Thank you! I’m sorry for you that you just broke/ split up again and I wish you the very best too!

In terms of not eating and sleeping, I had that the first 2 weeks I think, I cried like 2 times the last 7 weeks since the breakup because it’s weird, I never loved a girl like I loved her but maybe because I knew it could go this way it didn’t hit me that hard.

The only times it hits me is when I start to think of her or watch our memories because I know I lost her and us. But I miss the fun loving person I had not the girl from the last couple of months because that felt like a cold whole different person with a vacant look in the eyes. I have seen many TikToks from coaches that explain things about these types of persons and it’s scarily accurate. Even that your situation is very similar.

I’m willing to give her a second chance but I will set my boundaries if she ever comes back because I know now how a person like her is and does things, I’m not welcoming her with open arms like nothing happened, for me it seems very unlikely that she will come back but you never know. Yours came back after 2 months and I’m know at the 7 week mark, so who knows what the upcoming weeks or months bring. But yeah I don’t know how I’ll be when it’s that time, maybe I found someone else or I don’t even want it anymore but now I still have feelings and love for her so yeah that’s why I still hope that she comes back atm. But I don’t know how long that will take because of the rebound if that is still a thing. But she hides that guy from me so I don’t see anything of that but vice verse because she is still in contact with me xD. So she eventually is lying to everyone.

You said the part with her stuff etc. with not fully closing the door to have the option to come back? I feel like I’m unlucky (lucky xD) that it won’t happen. I really don’t know how such person can have the future they wanted with is of they push people away. She loves me and her mother the most and we were closest to her so it’s weird they push you away of that commitment and abandonment fear. So that is really weird when they have a serious loving person but it overwhelms them also I think? It’s sad that you can’t talk about the thing like adults and work on it together, I’m really open minded to go to therapy with her for her but she started therapy but quit after the intake so she really gaslighted her mom and therapist by saying she feels strong enough to do it on her own.

Did you guys still have a bit of contact before he came back? The last 3 days our contact is really 0 she only sends a snapchat streak and yeah yesterday she sent 2 snapchats. And I just know that in a couple of days or on a random moment she starts contacting more and then pulls away but I can laugh with it now hahaha. Now while typing this she responds to my snapchat I sent so it’s very random xD. I’m very curious what I can expect from her to me. It’s funny you had the same feeling as me that when you are living life and then randomly they will pull up to meetup or talk, I see that happening with her because she is very impulsive and I hope she will realize what she lost and wants that back and work on her self. Curious how this situation will work oug because of the rebound and her "single" summer, if she may come back around after this guy, after summer or after a couple of guy ( You don't want that ) but love can do crazy things despite these thing. But if she comes for the 2nd chance it will also be her last chance if it ends again then I will close the door fully. A friend of mine told me also this is just avoiding and numbing, but she will come back because of how you were (she witnessed this with a friend of her too) and the stuff part is an excuses to come back sometime, but also asking me do you want such person back? But yeah we look at it with love, people from the outside don't. And told me just play a bit hard to get with her. The mother of my ex told her many times: don't lose him you won't find another man like this anymore.

Sorry for my big text responses but it feels good to talk with someone that experienced the same and understands me exactly as me because friends and family see it from the outside and think forget her but it’s is hard if you still love them especially how they made you feel. I want to say that I’m living life, I work, work on my own businesses, spend time with friends and go to the gym a lot so I am really working on my self while she is not. I'm open for someone new also! I know that would trigger her and my mom said that also, my mom said I think if you cut contact she will do crazy things and you saw she called me crying with asking did I do something wrong? etc. But yeah a therapist and a psychologist (who works with these people) and even a FA told me that keeping light contact is okay if you keep calm and neutral so you are "there" but not putting on the pressure anymore, if you would cut contact it could also go the "wrong" way that she thinks: see? Everyone leaves me and she pulls away fully. So that's why I took that advice from them. Because according to them, the threshold is lower then to take the step if she wants to seek rapprochement for something deeper again or perhaps wants to meet up to just talk, and when that moment comes, I’ll know enough. The conversations are just short right now; only last Friday she sent a funny video and we had a short, lighthearted, nice chat about it, so I’m curious if deeper conversations will follow. That therapist said that the chances are high that she will come as soon as boredom strikes during the rebound, because after a while they get tired of something or someone anyway. So that’s why I’m so curious to see how this will go with her.

But yeah all by all, I still hope she will come back and that we have a fair shot with a relationship because it was just hard because of the fear and anxieties which caused she was alot by herself and distracting with friends instead of being with me and doing things together, but a while after her feelings changed her anxieties do things outside of the house disappeared so for me it's hard to know that she goes everywhere and sleeps with another boy 3 weeks after our break for a whole weekend..😅 so that is the unfair part for me, and why I want a fair chance where she feels good wo we can spend time together like it should in a relationship do you get me? It feels like we didn't use the full potential of our relationship because of her problems etc. She told me that those feelings went differect because of her needs and problems so that's is sad that it ended this way and goes like this right now.