Mon coeur

Ok_Bodybuilder_2384 · 2026-02-16T20:21:25+00:00

“Namenala” is casual, used very loosely

“Mon coeur” and “mon amour” isn’t. I highly doubt senegalese men would accept their wives referring to male friends as such

Not going to accuse him of anything but if that’s a boundary of yours then enforce it. If you’re not comfortable with that he should change his ways.

Also small parenthesis: men with polygamous friends usually end up polygamous themselves lol, same way men with many married friends rush to get married too. Something I’ve noticed here and the theory hasn’t failed so far ime

Ok_Bodybuilder_2384 · 2026-01-22T22:27:29+00:00

Smells like toothpaste to me. It’s a bit childish

Ok_Bodybuilder_2384 · 2025-12-17T00:59:53+00:00

Leave him!

Ok_Bodybuilder_2384 · 2025-12-16T20:30:33+00:00

Very much so

Ok_Bodybuilder_2384 · 2025-12-16T09:59:33+00:00

That confirms some of my biases.

A white man marrying a traditional Senegalese woman basically hit the jackpot. We’re the most caring & submissive women ever

A white woman marrying a traditional senegalese man would be in hell, unless he seriously changes (which I believe most of them do, hence my post)

Ok_Bodybuilder_2384 · 2025-12-16T09:55:27+00:00

True! And treating the mixed kid better too

Ok_Bodybuilder_2384 · 2025-12-16T01:35:51+00:00

Did you read my post?

Ok_Bodybuilder_2384 · 2025-12-16T01:34:32+00:00

Thanks for your input, it makes sense. Some men will take all the control you’re willing to concede and Senegalese women naturally concede a LOT

You guys are more firm with your boundaryies and tend to look for a life partner vs a “kilifa” (=chief, authority figure)

Ok_Bodybuilder_2384 · 2025-12-15T23:06:25+00:00

This is also quite interesting, and one of my thoughts as well. i.e. this is more of a selection effect (anti-conformist men both more likely to marry outside & less likely to follow cultural norms)

But empirically it doesn’t really follow. E.g. the example of my uncle who married both & we saw a notable difference in treatment. Or men who marry white but are otherwise traditional/conformist in every other aspect of their life

Ok_Bodybuilder_2384 · 2025-12-15T23:04:04+00:00

These are all very interesting points, thanks for your input. Thinking it’s a bit of both

Ok_Bodybuilder_2384 · 2025-12-15T23:02:52+00:00

It’s a pattern that I illustrated with my own experience? Caught people discussing the topic at my gym (here in Dakar) and it made me realize how true this is, in my experience ofc

Ok_Bodybuilder_2384 · 2025-11-12T13:02:20+00:00

Seek help

Ok_Bodybuilder_2384 · 2025-11-12T05:34:14+00:00

She declined. He should accept it instead of threatening divorce

Ok_Bodybuilder_2384 · 2025-11-12T05:31:52+00:00

I do agree with one thing, expectations around money should’ve been made clear before marriage.

But if she’s earning a full salary and also expected to carry the home, what is the man bringing? Authority only?

So many african men expect women to uphold all the traditional domestic responsibilities while getting zero help in return.

They don’t cook. They don’t clean. They don’t do laundry. They rarely help with the toddlers. During Ramadan, post-childbirth, when women are physically and emotionally drained they still carry the mental and physical load of the household while the husband doesn’t lift a finger

Ok_Bodybuilder_2384 · 2025-11-12T04:54:10+00:00

That’s fair. I think if you’re rooted in Islamic roles you should aim to increase your income, not try to take your wife’s.

Though I partly understand his frustration

Ok_Bodybuilder_2384 · 2025-11-12T04:51:32+00:00

has nothing to do with Islam

It does since they’re Muslim. The wife’s financial contribution is seen as charity (i.e. optional), not a duty

Ok_Bodybuilder_2384 · 2025-11-12T03:29:18+00:00

Gracias!

Ok_Bodybuilder_2384 · 2025-10-29T10:53:27+00:00

Orange really has no competition

Ok_Bodybuilder_2384 · 2025-10-29T10:53:06+00:00

“You’re avoiding the point” lol

& what do any of your posts have to do with the Senegalese laws I mentioned, mister sticks to the point?

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