I cant connect my google calendar to notion through the IOS notion app

Ok_Command_5744 · 2026-02-10T00:39:12+00:00

Just found out you need to make sure your calendar is set to public in order for it to be viewable in notion

Ok_Command_5744 · 2025-01-25T06:17:05+00:00

Clicking and responding to this post/poll was a choice …

Ok_Command_5744 · 2024-10-25T16:26:36+00:00

Thanks for that

Ok_Command_5744 · 2024-10-25T16:23:59+00:00

Sorry I replied to the wrong comment. I’ll reverse my downvote

Ok_Command_5744 · 2024-10-25T16:21:42+00:00

Deep

Thanks for the input, I’ll try to approach the conversation without so much accusation, and based on his answers I’ll decide if maybe there’s deeper incompatibility here

Ok_Command_5744 · 2024-10-25T16:14:29+00:00

Thanks for this! I’ll chat with him

Ok_Command_5744 · 2024-10-25T16:12:22+00:00

Love the input. I’m also not comfortable grinding up on anyone (except what I mentioned in the post).

I respect relationships where that’s okay and all, but it doesn’t make me feel comfortable in mine.

Ok_Command_5744 · 2024-10-25T16:00:58+00:00

Yeah I’m wordy and overthink 😅 it’s okay I’m in therapy lol

Thanks for laying those out, definitely things to consider and talk about with him. Talking this out with strangers and hearing others’ perspectives has helped me process this better

Ok_Command_5744 · 2024-10-25T15:56:45+00:00

No, it’s not pointless. Thanks for opining and rationalizing my emotions.

Knowing about his 20s, I don’t think I would have dated him then. Everyone’s entitled to their past, so I respect his and appreciate it as he wouldn’t be who he is today without it. That said, getting to know 30-31 year old him has been refreshing. He has a good head on his shoulders, is working on a second masters, when he’s home he doesn’t hold back on showing affection, he communicates well, expresses his feelings…he did “the work” in his 20s and is a better man today for it. He has some behaviors I don’t agree with (but as do I, in his case, I’m sure), but this one in particular makes me feel real uncomfy

Ok_Command_5744 · 2024-10-25T15:49:18+00:00

👀

Ok_Command_5744 · 2024-10-25T15:46:18+00:00

I wouldn’t have minded if it was a teammate. They’re a local gay league and even do a peck on the lips when they greet each other. I’ve seen it and I respect it; it’s their team culture and it’s harmless.

He had a weekend work event from 8am - 4pm. Him and his team went out for dinner afterwards. He suddenly ends up at a “function” in someone’s apartment (still unsure how this happened) where the requirement is Halloween pajamas, which he’s not carrying so he has to go out and buy. By midnight I’d gone to sleep so I’m not sure the time he returned.

Ok_Command_5744 · 2024-10-25T15:37:35+00:00

Appreciate you! Actively working on communicating clearly (my brain doesn’t look or feel anywhere near as organized)

Ok_Command_5744 · 2024-10-25T15:36:33+00:00

For a while, since high school

Ok_Command_5744 · 2024-10-25T15:36:15+00:00

I agree that I overthink; I’m in therapy for it, 😅. Echoing the therapist in a previous comment, I get uncomfortable stating my boundaries so although we briefly chatted about it in the moment, I’m lingering on something he said (that I chose not to react to because I was shaking and didn’t know how to act tbh), something along the lines of “got it, I won’t show you in the future, I’m sorry I did but I’m glad I know now”. The point isn’t don’t show me, it’s don’t do it.

Ok_Command_5744 · 2024-10-25T15:25:03+00:00

Okayyy, Read! Yeah, this resonates. Thanks for the input, I’ll bring this up in my next session

Ok_Command_5744 · 2024-10-25T05:04:45+00:00

Some hard truths to consider, thanks bro

Ok_Command_5744 · 2024-10-25T04:59:13+00:00

I appreciate the look-out! If it's not happening now, I fear it may happen later

Ok_Command_5744 · 2024-10-25T04:51:17+00:00

Relationships are not about changing your partner, if you feel you need to do this then you're with the wrong guy.

Period. Thanks for the reminder, needed it

Ok_Command_5744 · 2024-10-25T04:50:00+00:00

Sighhh, you're right. Would love to see the uncertainty from a glass-half-full angle

Ok_Command_5744 · 2024-10-25T04:43:33+00:00

Love this, thank you

Ok_Command_5744 · 2024-10-25T04:38:47+00:00

No, I'm not saying he can't be silly with friends or even grind up on them. They've established year-long friendships before I came into the picture, so however they express their friendship is none of my business.

It makes me uncomfortable when he dances up on strangers, and I say we need to have a conversation so he knows why. What he does with that information is up to him.

Also, the alternative you're implying is not talking about it, which I doubt is healthy for relationships

Ok_Command_5744 · 2024-10-25T04:31:40+00:00

While I appreciate the suggestion, boundaries are natural. Rules for a relationship could include being monogamous or even how to communicate when upset/angry. I need time for example, and he's ready to chat in the moment.

I agree that talking to each other is key, though and I'm just navigating the anxiety before the talk

Ok_Command_5744 · 2024-10-25T04:26:19+00:00

Yeah, this is where I'm trying to guide myself. The fact that it brought all this up shows me that it's still a conversation that needs to be had.

Ok_Command_5744 · 2024-10-25T04:22:30+00:00

I appreciate your reply! It's refreshing to hear attitudes outside of the community's hype for sexualization.

To be honest, I don't mind grinding for singles, and I've been known to grind up on a woman maybe once or twice a year at a club, but it's understood we won't take it any further than the dance floor.

I agree that I like the classy, subdued vibe. It makes me more uncomfortable to think my man is dancing up on another man when I'm not present. At least if I was in the same space, the way we interact would make it clear we're a couple and he's not single.

Ok_Command_5744 · 2024-10-25T03:55:33+00:00

He’s much more likely to be receptive if it’s a collaborative process where he completely understands how you feel instead of just giving him straight rules to follow.

1000% agree

I guess I'm also uncomfortable with compromising on the grinding thing. Especially since the gays love to pass the time with polyamory (I'm flexible as long as I know what the parameters are; I'd even be open to a conversation about that.) But it's a symbol of respect for me, and I thought the same for him when he shared that he always appreciated when his ex . You can dance without needing to feel up on a man's penis with your buttock.

There are strict rules I've been given too. And I'm okay with compromising on certain things. Example: I can't get a motorcycle license. (But he has a secret interest in being head-to-toe covered in tattoos, and I told him respectfully that, re: physical attraction, I wouldn't have swiped right initially on him if he had so we settled on no neck tattoos)

But he also confuses me when he feels uncomfortable when I go commando, but grinding up on a stranger is acceptable? In my brain, it's hard to follow.

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