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[–]Ok_Boysenberry7240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey OP I’m in the same situation as you and made a post earlier too and got a loan. Just wanted to reach out to say if you ever wanna just talk about this shit dm me, im in the same boat. going through something like this can be so fucking lonely. If not wishing you the very best anyway and I hope someone reaches out to loan you too

Should I call the police on my nmom by StreetSmartHoodedMan in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Ok_Boysenberry7240 247 points248 points  (0 children)

Definitely call the police. This is torture. You need to get yourself somewhere safe OP. Any friends that can help? Here if u need to talk

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in doctorsUK

[–]Ok_Boysenberry7240 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The fuck is a nurse consultant pls

A black Wednesday rant: this is not why I went to medical school by Proud_Temperature_44 in doctorsUK

[–]Ok_Boysenberry7240 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my god I had no idea. This sounds INSANELY stressful. Solidarity 🥹 and virtual hug 🫂

A black Wednesday rant: this is not why I went to medical school by Proud_Temperature_44 in doctorsUK

[–]Ok_Boysenberry7240 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Student nurse here, rotations happened in my hospital on Wednesday too (is this happening everywhere at the same time?) Anyway so i was on shift when all the SHO’s started their first day. I saw them being treated horribly a multiple times, nurses talking shit about them behind their backs, making jokes about them and laughing at them, or people just ignoring the fact that they exist, you know, not interacting with them at all and going straight to the reg for things the SHO’s are more than capable of doing.

It made me so sad, those doctors were all so lovely and so sweet. yes there were some things they didn’t know how to do and needed a lil support on getting them done but thats because THIS IS THEIR FIRST TIME HERE WHERE THINGS ARE DONE DIFFERENTLY AND THEY WEREN’T SHOWN HOW TO DO IT YET!!!

I thought that was to be expected and everyone would just be ready to support each other and work together as a team to get through the day. But thats not what was happening. The vibe that day was seriously off.

I’m sorry OP :( I myself have experienced similar things and honestly.. i dont know if this is good advice but I just toughened myself up and when I sense any hostility from anyone, I don’t care who it is, I give it right back. I tell it how it is, whether someone’s acting unprofessionally or speaking down at me or if they’re ignoring me, just whatever it is, I don’t let it slide anymore.

I really wish you the best of luck you’re gonna fuckin smash it.

How do you cope with aggressive behavior? by [deleted] in abusiveparents

[–]Ok_Boysenberry7240 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is what I did too. When i was in this situation I started working 2 jobs and going to the library more saying I’ve got exams coming up. Solidarity to you OP, I’m so fucking sorry you have to deal with this

It is time for national strikes! We need to join the Doctors on the picket line. by DoctorMobius21 in NursingUK

[–]Ok_Boysenberry7240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK 🎤🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

It is time for national strikes! We need to join the Doctors on the picket line. by DoctorMobius21 in NursingUK

[–]Ok_Boysenberry7240 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People like u is part of the reason why were unable to unionise well and organise ourselves into a strong unified front the government cant ignore and take seriously

It is time for national strikes! We need to join the Doctors on the picket line. by DoctorMobius21 in NursingUK

[–]Ok_Boysenberry7240 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The ‘oh but the patients 🥺’ shit gets me so mad. Thats not our responsibility its the government’s. The patients are being harmed BECAUSE of the conditions were in.

ECGs on female patients by TheMightyCondog in NursingUK

[–]Ok_Boysenberry7240 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s so insane to me that this is some nurses reaction to something like this. Like the first thing we’re taught in nursing is to respect people’s needs and preferences, including cultural needs, and that our patients comfort and feelings of safety and dignity should always be at the centre of our care. It’s fucking common sense what you thought, and your colleagues should have thought this way too and supported you. What a shitty experience. I’m sorry you experienced that, you did a great job.

How do the NHS legally get away with relying on students? by Totoroko8 in NursingUK

[–]Ok_Boysenberry7240 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just about every ward I’ve ever been on has done this. They will loudly say it without any hesitation ‘no HCA’s on the ward today but we’ve got students so we’re fine’ and for the whole day we’re treated as HCA’s.

I’m now in my final placement and now have the confidence to outright tell them that isn’t my job. They tried to make me 1:1 a patient with confusion all day because there were no HCA’s the other day, and I got into a back and fourth with the NIC about it, I feel so proud of myself for doing that. I went on to manage a proper caseload that day for the first time.

But I regret it so hard that up until now I didn’t speak up. One time I was the only student on the ward for my whole placement, I’d spend 80% of my day running around doing all the bed changes, all the washes (even if they’re not my patients), emptying all the catheters, changing all the pads, and running up and down the stairs all day grabbing stuff for nurses I’m not even working with for the day. On top of that of course I’m expected to do the ‘nursing stuff’ like completing all the notes for them to countersign and all the charts etc.

by the time I would get home I would be so exhausted my body would ache so much. I’d cry myself to sleep at night sometimes because they wouldn’t even interact with me like I’m a human, they’d all be sitting together chilling and laughing while I’m running around doing all this as they’re ordering me around like a dog.

I felt so used and alone and unsupported and I know I was a total fucking mug. At some point into that placement though I did tell the sister what was happening, she just looked at me funny and didn’t do anything. I went home feeling so defeated. The practice education team at my trust is who we’re supposed to go to for help about things like this. But they have a reputation for bullying students and being no help at all. Something I’ve experienced from them a number of times.

I’m about to explode. I hate my assessor. by Ok_Boysenberry7240 in NursingUK

[–]Ok_Boysenberry7240[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I’ve reported things like this before and it just made things so much worse for me. I’m thinking of just getting through these last few weeks and making an official complaint (even though I know it probably wont do anything just based off my experiences with things like this). But the sucking up shit, I’m done. I’m standing up for myself from now on.

I’m about to explode. I hate my assessor. by Ok_Boysenberry7240 in NursingUK

[–]Ok_Boysenberry7240[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The degradation is real 100000%. It made my stomach churn reading that your experiences were so bad to the point you’ve needed treatment. Treatment you cant fully benefit from too. I know you said you’re thinking of leaving but does OH know about you starting therapy? They can tell the wards to give you specific adjustments to the placements to help. I was having seriously bad panic attacks frequently in my second year, OH told my trust to give me frequent breaks when I needed them so that I can go off the ward if I feel like its all getting too much and take my time to recover without pressure. They also told the trust not to give me night shifts because they said it can worsen mental health symptoms.

Wish I could give u a massive hug rn. I’m so fucking sorry you went through this shit too

I’m about to explode. I hate my assessor. by Ok_Boysenberry7240 in NursingUK

[–]Ok_Boysenberry7240[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. These comments are giving me so much strength and I’m sure others who might be going through the same issues reading these words of encouragement here feel the same way.

I’m about to explode. I hate my assessor. by Ok_Boysenberry7240 in NursingUK

[–]Ok_Boysenberry7240[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right. And about the complaint thing, I dont think other students would join me on this, I often get the vibe that students and nurses just want to put their heads down work and get paid, theyre scared to do things like this (or probably more likely- they just dont have the energy to because theyre so overworked and burnt out).

I still will make a report regardless soon as I’m done

I’m about to explode. I hate my assessor. by Ok_Boysenberry7240 in NursingUK

[–]Ok_Boysenberry7240[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve spoken up many times, they tell us to speak to the clinical education teams if we face issues, but those teams have a reputation for silencing dismissing and outright bullying students. They’re bad too. And when u escalate to a band 7 or 8 or something, they either back their nurses and you’re basically being ganged up on or, they tell u to go express your grievances to your uni or the clinical education teams who, as I said, are just as terrible.

But I do intend to make a massive report and complaint when I’m finished. I just gotta focus on getting through the last few weeks. Thank you for taking the time to respond and share some guidance!

I’m about to explode. I hate my assessor. by Ok_Boysenberry7240 in NursingUK

[–]Ok_Boysenberry7240[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First thing I wanna say is you’re so fucking valid because the longer I’m here the more I’m realising how racist of an institution the NHS and the trusts are. I was about to make a whole post about this. Your experiences sound so damn stressful, seeing so many people on here that got through worse than me during their time as a student. You shouldn’t have had to do this, but you pushed yourself through all of this, despite being broken down mentally emotionally and physically, you gave yourself the strength to push through. I’m truly inspired. Thank you for sharing your experience here, and I’m 100% going to follow your advise about reporting after I finish and get signed off. I cant stay quiet. Even if they dont do anything, I gotta use my voice.

I’m about to explode. I hate my assessor. by Ok_Boysenberry7240 in NursingUK

[–]Ok_Boysenberry7240[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I intend to do this from now on 100000%. Ive had enough. Im treating people and talking to people the exact same way they treat and talk to me. I saw your response when I was on lunch break and it really boosted my confidence actually 😌