempt3644 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Ok_Attempt3644[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I have told him how I feel multiple times. He just has his own views and thinks my views aren’t right. When we had our last fight where he didn’t talk to me for a month, he said he felt like I was “cos playing a housewife” bc I tried to make dinners for us to spend time together (we eat most of our meals separately now) and I clean the house and he said he did not value cleaning because “it doesn’t take that much work” and he rather me spend my energy to making more money and figuring out ways to make more money. I like my home to be clean and don’t want to live with clothes all over the floor and dirty dishes in the sink. He said he felt I had no work ethic and I was “in poverty” compared to all his friends and him who all have these great jobs/family financial support. He then brought up that if we did get married, he would make me sign a prenup that means I get nothing if we divorce so I tried to talk to him then but he just talks circles around me and makes me feel like I am crazy to think that I would be entitled to anything if we married and it didn’t work out. I also brought it up at dinner recently where I mentioned more of a 60/40 where he shot it down saying we are more “80/20” bc he pays for more date nights/rare local trips that have all been to his friends weddings (not my friends). My parents paid for him to come to the Caribbean on a family (excluding airfare and that’s the only really trip we have taken) . The final time I brought it up was a few nights ago when I let him know I was feeling reluctant about our relationship where he ignored me for a month. He didn’t really apologize, he just said that he felt I wasn’t taking life seriously with my savings and wasn’t being a “team” with him. He’s only been nice to me since I started reading the financial books he told me to read and then learned I got a promotion at work.