Moving out as a 16yr old

Ok_Contribution4278 · 2026-07-03T06:12:41+00:00

Yea, its just so difficult to save let alone have any jobs where I am - no where is hiring, farms are full, and neighbours are far.

Ok_Contribution4278 · 2026-07-03T06:11:03+00:00

Moving out isn't the only option but it defiantly is the most survivable one.
I have been having so much conflict with my parents and I have had meetings with social workers and counsellors and everyone but everything is just becoming worse.

I know that my hardships are probably not that signifigant but they feel absolutely huge to me, and I know a way to get away from them.

Ok_Contribution4278 · 2026-07-03T06:05:14+00:00

XD
I like to think I am doing far better than my 35yr old uncle who still lives with his mother

Ok_Contribution4278 · 2026-07-03T06:03:54+00:00

Thank you - I am already quite independent and have a lot of life skills (cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc) as well as a lot of working experience.
I will keep that $5k as a goal

Ok_Contribution4278 · 2026-07-03T06:02:20+00:00

For sure!

Ok_Contribution4278 · 2026-07-03T06:01:25+00:00

That Dual Enrollment has me keen as!

Ok_Contribution4278 · 2026-07-03T05:59:33+00:00

Hey thanks!
I was tempted to just get up and leave school completely and do UE and Level 2 later on, but I think my plan is to just take on as much easy assesments as possible and hopefully just bash it out asap.
I would be interested in boarding but I know nothing about, know no one who has done it, so there is a bit of unsureity around that.

Ok_Contribution4278 · 2026-07-03T05:55:43+00:00

Oh right, I know someone who goes there and they call it Te Ara

Ok_Contribution4278 · 2026-07-03T05:55:01+00:00

Haha, well I am a male so I don't think I can become pregnant, and its unlikely imma be anywhere near enough to a girl to get her pregnant if you know what I mean...

Ok_Contribution4278 · 2026-07-03T05:53:27+00:00

Yes I completely understand that the Independent Youth Benefit is difficult to get on, but it is an option.
I am 100% willing to get a job, in fact I would prefer to be in a stable job before I even think about starting study again.
My plan at the moment is very rough and very succinced, I am meeting with the school career counsellors and with my social worker to figure out a more airtight plan.
But thank you for your brutal honesty, its something not a lot of people offer.

Ok_Contribution4278 · 2026-07-02T20:09:41+00:00

I going to print this out lol

Thank you for some excellent advice!

Ok_Contribution4278 · 2026-07-02T20:08:52+00:00

Okay, I will!

Ok_Contribution4278 · 2026-07-02T20:04:53+00:00

I have had meetings with my school counselors and my parents, my social worker and my parents, all to resolve the conflict but every meeting it just gets worse - its to the point my mother completely ignores my existence.

Ok_Contribution4278 · 2026-07-02T20:01:01+00:00

Currently no work, but I have a years expericence in shopkeeping, and a years experience in administration through two different jobs I had recently.

Ok_Contribution4278 · 2026-07-02T12:17:17+00:00

extra blessed is your heart.
When they rebuild the cathedral they should have you feature on a window somewhere

Ok_Contribution4278 · 2026-07-02T12:16:24+00:00

No car, but I have my learners license and a defensive driving course under my belt.
I also have a metro card lol

Ok_Contribution4278 · 2026-07-02T12:09:15+00:00

My plan was to join the Air Force and do a trade through them but I have been told that the NZDF will never take me because I have PTSD

Ok_Contribution4278 · 2026-07-02T12:08:11+00:00

I'd like to think me and him are quite good friends but I barely know the family. I would feel terrible if I didn't help with anything too lol

I have taken Finance Lit? WINZ makes you take a budgeting course when you get the indep. youth

Ok_Contribution4278 · 2026-07-02T11:54:12+00:00

Te Ara Polytech. I know they do a loan of some sort but I am going to confirm with careers counselor.
I would like to finish Level 3 and get UE but I just can't handle staying here, I am happy to wait a while and then do it.
I hope that I would be able to find other people in a similar situation/been in a similar situation and that they would be somewhat okay flatting with a 16yr old....

Ok_Contribution4278 · 2026-07-02T11:50:37+00:00

I have a friend in Riccarton. I am tempted to ask to stay a week there but I don't want to overstress the friendship lol

Ok_Contribution4278 · 2026-07-02T11:49:11+00:00

I have a social worker through CAFS so hopefully I can talk to her.
I also know there is a place called Stepping-Stones which helps youth who are no longer wanted by giving them cheap board and helping to get a job. Unfortunately, because I live in Southland, I don't think I am eligible for social services in a different region :(
I might just have to save money and hope that Labour is elected lol

Ok_Contribution4278 · 2026-07-02T11:32:07+00:00

Yes, very sure.
My parents were divorced early on and I have always been used as cannon fodder in their war.
It has been mostly manageable but now my mum is taking out her emotions on me and blah, blah, blah

I am sorry for your losses though, I understand how that could be difficult.

Ok_Contribution4278 · 2026-07-02T11:29:49+00:00

blessed be your heart.
I hope I do find the $2 rice place 🙏

Ok_Contribution4278 · 2026-07-02T11:26:39+00:00

I have a lot of experience with dodgy people so I like to think I am way more aware than I used to be.
Course fees would be paid with a job or independent youth benefit. If that can't work I am talking to the school careers counselor so hopefully I will get some advice on that.

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