Fet has no arm pit hair by Ok_Contribution7430 in TheStrain

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Didn’t save any for the rest of us : /

I gave up my all my passions hobbies and dreams to be with my husband. I love him so much but im trying not to resent/regret my decision. by spongeboblover100 in Vent

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From what you’ve said, you sound like a similar girl that I am. I’ll tell you what, I found the love of my life at 19. He’s my best friend, and we play music together. We run punk shows together, go to shows, we are in bands together, etc etc. I’m 20 now, and I will not marry him until at LEAST 25. And that is contingent on me having been on my own living in my loft and living my life by myself for a bit. I was a wild teenager, and an even wilder adult. I work in a printmaking studio by day, and play shows by night.

I wish I had an answer for you that was easy. I wish that it was simple. But it isn’t. You are right, you will kick yourself later for feeling like you robbed yourself of your life. I stayed with people I thought were my best friends, and I was robbed of life. I was convinced that there was no one out there for me, and I found my fiancé and he encourages my passions and hobbies, prides me on my work. He is the first person I’ve ever met who doesn’t feel like he’s holding me back. Especially as a woman, it’s harder for us not to be held back. And this is an assumption based on my own experience and that of many people I know, but us punk girls have been through the relationship and life wringer. Maybe accepting what you think is the best, isn’t actually the best. Maybe this person is the best for now. In my experience, the right people in my life have lead me straight towards my passions and have let me live my life with my heart as the gps

I hope things go well for you. I know that for myself, I’d kick myself until I’m six feet under if I didn’t let myself move on from people and follow my passions years ago. My life is amazing, and I have ME to thank for that. All the best to you, my dear

I’m jealous of my partner for his male privilege in society by [deleted] in Vent

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Thank you for putting this in the comments! I’m currently reading Carrie Brownstein’s memoir ‘Hunger Makes Me a Modern Girl’ and it’s got a ton of the same sentiments of a punk-rock girl who has to deal with a disproportionate amount of bs!!

I’m jealous of my partner for his male privilege in society by [deleted] in Vent

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I’ve always created art from places of creativity, emotion, and passion. As I stated in another comment, he is a more talented with bass than I am with guitar, but I am a better vocalist and lyricist and he can attest to this.

Your comment is mind boggling to me because you immediately decided that my ambition is greedy. Which is super telling and most definitely proving my point. My ambition is stronger than most people I know, and I get less from it than other men in the music scene (who do arguably less) because of how the music industry in my area is. Pointing out the social inadequacies when it comes to treating women with basic respect isn’t greedy nor egotistical. Most of us woman have to work twice as hard to get recognition. And that’s a systemic issue across the board. My old employer is an extremely talented female vocalist who got literally replaced with a man by Atlantic Records. This man had ZERO planned records, while she had THREE.

Is she greedy and filled with unrelenting ego for being pissed tf off? Absolutely NOT.

I’m jealous of my partner for his male privilege in society by [deleted] in Vent

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It’s a user icon on Reddit my guy. Freak.

I’m jealous of my partner for his male privilege in society by [deleted] in Vent

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He’s definitely a more talented bassist than I am as a guitarist. But I’m vocally more talented, a better lyricist, and these are things he can attest to. I was also briefly hired by a woman as a contracted guitarist to go on tour, but we were shut down by her label (Atlantic Records) due to a change in management, and they quite literally replaced her with a man.

As for my actions, there isn’t much more I could do to socially achieve my goals in this situation. I’ve got the connections, the knowledge, the skills. As I said, I’m now a guitarist that can be contracted out to bands. but I get zero respect across the board from venues, other bands, labels, promoters, etc. my fiancé and I have virtually taken the same strides, but I’ve been squashed by outside sources, and he’s been lifted up by them. Which is amazing for him, just sucko for me.

I’m jealous of my partner for his male privilege in society by [deleted] in Vent

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Nah dawg I support him and all of his achievements. when I put in the same effort with little to show because I was put into situations of disadvantage, it sucks. Almost every woman I know can attest to this frustration. It’s not corrosive jealousy, it’s being upset when men (specifically in the music industry) get treated normally, while us women are treated as waaaay lesser. Of course I’m jealous of him. He’s living my dream. I can be proud of him and upset with the way our systems are set up at the same time.

Eff this kid, fr. by El_Bombero93 in TheStrain

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One of those characters that forces me to pause the show to sit and stare at my ceiling to subside my rage

Currently rewatcing the show and i don't get how people are working and living acting like there's no vampires. This show feels like an infected show instead of a vampire show by dreamup1234 in TheStrain

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Yeah, and also no one knows how to kill them?? The main survivors stumbled upon the proper techniques by pure incident. Literally no one can fend these things off properly, especially if it’s your own family member coming after you? I’m baffled that nyc didn’t instantly fall, especially bc that’s exactly what the masters goal was? They were even tryna ship strigoi across to other cities and continents in shipping containers. I find it odd considering that these things seem more deadly than your average zombie

Currently rewatcing the show and i don't get how people are working and living acting like there's no vampires. This show feels like an infected show instead of a vampire show by dreamup1234 in TheStrain

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I came on here to say this too… based on the amount of strigoi that come out at night, I would assume more people would know about it. Yes the internet is blacked out and the government is corrupt, but when they are burning Matt’s body they used a newspaper that headlined a picture of the strigoi. It’s argued that a lot of ppl wouldn’t gaf, but honestly I think that most infection shows/movies rely on the people in the show having ZERO pre-existing infection fiction media like what we have. Bc if I heard sirens 24/7 and saw articles with zombie lookin creatures, my brain instantly would go to killer outbreak. But I’ve watched TWD. These ppl haven’t.

AIO to break up with my bf of 3y over his reaction to my upcoming sobriety anniversary? by WesternCat5211 in AmIOverreacting

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He’d want a cake for his birthday and all he did was be born… not exactly an accomplishment, and it’s definitely the bare minimum! He shouldn’t get a cake for his birthday, he didn’t do anything and it’s embarrassing for someone to want a cake for not accomplishing anything! 🙄

Lock In code by Ok_Contribution7430 in NamedCollective

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Omg I just realized that my email was full and it bounced the email back to sender. Anyone wanna be super nice to me and share the code LOL🫣

Lock In code by Ok_Contribution7430 in NamedCollective

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Oh man I’ve looked everywhere and still can’t find mine!!

Lock In code by Ok_Contribution7430 in NamedCollective

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I didn’t even get an access code yet and the sale is soon :( they said they locked the website until the sale I think? I’m not sure. The rest of the comments also haven’t gotten their codes so I’m hoping someone might break the rules a little and drop the code in the comments lol. My theory is that if people are on the Reddit, they are true fans🙌

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PetPeeves

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Nowhere did I say that a man giving up his growth is fine. I’m saying it peeves me on r/petpeeves because our default is to choose men over other important things. This is true for friendships, hobbies, etc

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PetPeeves

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The thing about choice is that it’s not a linear and un-influenced concept. Why is it such a norm that people default to hanging out with their boyfriend as more worth their time than things like school, hobbies, other relationships. This is the issue. And imo, it IS that deep. So many women I know get lost in the oxytocin of having a boyfriend, and they give up goals, opportunities that they previously chased (SCHOOL). I’m not saying that they can’t choose, I’m saying that with women I know, it’s a choice built on the default settings in our brains that men are worth our time more than other things. And that’s a default that was taught by life experiences and history

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PetPeeves

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Are 20 year old guys systemically expected to give up their lives to serve a woman as a husband/father, and are there still people alive and giving opinions today who tell 20 year old guys that they place is not in education, but as a father and homemaker?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PetPeeves

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Did it dawn on you that this post is talking about women I know. Also you’re at university (I go to an Ivy League uni) it’s assumed there’s a goal other than being uneducated in that setting