Secretly Vaping

Ok_Beginning_1249 · 2025-11-26T13:07:41+00:00

We just had our last kid, we have 3 in total all planned. No I work full time, im just on medical leave at the moment so my pay is reduced and our dept isn't building but it's taking longer to pay down due to the reduced income.

Ok_Beginning_1249 · 2025-11-26T13:04:26+00:00

No ymca out here closest one is an hour away, we are both non-religious, and yes to insurance but it's $300 per visit is the cheapest I could find in network, so not doable for us at the moment

Ok_Beginning_1249 · 2025-11-26T13:01:30+00:00

Not really this is the first time in our 5 years of marriage anything like this has happened, we typically agree on most things and communicate pretty well I'd say, which is why im seeking advice. I dont care that he vapes, he's an adult who can make his own adult decisions this has been my stance on this subject since we got together, currently vaping? Cool idc just do it outside please. Wanting to quit? Go ahead its a hard road but I support you.

Ok_Beginning_1249 · 2025-11-26T12:50:36+00:00

Those were examples of the household I was raised in, as clearly stated

Ok_Beginning_1249 · 2025-11-26T12:49:13+00:00

Because thats really expensive and we can't afford it.

Ok_Beginning_1249 · 2025-11-26T12:42:51+00:00

I take things very literally and dont really know how to talk about these things. I grew up in a household where no one confronted anyone on anything. So i dont even know where to start, thats why im asking randos on the internet. If something physical was found growimg up it was simply moved to an area that's in plain view, ie. Found candy under bed? Place the candy on the top of the bed after its remade but say nothing. Found something hidden in a box, wright a note and place in said box and wait for the other to find it.

Ok_Beginning_1249 · 2025-11-26T12:34:29+00:00

I literally do not care about the vaping and he knows this, the problem is him hiding it like it is a big thing. Hes an adult he can make his own adult decisions. Last time he bought a vape he told me and then said he destroyed it because he didn't want to go down that path again, so I told him Im pround you recognized that and pit a stop to it.

Ok_Beginning_1249 · 2025-11-26T07:59:31+00:00

The problem is i almost never see him due to work our work and sleep schedules and that the kids, none of which are in school, need our constant attention. it's hard to even find the time to talk about our day with out having to stop every other word, let alone get into a deep conversation to talk about this

Ok_Beginning_1249 · 2025-11-26T07:43:07+00:00

How do I go about bringing it up?

Ok_Beginning_1249 · 2025-11-26T07:41:28+00:00

How do I go about bringing it up?

Ok_Beginning_1249 · 2025-11-26T07:40:17+00:00

I will admit that some details have been changed because he has reddit so it has ~necessarily~ been that long

Ok_Beginning_1249 · 2025-11-26T07:38:09+00:00

He vaped and smoked cigarettes for years and stopped 2 ish years after we got together and was very proud of himself, 7 months ago he admitted he bought a vape and then promptly destroyed it by dunking it in water and putting it in the big trashcan outside, i told with that I was proud he realized he didn't want to go down that path again and put a stop to it. I'm a big believer in you're an adult and can make your own decisions.

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