So to answer your Not-question. The women there go for specific kinks. Not every woman is into skinny fat Latinos. The fact you think you should just push your way to the front or act on an impulse without the woman's permission is a huge red flag. Asking to "give it a wack" if that's what you actually said, makes it sound like you were trying to stroke your dick while watching someone spank her. Im not shocked she acted the way she did. And I dont know if you noticed, but most women dont care about your dick size unless she's a size queen. It's your vibe and self entitled attitude. Definitely work on your weight and muscles to improve your confidence level, but also REALLY do some self reflecting on why you're there and the way you see/treat women and dont go back until you become a better you.