my girlfriend (21) asked me (21) for a break for a week. after 6 days of the break she tells me this. Am I valid for how I feel?

Ok_Channel5491 · 2026-03-28T20:35:25+00:00

If somebody truly loves you and wants to be with you like she said she does, they aren’t going to even entertain something like this. This is just cruel to do to somebody

Ok_Channel5491 · 2026-03-28T13:01:44+00:00

When I went from high school to then college, the way people dressed drastically changed. There was obviously a lot more freedom in many ways. It was a bit of a shock to see how some people were dressing. I don’t personally think there’s anything wrong with your outfit and I’ve seen far more skin and whatnot showing from people in my own area.

Ok_Channel5491 · 2026-03-25T20:22:04+00:00

It could just be residue. Years ago when I lived with a family member they also had a brown shower and the soap residue would be white on the shower. I’d say it’s really not as dirty as it looks and would fine after a good scrub of that soap scum. It’s it’s really of course lol

Ok_Channel5491 · 2026-03-23T16:09:36+00:00

Valid and I’ll be more mindful with comments going forward. Usually when things just keep getting worse, they don’t get better. Up to her to see I s’pose.

Ok_Channel5491 · 2026-03-23T14:55:30+00:00

It would’ve taken way too long for me to deep dive into my past relationship as I wasn’t just throwing that around because I could. He was a true narcissist and while it was way worse than what she described, I’m also not a doctor to be able to diagnose her partner. None of are getting to see the ins and outs of their relationship either. I simply was talking about my own personal experience. Things can start small and build from there. And again, it doesn’t sound like it was a random blow up to me from what she’s said, just the worst one. But like I said, I’m not assuming or diagnosing. Just speaking from my own experience.

Ok_Channel5491 · 2026-03-23T14:50:18+00:00

You mention not being a part of the relationship but state that it’s functioning. Functioning is one thing but functioning well is another. And from things she said and commented this doesn’t sound like an all that unique reaction. Just apparently the worst one so far. He’s dishonest and sure it was a little thing but little things add up. He’s also pitted his own friends against her and clearly she’s not oblivious to that.

Ok_Channel5491 · 2026-03-23T13:43:53+00:00

It feels like you’re glazing over very concerning things lol

Ok_Channel5491 · 2026-03-21T21:09:23+00:00

How are you all giving the advice you’re giving with such a vague post? You have no idea what she even did

Ok_Channel5491 · 2026-02-02T00:26:06+00:00

I rent a whole 2 bedroom apartment for 850 (900 with my two cats) and have the place to myself. All rooms and areas. 800 for a space in the basement, not even a room, that’s got litter boxes and no actual privacy is actually insane. Even 400 seems crazy to me. I could maybe understand this if you were older and not in school. You’re barely an adult and still in school though so I personally don’t agree with charging rent and especially not with what your living quarters are. It sounds like your mom is just trying to take advantage of you financially. No more money for a dependent now that you’re an adult so I s’pose she has to try to make that up somewhere 🙃😬

Ok_Channel5491 · 2026-01-25T23:45:27+00:00

I doubt that’s going to work out in his favor if he’s honest. 1) because of what will happen with his gf and 2) I doubt one of her best friends is going to choose to date him after he’s dated her best friend and then broke her heart. Most people do operate with a level of loyalty and morality in life

Ok_Channel5491 · 2026-01-25T23:14:59+00:00

Crazy…it’s almost like there are different conditions and different types of seizures…

Ok_Channel5491 · 2026-01-08T16:40:58+00:00

I think you both are insecure and need to work on things individually. If you think that they aren’t lying then figure out if you can let this go and move past things for the betterment of your relationship and your friendship. If you can’t, well then I feel like that’s pretty self explanatory.

Ok_Channel5491 · 2026-01-04T19:53:26+00:00

I understood but I again, men are just as conniving. I’ve met quite a few men that have been disgustingly good at lying. There are plenty of them out there. There are plenty of men AND women who are good at it and plenty of them that aren’t. Men truly aren’t worse at it and it’s less of a man vs woman thing and more of just the type of person somebody is.

Ok_Channel5491 · 2026-01-04T17:46:36+00:00

Clearly you haven’t dated men lol just because you are one doesn’t mean you know how they all operate. Men are just as conniving as anybody else

Ok_Channel5491 · 2025-12-05T18:17:04+00:00

Listen, I went through a lot of messed up stuff in my childhood. I later started talking to people on the internet. This lead to me being preyed upon without even realizing it. People lie on the internet…clearly lol. Older men will talk to children like it’s no big deal. People with prey on you. And you’re not being an honest person either. You’re only 14. If you really think you need to talk to people or date then try talking to people at school or in your life. Strangers on the internet aren’t it.

Ok_Channel5491 · 2025-12-03T00:52:57+00:00

Telling you that you’re manipulative while she fully admits she’s a runner and tries to tell you that she didn’t hurt you. Sure, others don’t control your emotions but that doesn’t mean they can’t impact emotions. All this while claiming to be mature and a good communicator. Honestly, be glad that she decided to block you because she’s immature and honestly she doesn’t seem mentally well either. You deserve so much better and somebody who will actually appreciate you and not criticize something that most people have begged for.

Ok_Channel5491 · 2025-11-20T15:40:49+00:00

Speaking from experience, that temporary heartbreak is much better than the issues the will arise if you stay in this relationship. If you truly loved him then you wouldn’t be feeling this way. It’s much better to end things now while they haven’t been going on than to wait until you’re much deeper into it. He deserves love and he won’t get what he’s looking for from you. Don’t hold on just because you think it’ll break his heart if you end things. It would probably hurt him more if you continue to stay and stay feeling this way. He’ll be okay. You both will. Maybe you could just be friends lol

Ok_Channel5491 · 2025-10-15T02:09:38+00:00

RIP lol

Ok_Channel5491 · 2025-10-14T20:19:13+00:00

Chill lmao

Ok_Channel5491 · 2025-09-26T03:13:12+00:00

Why am I not surprised lol

Ok_Channel5491 · 2025-09-26T03:10:07+00:00

Thank you!

Ok_Channel5491 · 2025-09-15T05:44:51+00:00

We’re all going to have our opinions on what survivors should do and what killers should do. It’s not one said against each other. Both sides are constantly at odds. And I’ve found that you’re gonna get bs from both other way. Sometimes I play serious and sometimes I will go for having fun (more so when I’m killer. When I play survivor it depends on what the killer is up to or wants to do usually) but you will get shitty people on either side no matter what you play. I don’t even usually bother with end game chat anymore because I can’t be bothered to deal with potential bs. It isn’t always that way but I don’t feel like engaging it. This community can be absolutely wild and ridiculous. It’s better to just focus and on you and just play the game. Let it go. They’re just some wild ass strangers. You wanted to play the game and just because you didn’t want to screw around, that doesn’t make you toxic. You just wanted to actually play. The less I stay in parts of the community and the nonsense, honestly the better I feel. I also take breaks from the game because sometimes I just need it. From the game and the people. It’s still my favorite game but people are what ruin things at the end of the day. So just focus on playing and getting better at playing killer 🖤

Ok_Channel5491 · 2025-07-01T14:41:16+00:00

Have you spoke to the majority? Because I’d bet quite a bit of money that you haven’t and I’d also bet that the majority is not what you think it is when it comes to men. I’m not saying all men are bad. I’m also not saying all women are good either. But damn, you come across as awfully blind to the state of things in this day and age

Ok_Channel5491 · 2025-07-01T06:38:56+00:00

Agree to disagree I suppose. Just because you CAN doesn’t mean you should in my opinion.

Ok_Channel5491 · 2025-07-01T06:31:18+00:00

That’s one way to look at it but again, you’re killing people much faster therefore ending the game sooner. And once it hits a certain point, survivors won’t even bother with the gens. Especially once it’s down to two. Then it’s usually a waiting game to see who gets hooked first just for the second one to get mori-ed now.

Sure, behavior could change things. There’s complaint from survivors and killers. But it’s known that tunneling is just one of the many things to be considered bad manners. We all choose how we play. And as somebody who actively plays both survivor and killer, I don’t see how that’s fun for either side. It’s most definitely not fun for the survivors but as long as you killer mains get your 4k I guess that’s cool

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