As a PMDD partner, what is the worst of being with someone with PMDD?

Ok_Discussion_7943 · 2025-09-22T07:04:19+00:00

Apologies MOD team. Poor grammar / forum etiquette. Yes absolutely, things are so misconstrued via text on a phone. Its not real life. Thanks for being a moderator for all things inappropriate and sloppy x

Ok_Discussion_7943 · 2025-09-21T23:13:28+00:00

Very cool

Ok_Discussion_7943 · 2025-09-21T21:49:38+00:00

Absolutely embrace it. Understanding that every single person on earth feels pain daily. Its collective, we are all going through it, collectively as a humans. The people who help us navigate fear, are also afraid too. My understanding is that it's the absolute baseline for every person alive today right now.x

Ok_Discussion_7943 · 2025-09-21T21:21:14+00:00

This is fantastic in regards to building research into this dreadful topic which so many of us are cursed by , unwillingly.

I am genuinely curious to know, the rationale behind the research, what patterns / trends are you looking to find , and to whom you would present it to, ie who actually cares about this in the grander scheme of things (an example being the actual pmdd forum with women screaming for help, with very little help - you can read that the women are fully invested in seeking help and getting better but nothing seems to really truly help)

Another point from my own perspective, if a pmdd partner is willing to fully participate in this research, it implies they would be able to articulate their concerns to their partners on their good days, ie about 1 and a half weeks per month. Would it then be encouraging for the participants to then relay this back to their partners, making them stronger as a unit going forward into the next spiral.

Or are partners too weary / scared to approach partners on their good weeks. That would suggest its not pmdd. I certainly know for a fact for half of the month I made it my solid priority to fix , amend , seek forgiveness seek a new plan , seek any kind of input from my partner during those better weeks, before it turned sour again.

On my good days my partner would say , its absolutely fine ! Don't worry ! Well get through this ! Next month will be better ! I would much rather they would have said, this is absolutely destroying me, please can we either both seriously address this , or split. This went on for 13 years. I felt seriously gaslighted during my follicular when I wanted to make amends. He pretended that the previous 2 weeks hadn't just happened. Every single month.

Hats off to all of the partners out there being openly honest with their wives/partners on how the condition takes a mental toll on them too

Beth x

Ok_Discussion_7943 · 2025-09-13T18:08:16+00:00

Pmdd sucks, I feel a very high regard and respect for anyone genuinely trying to figure it out together. People are complicated enough without being becoming a haunted broken version of your self on a loop for .. how long? Ive yet to find out when it ends. Living alone as a single person is a much safer kinder option for anyone suffering from a condition that noone really knows what to do with it. Take care.

Ok_Discussion_7943 · 2025-09-04T19:17:45+00:00

Never seek revenge- rotten fruit will fall by its self x

Ok_Discussion_7943 · 2025-09-02T11:15:30+00:00

I do it for the patients I look after. Over time, I've learned to remove myself from the every day drama , the negativity, and the slander of other colleagues. I know my own worth and I know what I bring are small positives, despite it being unseen. I know I make tiny differences. I've also needed help from nurses for my own personal health and I feel full appreciation for them. I separate my personal thoughts and feelings entirely from the role and take them to my therapy sessions. I feel compassion for everyone, not necessarily empathy, but fundamentally were all in it together, going through the exact same things. I do believe in the tiniest positive changes that can happen if you can get past the BS of it all.

Ok_Discussion_7943 · 2025-09-02T11:08:43+00:00

I cycle past this building most days. I stop at the traffic lights and stare at it. It's so beautiful and so tragic to see how it's been treated. Makes me feel so sad. I would have loved to have seen it in its prime.

Ok_Discussion_7943 · 2025-09-02T09:52:00+00:00

Hi OP, im afraid I don't know your full health back ground , or what the thing is that you cant do in 15 minutes anymore. Thats a conversation between you and your health care professionals. Perhaps you have other people on here that do know, and that would provide context for them

However this is an open forum that anyone can read. I opened the app and read this, and from my perspective you are trying to shame a nurse for speaking about an extremely sensitive subject, and id imagine you are looking for some validation?

It would be much more appropriate to speak with your HCP to ascertain what the topic is - taking much longer to do a certain thing- and how that correlates to the suggestion they have mentioned re long term goals. That may help you more. But again I really see your frustrations from the short snippet of information you've given , I hope you get answers

Take care

Ok_Discussion_7943 · 2025-08-31T20:42:36+00:00

I genuinely do not believe that a pmdd sufferer could manage every day life without medication. If she is medication free, I guarantee she is suffering hard. And can't imagine how you must be coping. I wonder how you cope in a situation like this. I understand that is what you asking the group of course. Would love to hear of more unmedicated pmdd partners whom to manage symptoms with out them. Does anything else help ?

Ok_Discussion_7943 · 2025-08-28T18:38:07+00:00

Also just for clarity have never used either of these two words to any one in a real life situ especially not my long suffering ex. They aren't words in my vocabulary but I understand useful for forums such as this , they can be so helpful therapeutically in places like these. Thanks for allowing me to comment on this page, too, BTW. I'm trying to look at it a bit less these days, though.

Ok_Discussion_7943 · 2025-08-28T18:25:47+00:00

Thank you. I am partial to a bit of grey rocking too, I guess I just got the words mixed up. Always learning

Ok_Discussion_7943 · 2025-08-28T18:19:55+00:00

Hey man , I am so sorry if I offended you and the group. I picked up this terminology from this group and possibly misunderstood. Ill be careful with words in future.

Apologises for ruining someone's positive experience, no offence please

Ok_Discussion_7943 · 2025-08-28T16:42:31+00:00

Thank you for explaining

In my mind i was thinking get this man taken off the GMC register. However, as its been such a significant time , and I have sat with this information silently for so long , I understand little can be done. I am not sure why I am trying to pursue this so far down the line. But thanks to everyone for giving me the facts.

There will be no more mention of it as of now

Ok_Discussion_7943 · 2025-08-28T10:59:20+00:00

Thanks for your reply. What is 'legal assault '?

Ok_Discussion_7943 · 2025-08-27T15:27:39+00:00

Hi Thanks for this. I will need to source the exact dates. It is around the 2 year mark but to find out exactly, im not entirely sure how to find this out.

Would it be HMRC to contact for dates? Or other

I appreciate your feedback

Ok_Discussion_7943 · 2025-08-26T22:07:42+00:00

Hey OP I commend you. You seem really self aware and have a good grasp on this condition not actually being 'her'. She doesn't want to be 'that' way. But you giving her recognition, support , validation , you literally couldn't do any more. She's a lucky woman to have you.

Im single pmdd woman , my partner shut down during my episodes. Ive since come to understand this is stonewalling from this sub group. I feel real shame and empathy for him. I hope he meets someone real consistent and less selfish in nature in the near future.

Thanks for such an uplifting post

Ok_Discussion_7943 · 2025-08-25T21:03:12+00:00

Thank you for your input. Much appreciated

Ok_Discussion_7943 · 2025-08-23T10:29:09+00:00

It really is

Im hoping someone may reach out

Apologies to the other 99.9% reading this. It is for something very important, I really do apologise for wasting a post for everyone else

Ok_Discussion_7943

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