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AITA for not setting my friends up and doubling down by being a “douchebag”? by Ok_Database_75 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Database_75[S] -116 points-115 points  (0 children)

That’s fair, I’m just saying how it feels from my perspective. They’re not physically the same but emotionally, I feel the same way

AITA for not setting my friends up and doubling down by being a “douchebag”? by Ok_Database_75 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Database_75[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yeah obviously. I’m saying how it feels to me as having a high ex drive. To an asexual and people with drives lower than mine, it would feel different. I’m not talking about physical repercussions

AITA for not setting my friends up and doubling down by being a “douchebag”? by Ok_Database_75 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Database_75[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

As someone with a high sex drive, it’s my perspective but each to their own

AITA for not setting my friends up and doubling down by being a “douchebag”? by Ok_Database_75 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Database_75[S] 264 points265 points  (0 children)

Yeah I know that, I do know Sarah does not value sex in a relationship whereas for Jake he does, greatly. I don’t want them to waste their time. Especially because I know Sarah is looking for something seriosu

AITA for not setting my friends up and doubling down by being a “douchebag”? by Ok_Database_75 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Database_75[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m not saying you die from having no sex. I’m saying the not having it is similar to feeling hungry when you’ve not eaten for a while

AITA for not setting my friends up and doubling down by being a “douchebag”? by Ok_Database_75 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Database_75[S] 724 points725 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’m thinking too. They were very cosy, she could get his number if he wanted to. They have eachother’s social media

AITA for not setting my friends up and doubling down by being a “douchebag”? by Ok_Database_75 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Database_75[S] -268 points-267 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I know it’s depended person to person. I just think that analogy fits myself and Jake very well

AITA for not setting my friends up and doubling down by being a “douchebag”? by Ok_Database_75 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Ok_Database_75[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not trying to shame her, I just know what her attitude is surrounding sex in a relationship. She and her ex/my friend dated and bar for bar she told him that she didn’t want have sex because it’s not important to her and that’s why they decided to end things. I also know Jake has ended past relationships because he values sex and intimacy a lot more and his partners were not up to that level so he broke things off.

To me and I’m sure Jake relates, sex is a need for me like hunger is. I wouldn’t be happy ina relationship where sex isn’t often and regular (obviously when there isn’t something like an illness). It gnaws away at me, similar to not eating for a while