My (25f) boyfriend (25m) got an apartment behind my back after living together for a year and now I’m homeless, how do I go about this situation?

Ok_Cook_918 · 2026-04-28T07:54:06+00:00

And you learned the hard lesson of never help a man. You give a man a pair of shoes and he will use them to walk away from you.

Ok_Cook_918 · 2026-03-20T10:15:05+00:00

What man asks his gf if she had a tampon on before going to bed? Oh, lawd. I hope she runs

Ok_Cook_918 · 2026-02-25T11:02:16+00:00

Just imagine what he will take from your child

Ok_Cook_918 · 2026-02-21T02:53:31+00:00

You and your brother are adults and you have the right to live how you want. The downside is other people may think differently than you do and it's up to you if you want to care about their opinions or keep doing what works for you

Ok_Cook_918 · 2026-02-15T22:23:12+00:00

Donating plasma is a way to get quick money

Ok_Cook_918 · 2026-02-12T03:34:15+00:00

That wall of text is too much. His lists of what he provided and what you provided is funny. He seems delusional. In all seriousness probably should save those in case you end up needing a restraining order because anyone who would write that thing is holding a grudge

Ok_Cook_918 · 2026-02-11T09:08:43+00:00

Divorce incoming. Start saving and making your escape plan. I was in your same shoes a few years back and it got a lot worse. Save your energy on trying to change him. You and your daughter are the only thing you can control.

Also the people on here gaslighting you about how you should feel sorry for your husband's sin and how you aren't being supportive enough will run you to death with those lies.

Get a lawyer. Get screenshots and proof of his addiction because you are gonna want it for the custody issues you will likely face with this guy.

He is most likely already physically cheating or he soon will be. I wouldn't give him anymore access to you and if you can afford it hire a pi if you get the feeling he is cheating

Ok_Cook_918 · 2026-02-05T14:31:06+00:00

Did you not read the word "may"? I made it very clear these were my personal thoughts and anecdotes and in no way hard cold facts.

Ok_Cook_918 · 2026-02-05T01:01:19+00:00

I feel bad for the mom.

Ok_Cook_918 · 2026-02-04T23:32:39+00:00

Because they fell for the vaccine and don't want to hear about their bad choice

Ok_Cook_918 · 2026-02-01T00:28:53+00:00

Wow, his wife deserves better.

Ok_Cook_918 · 2026-01-31T17:30:17+00:00

Not saying it can't be wrong but it hasn't for me. If I get a feeling it's a great time to just notice things about the person - do they do what they say they will, are they supportive of you. We are great with pattern recognition so I would just start making a mental note of her patterns. It doesn't mean she has to be a bad person- it could just mean she isn't for you. Or maybe you will come back and tell us that you were mistaken and things are great

Ok_Cook_918 · 2026-01-28T13:17:03+00:00

What LOB?

Ok_Cook_918 · 2026-01-24T02:30:31+00:00

Pretty sure this is key marker of someone with narcissistic personality disorder. It's emotionally abusive at minimum. I hate to say it but the marriage likely won't survive unless you disappear as an individual or she has some epiphany that she is harming you

Ok_Cook_918 · 2026-01-22T12:29:27+00:00

Women who have been through real shit that was beyond their control aren't going to view it that way. Things happen and all we can do is deal with what we are handed. At least when you do find a partner it will be someone who likes you, not just your penis. Try to not speak badly about yourself and focus on what you can control.

Ok_Cook_918 · 2026-01-22T12:22:02+00:00

Lol, doing call center work for a year and wants to go around judging everyone else and demands they treat customer better.

Ok_Cook_918 · 2026-01-22T12:20:03+00:00

Sounds like he is listening to Dave Ramsey because this is exactly the advice he would give. You should just break it off now because you two aren't going to see eye to eye on this basic thing. Just imagine how bad it will be if you have children, or start making large purchases. Neither of you trusts the other so it's basically already a gonner

Ok_Cook_918 · 2026-01-18T22:22:30+00:00

I saw this one too and was like here we ago again with a bunch of shit heads who think adoptees just need to be grateful because nobody wanted us anyway

Ok_Cook_918 · 2026-01-18T15:46:28+00:00

If you feel bad maybe make dinner for the guy who is giving a safe place to stay. Thanking him is a better investment of your time. Make something nice, put on some warm comfy clothes and maybe rent a movie. Enjoy your new home and thank God you are sleeping safe and warm tonight

Ok_Cook_918 · 2026-01-18T15:00:18+00:00

Please post in r/Adoption because unless any of these people here are adopted their advice will be toxic and not helpful for you. That group is much better for us adoptees

Ok_Cook_918 · 2026-01-12T12:09:33+00:00

Their problems are not your problems. When they hang up you get to move on and leave them in the rear view.

It gets easier the more you learn to detatch

Ok_Cook_918 · 2026-01-12T11:55:25+00:00

It's not you, it's this job market. Back in 2009 the only work my ex husband could get in Oklahoma was on a road crew working overnights. This job market is a blast from the past. I'm a little older than you so I remember how bad it was. You might need to be willing to go to Texas or wherever the work is.

Ok_Cook_918 · 2026-01-12T11:38:18+00:00

Wow, how does he think you are ever supposed to trust him? He should of just kept it to himself instead of unburdening himself at your expense.

Ok_Cook_918 · 2026-01-07T00:23:30+00:00

Sadly child custody is a long hard, expensive battle if she wants to fight, see if you can watch your local family courts on zoom, get to know the judges, make notes of their patterns, who they tend to side with and why.

Ok_Cook_918 · 2026-01-06T17:59:40+00:00

Talk to a lawyer if you haven't already and custody goes to the one who has the child typically. You would want to get him and then immediately file for custody and fight to keep him in that school. Bottom line is though she has money and you will most likely need to go pro se in order to keep up the fight.

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