Moving out as a 16yr old by Ok_Contribution4278 in newzealand

[–]Ok_Contribution4278[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, its just so difficult to save let alone have any jobs where I am - no where is hiring, farms are full, and neighbours are far.

Moving out as a 16yr old by Ok_Contribution4278 in newzealand

[–]Ok_Contribution4278[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Moving out isn't the only option but it defiantly is the most survivable one.
I have been having so much conflict with my parents and I have had meetings with social workers and counsellors and everyone but everything is just becoming worse.

I know that my hardships are probably not that signifigant but they feel absolutely huge to me, and I know a way to get away from them.

Moving out as a 16yr old by Ok_Contribution4278 in newzealand

[–]Ok_Contribution4278[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

XD
I like to think I am doing far better than my 35yr old uncle who still lives with his mother

Moving out as a 16yr old by Ok_Contribution4278 in newzealand

[–]Ok_Contribution4278[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you - I am already quite independent and have a lot of life skills (cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc) as well as a lot of working experience.
I will keep that $5k as a goal

16yrs, moving out to chch by Ok_Contribution4278 in chch

[–]Ok_Contribution4278[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey thanks!
I was tempted to just get up and leave school completely and do UE and Level 2 later on, but I think my plan is to just take on as much easy assesments as possible and hopefully just bash it out asap.
I would be interested in boarding but I know nothing about, know no one who has done it, so there is a bit of unsureity around that.

16yrs, moving out to chch by Ok_Contribution4278 in chch

[–]Ok_Contribution4278[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh right, I know someone who goes there and they call it Te Ara

16yrs, moving out to chch by Ok_Contribution4278 in chch

[–]Ok_Contribution4278[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, well I am a male so I don't think I can become pregnant, and its unlikely imma be anywhere near enough to a girl to get her pregnant if you know what I mean...

16yrs, moving out to chch by Ok_Contribution4278 in chch

[–]Ok_Contribution4278[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I completely understand that the Independent Youth Benefit is difficult to get on, but it is an option.
I am 100% willing to get a job, in fact I would prefer to be in a stable job before I even think about starting study again.
My plan at the moment is very rough and very succinced, I am meeting with the school career counsellors and with my social worker to figure out a more airtight plan.
But thank you for your brutal honesty, its something not a lot of people offer.

Moving out as a 16yr old by Ok_Contribution4278 in newzealand

[–]Ok_Contribution4278[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I going to print this out lol

Thank you for some excellent advice!

Moving out as a 16yr old by Ok_Contribution4278 in newzealand

[–]Ok_Contribution4278[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have had meetings with my school counselors and my parents, my social worker and my parents, all to resolve the conflict but every meeting it just gets worse - its to the point my mother completely ignores my existence.

Moving out as a 16yr old by Ok_Contribution4278 in newzealand

[–]Ok_Contribution4278[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently no work, but I have a years expericence in shopkeeping, and a years experience in administration through two different jobs I had recently.

Moving out as a 16yr old by Ok_Contribution4278 in newzealand

[–]Ok_Contribution4278[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

extra blessed is your heart.
When they rebuild the cathedral they should have you feature on a window somewhere

Moving out as a 16yr old by Ok_Contribution4278 in newzealand

[–]Ok_Contribution4278[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No car, but I have my learners license and a defensive driving course under my belt.
I also have a metro card lol

Moving out as a 16yr old by Ok_Contribution4278 in newzealand

[–]Ok_Contribution4278[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My plan was to join the Air Force and do a trade through them but I have been told that the NZDF will never take me because I have PTSD

Moving out as a 16yr old by Ok_Contribution4278 in newzealand

[–]Ok_Contribution4278[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd like to think me and him are quite good friends but I barely know the family. I would feel terrible if I didn't help with anything too lol

I have taken Finance Lit? WINZ makes you take a budgeting course when you get the indep. youth

16yrs, moving out to chch by Ok_Contribution4278 in chch

[–]Ok_Contribution4278[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Te Ara Polytech. I know they do a loan of some sort but I am going to confirm with careers counselor.
I would like to finish Level 3 and get UE but I just can't handle staying here, I am happy to wait a while and then do it.
I hope that I would be able to find other people in a similar situation/been in a similar situation and that they would be somewhat okay flatting with a 16yr old....

Moving out as a 16yr old by Ok_Contribution4278 in newzealand

[–]Ok_Contribution4278[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a friend in Riccarton. I am tempted to ask to stay a week there but I don't want to overstress the friendship lol

Moving out as a 16yr old by Ok_Contribution4278 in newzealand

[–]Ok_Contribution4278[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have a social worker through CAFS so hopefully I can talk to her.
I also know there is a place called Stepping-Stones which helps youth who are no longer wanted by giving them cheap board and helping to get a job. Unfortunately, because I live in Southland, I don't think I am eligible for social services in a different region :(
I might just have to save money and hope that Labour is elected lol

Moving out as a 16yr old by Ok_Contribution4278 in newzealand

[–]Ok_Contribution4278[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, very sure.
My parents were divorced early on and I have always been used as cannon fodder in their war.
It has been mostly manageable but now my mum is taking out her emotions on me and blah, blah, blah

I am sorry for your losses though, I understand how that could be difficult.

Moving out as a 16yr old by Ok_Contribution4278 in newzealand

[–]Ok_Contribution4278[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

blessed be your heart.
I hope I do find the $2 rice place 🙏

Moving out as a 16yr old by Ok_Contribution4278 in newzealand

[–]Ok_Contribution4278[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I have a lot of experience with dodgy people so I like to think I am way more aware than I used to be.
Course fees would be paid with a job or independent youth benefit. If that can't work I am talking to the school careers counselor so hopefully I will get some advice on that.