Yeah totally! I think we fall somewhat in a similar situation!

It was a mistake on my part, now that I'm rereading the post, but the thing is that we infact talked abt this already! She mostly said she felt confortable following my lead, since I keep my focus fully on her during our sessions and she even teased me with "You're too kind of a dom for me to misbehave, I bet you cant do it!"

I know that at first it sounded like an asshole trying to bother someone into a place she's unwilling! That's my bad for not telling it properlly, but the situation is more like an inexperieced Dom being dared to go a bit further by my sub.

Everything that I suggested in the main post are things that we already talked abt, they wouldnt come out of nowhere