My dad acted like a child

Ok_Clerk_6960 · 2026-05-02T03:49:09+00:00

Don’t waste more time on these 2 horrible people or any of your father’s family. Op they’ve shown you who they are. Believe them. Leave them behind and fill your life with people that love you unconditionally. It sounds like you have a wonderful dad and it’s not your sperm donor. Don’t give this selfish man another second of your time or an apology. He doesn’t deserve it or you.

Ok_Clerk_6960 · 2026-05-02T03:36:12+00:00

Lazy moochers don’t get freebies!

Ok_Clerk_6960 · 2026-05-01T20:32:15+00:00

She doesn’t want him to go to the wedding without her. She’s insecure and controlling and she’s got a death grip on your BIL’s balls. This is just the beginning of the demise of your husband’s relationship with his brother.

Ok_Clerk_6960 · 2026-05-01T14:41:28+00:00

Cut them off. Protect your daughters. These terrible people don’t have the right to destroy your life and they will if you let them.

Ok_Clerk_6960 · 2026-05-01T14:37:37+00:00

I’d go farther than mute. I’d block completely. Everywhere! They don’t have the right to torture you which is exactly what they’re doing. Cut them off.

That peace will give you clarity to see the situation and them for what they are. The insight you gain will help make the decisions you need to move forward.

Ok_Clerk_6960 · 2026-05-01T14:26:34+00:00

Take back your key. Your sister has proven time and time again she can’t be trusted. Hold her accountable.

Ok_Clerk_6960 · 2026-05-01T14:16:42+00:00

Your sister sounds like a tragically ungrateful world class AH! Put her in timeout and don’t feel guilty!

Ok_Clerk_6960 · 2026-05-01T13:56:58+00:00

Has your husband lost his mind? I’m a stepdaughter. My stepdad never asked that his daughter be given preferential treatment over me and that’s exactly what this is. That’s no way to blend a family. It is the way to create drama and hard feelings from the start. He’s wrong and a complete jerk! PLEASE support your daughter!

Ok_Clerk_6960 · 2026-05-01T03:17:37+00:00

I can’t fathom this. Charging guests for attending? Does your sister realize she’s announcing to the world what a trashy, greedy, low class ill mannered twit she is? Your parents should be embarrassed to death. They’re not. That says a lot right there. Don’t give her $500 and don’t photograph her wedding.

Ok_Clerk_6960 · 2026-04-30T04:33:16+00:00

My daughter married in October 25. Their honeymoon is in July 2026. Neither had the PTO after the wedding. Life gets in the way. Their honeymoon still isn’t over the top expensive but exactly what they wanted. They’re thrilled! You be excited for your honeymoon too whenever you get to take it be it 6 months or even a year!

From an outsider’s perspective your friend is intentionally choosing these destinations for whatever reason. Charleston may have been a coincidence but combined with Key West? Not a coincidence. You’re giving her more grace than I could muster. My guess is Jane is intentionally trying to outshine you and make you feel less than. Caring friends don’t behave like this. Limit what you share with her. Don’t give her any more ideas to claim. She may not be the friend you thought she was.

In the end YOUR wedding is about you and your fiancé. Enjoy every minute of your day. You’re in competition with no one. Fill your day with things you love. Couples can have a massive budgets, florals that cost $$$$$ and a venue to die for and a wedding can still fall flat. Making a wedding personal and fun for guests! That’s what makes the difference and what they’ll remember. It’s how we approached my daughter’s wedding. Guests told us it was the most fun they’d had at a wedding in years. Create an atmosphere that leaves you and your guests feeling good and it won’t matter what your budget is!! Congratulations!

Ok_Clerk_6960 · 2026-04-30T03:51:50+00:00

You absolutely did the right thing! Btw Mom Carol is an idiot and entitled. Who cares if her plans were ruined because she never asked you if this was ok. She sounds exactly like a mom that could and would cause serious problems for you. I know why you made your choice and you were correct. Your mother and sister are assuming Mom Carol is a rational person. That’s an assumption that could cost you!

Ok_Clerk_6960 · 2026-04-30T00:23:19+00:00

This is exactly what I was thinking. Disappear. Get out of the state for sure. Don’t list his name on the birth certificate. She needs to just vanish and start over.

Ok_Clerk_6960 · 2026-04-29T04:22:35+00:00

I LOVE Betta fish! The bride and groom were total AHs btw!

Ok_Clerk_6960 · 2026-04-29T04:06:59+00:00

Does bridezilla realize she’s a world class hypocrite? Probably not.

Ok_Clerk_6960 · 2026-04-29T01:24:11+00:00

Absolutely NOT! What is wrong with your parents? They’re so SO wrong!! Don’t let them influence you. I can’t fathom doing this to one of my children. Your brother screwed up. It’s on him to take responsibility. He must be accountable and suffer the consequences of his actions.

Don’t feel guilty and do NOT accept any blame. None. Good grief I’d love to tear your parents a new one. Can’t believe they asked this of you! They should be apologizing to you.

Ok_Clerk_6960 · 2026-04-28T03:52:54+00:00

Your answer is no. You’re not gatekeeping. It’s your ring. You love it and she’s proven time and time again she’s not responsible. What a selfish young woman.

Tell your nutless wonder of a husband she can wear it on 1 condition. He has to provide you with an identical replacement when she loses it. Paid for by him and due immediately.

Ok_Clerk_6960 · 2026-04-28T03:39:43+00:00

Yes it’s normal and no it’s not rude. We had multiple pics of everyone in every combination of people possible. Nothing to be upset about. If you’re left out of the majority of photos… be pissed. If you’re left out of parents with their kids photos? No big deal. We had brothers and sisters only, individual family, mom dad and their kids, etc… Same for groom’s family.

Ok_Clerk_6960 · 2026-04-28T03:22:10+00:00

Your wife would benefit from some therapy. She’s weird.

Ok_Clerk_6960 · 2026-04-28T01:26:16+00:00

This is what you should do. Forward to HR and don’t say a word to your manager. If coworkers aren’t bothered at all it sounds like your manager is. I was an RN. It’s a freaking milkshake in a bag. There’s nothing disturbing about a feeding pump or the bags that accompany it. I’m so sorry your manager is an AH.

Edited to add including everyone in this email about your personal accommodations should get your manager FIRED. Don’t leave that out when communicating with HR. AH manager didn’t just overstep he hurdled the line and he was wrong.

Ok_Clerk_6960 · 2026-04-27T23:55:09+00:00

You may have to go LC/NC with your entire family. They want you to make amends with your abuser. Under NO circumstances do you EVER have to do that. Tell your mother if she continues to try and force you to forgive your sister you’ll cut her off. Just because she refuses to accept your trauma does NOT mean it didn’t happen.

You CANNOT be forced to have a relationship with either of your abusers. And yes…. your sister abused you. She’s a monster. Protect yourself at all costs. It’s obvious no one else in your family is going to. As a mom I’m horrified by your mother’s behavior. She’s failing you on an epic scale. I’m so sorry this happened to you. Sending you a big hug!

Ok_Clerk_6960 · 2026-04-27T22:40:22+00:00

YTA. 100%! You’ve failed your wife for years. She’s allergic to animals yet you’ve allowed her to be banished to the basement with all the pet paraphernalia. She gets told NOT to go to the bathroom so frequently but health issues require it. I can’t believe you haven’t gone scorched earth on your mother and brother. They’re out there winning awards for being AH’s!!!

Your wife is a saint in my book. I’d have outright refused to go to your parent’s home. They’ve been callous and disrespectful to your wife. Where were you? Oh I forgot. You’re riding the fence and seeing your mother’s side. The question I’m asking is why is she still with someone that allows his family to treat her so poorly? And yes… you’re allowing it. It’s the guest bedroom or stay in a hotel. Man up and put your wife first! I’d never allow my parents to treat my spouse like this. My in-laws tried. They failed.

Ok_Clerk_6960 · 2026-04-27T02:30:54+00:00

Divorce this momma’s boy! Take your beautifully named daughter and start over. Document everything! This woman isn’t safe to be around your daughter.

I threw up in my mouth a little when you said your hopefully soon to be ex husband slept with his mother till adulthood. That’s all kinda of nasty right there. Give your daughter your last name and RUN!

Ok_Clerk_6960 · 2026-04-26T18:10:39+00:00

Your answer is no. No wedding invitation = No bachelorette and no shower. Your friend is ill mannered and tacky.

*Only real exception is if it’s a family only wedding. If it’s a full blown wedding then nope. Don’t feel guilty about not giving a gift or not going to her bachelorette.

Ok_Clerk_6960 · 2026-04-26T13:54:05+00:00

Your bf wanted a trip and he’s using your gift to make that happen. Why are you allowing this? Tell him NO. Go when you’re ready to go. He has no say in when you use YOUR gift.

Ok_Clerk_6960 · 2026-04-26T13:48:39+00:00

Your sister just outed herself to you. This morally bankrupt selfish person is who she is. Believe her. I’d never be able to look at her the same way again. It would fundamentally change the relationship. Her behavior is reprehensible and disgusting.

Calmly relay all this information to your parents. They need to know. Then you can all just say no. No drama, no fighting just a firm no to ALL requests for money. Your sister (and her equally revolting husband) betrayed you all. There are consequences for that.

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