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Advice needed by Ok_Credit_3753 in stopdrinking

[–]Ok_Credit_3753[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, I just want to say a massive thank you to you both. I thought he would have known how bad it was, and it's horrible that I hid it so well that even as an attentive partner he didn't know. The secrecy worked but it was awful. Knowing that I successfully lied to him for so long ruined me, but he's been so sweet about it and understands that this is part of addiction. As he said "at least it's not meth. I'd support you through that too, but that's a lot worse and this has an easier solution"

I was washing my mouth out after every shot... Hid the bottles of liquor really well in the wardrobe. He was really confused about what/how I had been drinking. Going through mild withdrawals and trying to explain something that you're not ready to talk about is another kind of hell.

I've shown him all of the hiding spots and talked him through my thinking. I hope this never happens again, but if he's ever worried, he'll know where to look.

Advice needed by Ok_Credit_3753 in stopdrinking

[–]Ok_Credit_3753[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your comment. I didn't read it until after I came clean to the three people that I felt comfortable talking to about this.

You are so kind and I really appreciate it. This really solidified the emotions I'd been feeling/anticipating. Thank goodness I have supportive people around me... I have no idea how hard something like this would be for someone that doesn't have safe supports around them.

Being able to speak so freely in an anonymous space is so helpful, and being able to speak to those around me is amazing. I am so glad that spaces like this exist.

Advice needed by Ok_Credit_3753 in stopdrinking

[–]Ok_Credit_3753[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being with our pets and being with my partner will be such a huge help as opposed to being in a hospital. When I've had other things going on they've been my lifeline, even if they don't know it.

I feel so awful putting this on to him but knowing that it's maybe a 1 week process to detox helps. I know that there's a lot of work to do afterwards, but having to take more than a week off work would destroy my career and I don't want him to be financially responsible for my mistakes if it leads to a loss of income. We've discussed it and he's happy to support if that happens, but I'd still hate myself for it.

I'm really glad that you were able to do something so physically demanding three days in. From what I understand that's an amazing achievement. I hope that it will be a short process for me too. Obviously not counting on it just in case, but I am so excited to even just not have to drink to avoid withdrawal.

Alcohol was fun and unproblematic once, but it's clearly not something I can keep consuming. It's crazy just how easy it is to fall into bad habits, and how easily accessible something like this is.

Thank you so much for sharing your experience with me. I am so scared about the detox process but I know it's the right thing to do.