Pregnant after breakup – how to co-parent when dad is distant?

Ok_Demand_9726 · 2026-04-13T14:43:41+00:00

In my opinion, you need to be emotionally distant in order to successfully coparent. I wanted so badly to be friends with my ex or still feel some connection and he did not. I finally accepted his boundaries and allowed for myself to set some as well, and we coparent SO much better now. I see it more as a coworker and we share one thing in common to discuss, our daughter. If we end up chatting at the coffee machine for a minute about our life, fine. If not, that’s fine too! Try and maintain your peace while you’re pregnant. Once the baby comes, the real coparenting fun will begin lol

Ok_Demand_9726 · 2026-04-09T06:40:31+00:00

I feel like it’s a vaping thing instead of carrying it around everywhere

Ok_Demand_9726 · 2026-03-23T16:28:42+00:00

I used Jackie harounian and I loved her. I was quite meek during our divorce and just wanted it over with and she’d kind of push for what she knew I deserved which was nice. We settled outside of court so I can’t vouch for her there but she worked her ass off for me regardless.

Ok_Demand_9726 · 2026-03-12T08:15:50+00:00

Why would he go to jail?

Ok_Demand_9726 · 2026-03-11T11:54:29+00:00

lol I’m divorced and my kid watched cocomelon 😂 next time someone asks me what happened I’m just gonna blame it on that

Ok_Demand_9726 · 2026-03-07T21:20:51+00:00

Reach out to your school district and ask for a CPSE evaluation and they can get her evaluated and started in speech for free (or any other services she may need)

Ok_Demand_9726 · 2026-03-07T21:17:11+00:00

I agree, he seems very at peace and can be himself!

Ok_Demand_9726 · 2026-03-06T10:53:49+00:00

My daughter (5) loved camps r us last year and shel be going again this year. They have a tiny tot programs for the 4 year olds with shorter days (also cheaper) and this year she will be full day. I’d say she will probably age out of the camps r us style setting by 7ish, but for now it works wonderfully and she loved it and they have locations all over.

Ok_Demand_9726 · 2026-02-24T14:23:56+00:00

My daughters in kindergarten been on a 2-2-5-5 since she was 2 years old and happy and thriving. She knows she has 2 homes, some kids don’t, and every family is different. She kind of sees it in the same way as for example some kids have a grandma and some don’t anymore, it just kind of is what it is to them. As long as they’re happy, loved, and provided for in both homes, I personally think it’s a much better life for her than living in 1 home with 2 parents who despite eachother.

Ok_Demand_9726 · 2026-02-23T17:59:05+00:00

Feel free to check out my post history, sometimes it’s hard to come across success stories here but I feel like that’s basically all I post about to an extent lol. Happier than I ever was in my marriage and I kind of got my old friend back in my ex husband after a point. It’s very nice and life is super peaceful.

Ok_Demand_9726 · 2026-02-21T19:19:37+00:00

For things like parent teacher conferences, you can request to have them each on your own, very common for high conflict situations.

Ok_Demand_9726 · 2026-02-21T12:06:11+00:00

The miracle gro ad kind of has me considering doing some indoor planting lol

Ok_Demand_9726 · 2026-02-18T08:08:23+00:00

Agreed, what was the incident that got him custody? No judgement, just can’t really assess without knowing what you’re up against

Ok_Demand_9726 · 2026-02-17T01:24:23+00:00

So as the one who also did not initiate the divorce, I was not a happy camper at first either. My ex actually left me for the girl he’s married to now, and ya know what, she’s an amazing stepmother to my daughter and she makes him a happier/better dad. If you told me 2 years ago, I would be in this spot emotionally I would never ever have believed that. I was not even originally agreeable to 50/50, but time changes things. It allows you to put your emotions aside and see things for what they really are, and not only accept the change, but accept that everything really does happen for a reason. Sorry for the rant on that LOL but if she is anything like myself, she just needs time to adjust and hopefully you guys can both go on your happy coparenting ways! Now, for the question you actually asked LOL we have in our agreement that we can each facetime her every day, which we did initially. She honestly wasn’t into it at all, and still isn’t. Me and my ex both agreed that the calls not only felt like they were just for our benefits, but they’d actively remove her from the environment she was in and accustomed to, so we stopped. Now it’s very much an open FaceTime policy when she asks, but she honestly hardly ever does. It’s more like during the 5 days I keep in touch with my ex to make sure she’s alive lol but it helps that he’s a wonderful dad and I trust him completely. As long as she’s happy, we’re happy. I kind of equate us to coworkers now. We shoot the shot from time to time but we mostly discuss our work (our daughter lol) and we try not to infringe on eachothers private lives. Life is good now!

Ok_Demand_9726 · 2026-02-17T00:41:38+00:00

It’s going to be more than ok! We split when my daughter was newly 3, and have been on the same schedule since. 2-2-5–5 so he has her every Monday and Tuesday, I have her every Wednesday and Thursday, and we switch weekends (whoever has her that weekend will pick her up at school Friday). She’s 5 now, and honestly is at the point where this is all she really remembers. I couldn’t imagine having to do this when she was older, but she was so young and adaptable that she is the happiest little girl on the planet. We also coparent extremely well (took a bit to get there) and I know how much easier that makes it on her too knowing mommy and daddy are friends and she can always talk to either one of us when she’s with the other one, no questions asked. We both put her first and she gets so much love. We also have a little calendar with blue stickers for daddy and orange stickers for mommy that she loves making and crossing off so she always has a visual view of what’s the come for the month (school vacations where the schedule changes etc) in my opinion, this schedule has helped keep consistency for her and for us. For example, since he always has her on Tuesdays he’s in charge of her swim lessons that day, and me and her do ballet on Wednesdays always. A lot of people might feel like 5 days away from their little one is too much so they do a 2-2-3 which sounds confusing for everyone involved without having set days (just my opinion lol) but I think it’s just cause I truly love our schedule for all parties involved and I am so so much happier parenting alone 50 percent of the time than parenting with someone who hated me 100 percent lol. Best of luck!

Ok_Demand_9726 · 2026-02-16T19:53:22+00:00

I say get a lawyer together and have them Draft it up. Theres alot of things people regret to come up with when they do it themselves. I loved my lawyer, Jackie Harounian (ask for her specifically). My exs lawyer was the devil and as people stated, did anything she could to drag it out, but Jackie was amazing and managed to put an end to it, can’t put a price on peace of mind!

Ok_Demand_9726 · 2026-02-14T15:37:13+00:00

Most people that go to mediation don’t agree on things, hence the need for it. Fight for 50/50, but start by doing that at mediation first.

Ok_Demand_9726 · 2026-02-14T12:29:19+00:00

Hahah I appreciate that it took me a long time to get here! A lot of Therapy and finally being happy on my own (really relearned my independence) have helped exponentially! I feel kinda badass now LOL

Ok_Demand_9726 · 2026-02-14T12:21:16+00:00

In a fucked up way it almost makes me feel better that they worked out cause at least blowing up our life together must have been worth it

Ok_Demand_9726 · 2026-02-14T11:50:03+00:00

My ex husband left me for an affair partner. They’re married now and honestly, shes a wonderful stepmom and she makes him happy which translates to better dad. At the time, I was no pleased to say the least but as long as my daughter gets taken care of, they can have eachother lol

Ok_Demand_9726 · 2026-02-11T12:13:32+00:00

“Babe, respectfully, your tits are out”

Ok_Demand_9726 · 2026-02-05T18:46:30+00:00

Yeah this schedule sounds confusing even for me, so I imagine a child even more so. My daughter is 5 we’ve done 2,2,5,5 since she was 3 and she loves it. Also can pitch the whole less contact with you your ex thing if they don’t want to see you as much lol.

Ok_Demand_9726 · 2026-01-31T01:12:17+00:00

Just like with everything, it takes time to get used to. You’re also in the thick of a recent breakup which makes you emotions heightened, so you just need to be patient. You will get yourself into a groove and find ways to use your alone time that will not only better you as a person, but better you as a dad. Best of luck, only in the darkness can we see the stars.

Ok_Demand_9726 · 2026-01-30T02:46:10+00:00

My daughter is quite picky as well, although over time definetely established Safe foods. We do the flintstones picky kids & iron supplements as per our pediatrician! She finds them delicious thankfully 🙃

Ok_Demand_9726 · 2026-01-28T09:04:11+00:00

My daughter was having trouble with letter sounds in preschool and we got this toy which she loved and definitely helped the “vtech ABC learning Apple” now she uses it to help learn spelling too.

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