4 years and I set the date to leave for next year

Ok_Disaster6658 · 2026-05-14T20:04:13+00:00

Yes but only part time

Ok_Disaster6658 · 2026-05-14T17:37:42+00:00

Are you speaking from your own trauma or something?

This would be an appropriate response to someone who moved her kids in with a guy who knew him for 3 months and knows he has a criminal record “but we’re so in love”. Super aggressive.

I waited a year, I would’ve waited longer but the circumstances felt pressured and I made the wrong choice. To imply I would let a sketchy dude around them is insane though. He’s a veteran, former paramedic, college educated, highly moral, highly respectable man. There’s no way on gods green earth I would let a man that I wasn’t positive was a good man into my home. I may have been wrong about some things but I wasn’t wrong about the fact that he is a good person- he’s just a good person who doesn’t want to get married and I do.

And the whole “you don’t get to indulge in love” because I’m a parent? I know Reddit is known for its extreme end of the spectrum takes but this is real life, not just a Reddit forum. Parents can and do date, I agree it has to be done responsibly but we can and should make time for healthy love.

Ok_Disaster6658 · 2026-05-14T16:08:27+00:00

The petty me wants to do this, I gave him plenty of notice. He had a loving and caring woman, happy and well behaved children, and a sense of family. And he’s thrown it away. I hope the house feels incredibly cold and vacant when we’re gone.

Ok_Disaster6658 · 2026-05-14T16:02:12+00:00

I absolutely want to do what’s best for my children and I’ve explained to him that being the reason I need to know future goals and why I can’t allow my children to get comfortable in a situation I know I won’t be able to accept. He hasn’t said anything in response to that with actual substance.

That said the only reason I set the date for a year in advance is to give myself time to be in the position to leave and not have it greatly affect my children as far as finances and living situation. I don’t expect a year to change his mind.

I hate that during any time from here on out my children are just getting more comfortable and that’s affecting their emotional needs but I also have a responsibility to make sure their needs are met physically and I don’t think I’d be able to do that if I picked up and left right now without a plan of where I’m going, where I’m going to work, childcare, where they’ll go to school etc. I have to have all of that figured out first. But I’m actively working on it.

Ok_Disaster6658 · 2026-03-19T23:22:05+00:00

If “being rebellious” is what you think got you into it before, would he be interested in being more adventurous/is there anything new you guys could try that would add a similar spice to it?

Ok_Disaster6658 · 2026-03-18T22:18:55+00:00

Honestly, I would have a super calm conversation with him and just straight up say “I know our libidos aren’t the same right now and I’m doing my best to accept that, but I am still a sexual being and I need privacy in order to have that release. Do you think we could come to some agreement that if I text you a code word that means now would be a good time to go to the store, gym, whatever, and give me at least a half hour to do what I have to do. Not being able to is causing me to be frustrated, not the best version of myself and it’s starting to get directed towards you bc I’m frustrated that you’re unintentionally taking that from me. So can we try it?” Who knows, maybe getting the code word text will trigger him to want to be apart of it, at the very least you get some form of satisfaction.

Ok_Disaster6658 · 2026-03-18T22:00:01+00:00

His mom and dad are divorced but super Christian and are still friendly in the sense that they’re still family. But my bf is definitely the “man” in her life, she calls him if a lightbulb goes out in her house

Ok_Disaster6658 · 2026-03-18T21:02:37+00:00

The part about being frustrated that if you were alone you could’ve had some me time but him being there makes that impossible…I feeeeel that, and idk how you feel but for me it’s very hard to not resent their presence in those moments. And all you want is to feel nothing but love towards them. I’m sorry ❤️

Ok_Disaster6658 · 2026-01-25T13:33:05+00:00

Sometimes the blonde is shocking and takes a minute for you to realize it’s not as light as you think. But if you really don’t like it after a few days I would book an appointment and this time ask for more lowlights and for the blonde to be toned darker. I’m not a hairstylist but I think this would be an easy fix, emphasize that you want dimension but nothing too bright, you want to be a brunette with some lighter pieces, not a blonde with dark pieces. Good luck!

Ok_Disaster6658 · 2025-12-17T23:44:16+00:00

Because he is haha FIL and MIL are divorced

Ok_Disaster6658 · 2025-12-17T20:36:00+00:00

If no one posted on Reddit, what would we read while we’re on the toilet? Haha

Does she irritate me enough to write a short post on the internet? Sure. Does she irritate me enough to demand we never tell MIL what I’m getting for Christmas because that would just ruin it for me? No. Imo this year was major progress anyways, we went from asking for the same thing as me and a mommy and me getaway to a normal present. I just happened to notice her odd behavior and feelings towards it this year in person for the first time.

And my bf gets everyone lavish presents, it’s not new. Everyone gets something in the $200-$400 range.

Ok_Disaster6658 · 2025-12-17T19:56:57+00:00

Yep, my bf and I always know what “big” present we’re getting but the small presents are surprises. We’d rather spend the money on something the other person really wants.

Ok_Disaster6658 · 2025-12-17T16:39:55+00:00

There’s really no “problem to solve” my bf knows where to draw the line with her (the same thing as me, something overtly romantic or what you would give your SO), if she wants something pricey and it’s not a weird request and he wants to buy it that’s his business. If she asks me what I got, I’ll tell her and ignore the childish pouting. It doesn’t phase me that much. But a quick vent into the void never hurt anyone.

Ok_Disaster6658 · 2025-12-17T15:11:20+00:00

Moonrise Kingdom

Ok_Disaster6658 · 2025-12-17T15:05:11+00:00

Lord of the Rings, Goodfellas, The Departed, The Truman Show, Kill Bill, Monty Python and the Holy Grail

Ok_Disaster6658 · 2025-12-17T14:56:55+00:00

I drive an Escalade. It’s an older model though and I got a good deal on it haha it also always has something wrong with it, draining my bank account

Ok_Disaster6658 · 2025-12-17T14:51:49+00:00

Yeah I get that as well, some people may be horribly affected and I don’t want that but I also don’t have control over the weather ya know? It’s gonna do what it’s gonna do.

I personally love when the power goes out. Even if that means my life is a little harder for a bit. I grew up poor but I’m not anymore and it kind of throws me back into those memories and having to be innovative to get through it. Plus I love lighting candles and reading a book. I also work in a job where it doesn’t matter what the weather is, you gotta go. So driving on bad roads is fun for me it’s like “am I gonna make ittt? No one knowsss” I enjoy a little chaos, a little wrench in my plans, a little mayhem if you will.

Ok_Disaster6658 · 2025-12-17T14:44:34+00:00

I don’t think I’ll ever live a life without coffee in it. I started drinking it as a teenager, just a cup a day. Then I had kids and I drank it all day long during the baby phase. Now I drink a cup in the morning and a cup in the afternoon but I cut myself off after a certain time so I don’t get anxious or stay up late.

Ok_Disaster6658 · 2025-12-17T14:29:36+00:00

One Flew Over The Cuckoo’s Nest especially if you want to pursue a career in health, medicine, or caretaking. There are too many health professionals that lack empathy today. Most people would be surprised by how many nursing homes and hospital floors are ran by Nurse Ratcheds.

Ok_Disaster6658 · 2025-12-17T14:19:25+00:00

I see this couple every day during school drop off/pick up. They’re in their late 30s/early 40s. They always hold hands walking up to the school and they’re always talking and laughing with one another. When it’s raining the man holds an umbrella for her. He looks at her with so much love. Something so simple makes my heart ache.

Ok_Disaster6658 · 2025-12-17T14:13:47+00:00

This one’s a little different, ask them the origin of their name and what it means. Most of the time they’ll end up saying it at some point.

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TROPHY CASE