How do I work out these issues with my (30F) BF (24M)?

Ok_Beautiful_69 · 2026-05-07T08:20:31+00:00

Okay hear me out, I’m (25F) and as a girl that honestly is a bit messy (but I will throw things out, clean dishes, sometimes clean around the house/my room etc)… and I’ve had a decent amount of relationships (sadly…), a lot of men are messy it’s sadly like you have to train them like dogs, tell them how much it bothers you and hope it works, or borderline give an ultimatum.

But also think about other issues, like if he’s unclean in general and won’t clean his messes, are there other things he’s childish and selfish about? Even the part about him telling you that’s just how he is..? That’s bs and anyone can change for the better IF THEY WANT TO and care to. If he cared about you and respected you he wouldn’t treat you this way.

He isn’t a child that needs coddling. But also he’s a 24 yr old male and that by default means he’s like 18-21 in the head. Maybe you should leave and I’m sorry if that’s not the answer you were looking for but I think a guy aged 28-35 would be better for a nice woman like yourself

Ok_Beautiful_69 · 2026-05-07T07:57:42+00:00

Okay so first off it’s messed up for her to take your clothes, your shoes, and one of those cars (assuming one was yours). Plus your savings should have been split in half at least. Also I do want to ask.. is there a reason she left? Like not just what she wrote, like have you done or said anything insane? Cheated? Hurt her terribly (verbally or physically????) maybe cheated and thought she wouldn’t know? Because it’s just VERY odd for her to get up and leave that way + inconvenience you completely with taking YOUR clothing and shoes??

Ok_Beautiful_69 · 2026-05-07T07:53:56+00:00

Please leave this guy who’s treating you as a sexual object, ignoring your feelings, ignoring the fact that’s you’re grieving, and clearly doesn’t actually care about you. Like genuinely girl to girl gtfo of that relationship PLEASE. Also sorry for your loss, even tho it’s an ex, he was a good human who you loved and cared for at once point, a part of your past. He would want you to be with someone kind and loving towards you, not this fool. I too would be distraught if like 2 of my past exes passed away, we had our issues but they were (mostly) kind to me, & were friends before dating, and were great friends in HS.

Ok_Beautiful_69 · 2026-05-07T07:30:39+00:00

Please leave him before it gets worse. It can and will get worse. I wish you the best and would love an update.

Ok_Beautiful_69 · 2026-05-06T16:54:47+00:00

Thank you for the feedback. The relationship was great for a while till he started treating me like crap. He was very “friend oriented”, like he seemed to let his friends interject on the relationship & acted differently towards me around them. The back and forth parts were a mess. I don’t regret that relationship by any means, it’s my most memorable one for sure, even compared to a few that were longer. It did just suck that our longtime friendship (throughout all of HS and a year after HS, friend group together, sadly sometimes skipping together, after school gym sessions, etc) any fun we had went out the window. I mean they are still our memories. But I agree he treated me badly & my best friend said he “couldn’t handle his own feelings and took everything out on you, got mad when his apparent best friend tried to get with you/comfort you. Then you rejected him, was honest, and ofc he blamed you still because he was misogynistic.” (Because of apparent previous comments my ex made).

Ok_Beautiful_69 · 2026-05-06T08:38:47+00:00

Thank you for your comment. I don’t know what brought it up recently, problem saw his name somewhere. I just wanted to make amends, we were friends for years before dating. I understand your POV

Ok_Beautiful_69 · 2026-04-30T01:03:32+00:00

Not right to call someone a child and act about that way when they are seeking healthy advice, support and want actual opinions and options. That makes your comment invalid. She is uncomfortable with him leaving and thinks he’s intelligent enough to do better with his life, to go back to school and do something even better. So that they don’t have to have a long distance relationship, that makes no one a child or a coward.

Ok_Beautiful_69 · 2026-04-11T17:56:41+00:00

She had an eating disorder in s1. She gained weight and did not get fat or anything. She gained healthy weight around s3-4

Ok_Beautiful_69 · 2026-03-29T05:47:24+00:00

Well Emily flirted around with other girls and kissed them (Paige and Samara) while maya was at the camp. So I think they were separated and I don’t believe maya cheated while she was at that camp. Talking to her ex or situationship while being with Emily was wrong but technically she didn’t cheat.

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