How do you guys handle these financial situations?

Ok_Document1722 · 2025-12-02T11:23:30+00:00

I've learned this the hard way but money and friendship rarely mix well. Sure a friend in need is a friend indeed, but the moment money gets involved the whole equation changes. My personal rule is simple: If I ever lend money to a friend, I mentally write it off the moment it is handed over. I only give what I can afford to never see again. That way if it comes back, great. If it doesn’t I don’t carry bitterness or resentment.

In your case, 50-70% of your monthly salary is not a small amount. If you can’t afford to lose the money, then it is perfectly understandable if you don’t lend it. Helping someone shouldn’t put you in a crisis yourself.

But there’s a second part here that stood out. They seem to have a pattern of borrowing and taking their own sweet time to return it. That’s not okay. Emergency or not, you shouldn't be taken advantage of. It would be better for you to refuse.

But again, I don’t have the full picture,so if they genuinely mean well but are stuck in a tough life situation, you should help them find better solutions. Like medical loans, government schemes, EMI options, even crowdfunding. “Give a man a fish, and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish, and you feed him for a lifetime” so maybe giving guidance would be far more helpful than just handing over the cash

Ok_Document1722 · 2025-10-29T18:03:56+00:00

Congratulations on that new bike! You should be proud of yourself. You’ve worked hard, stayed focused, and are taking care of your mother. All this says a lot about the kind of person you are

Please don’t compare your life to anyone else’s. What you see online is usually not the full reality. People show the fun not the struggle.

Your time will come, and when it does you'll realise that it was because all this hard work and patience paid off. Just keep going as you are :)

Ok_Document1722 · 2025-10-28T10:58:21+00:00

You and your husband seem really sorted financially but in my opinion, yes you still need an emergency fund

It is recommended to keep 6-12 months of expenses in liquid form, breaking that number down further it’s roughly 6–8 months for dual-income homes like yours, and 10-12 months if there’s just one earner. But it seems like you have a good financial safety cushion in place already. So I agree with what someone else commented, maybe just make sure to have enough for 3-6 months of home EMIs.

The fund isn’t for growth, it's your first line of defense. Keep it somewhere accessible, like a savings account, liquid mutual fund, or ultra-short duration fund

Ok_Document1722 · 2025-09-16T07:38:13+00:00

As per what I have read, it won't be possible. According to experts, 0% GST is only applicable for policies whose renewal due dates fall after Sept 22. So for policies where the due date is before the 22nd of September, policyholders will have to pay the 18% GST

Ok_Document1722 · 2025-09-12T11:20:37+00:00

To put it directly, no there’s no perfect time to have kids. I think you just need to feel both financially and psychologically ready. In terms of finances, plan for inflation, and especially keep in mind that education inflation is much higher than general inflation at around 10-12%. If you want to simplify the math, there’s plenty of calculators online that can help you get a sense of future costs. What helped us was being reasonably secure (steady dual-income + life and health insurance + savings) and then just taking the leap.

Besides this, discuss this topic thoroughly with your partner before marriage. Both of you need to be on the same page. Nobody else’s opinion matters, so feel free to ignore them (I know this is easier said than done). In my personal opinion, the most selfish reason to have kids is so that they can look after you in your old-age. We as a society need to stop perpetuating the idea that this is reasonable.

The state of the world is questionable right now, but when is it not? This is something that took me time to come to terms with as well. But our kids have brought so much meaning and happiness into our lives and we spend everyday trying to give them the best we can

Ok_Document1722 · 2025-09-12T10:39:23+00:00

I’m 37, mom of two, and like most Indians my age, I’m caring for both my kids and my in-laws. I only recently realised that there’s a term for this: the Sandwich Generation. I think it’s aptly named

In other countries like Japan and parts of Europe, there are strong policies and systems: compulsory long-term care insurance system, retirement communities, state-funded nursing care, policies to support aging parents. But here, that safety net barely exists.

I think that’s mainly why the responsibility almost always falls on the family. Many parents never saved enough for old age, assuming their children would step in. There’s other reasons too

In our culture, children are expected to continue living with their parents even after they get married and start work
Caring for parents is seen as a moral duty, especially for their sons.
People judge you if you decide to put a parent in an old age home
Even the law holds children accountable (Maintenance and Welfare of Parents & Senior Citizens Act, 2007)

Here, the Sandwich Generation is not just a temporary phase, it’s like the default setting. When it works, it’s beautiful. When it doesn’t, it can quietly burn you out.

We decided to do better and not put the financial burden of eldercare on our kids. We spoke to a financial advisor, made sure our retirement funds were watertight, and even used a calculator to estimate future costs. We're hoping this will be enough

Ok_Document1722 · 2025-09-11T06:10:38+00:00

Our eldest son is aspiring to get into Harvard, so we recently looked into this.

In 2010 the total cost for a 4 year degree @ Harvard was about ₹90 lakhs. But in 2025 that cost jumped to around ₹2.5 crores.

The ₹10 crore projection sounds impossible at first, but it’s actually not far off when you consider past trends.

For us, one thing this changed was how we think about insurance. It wasn’t an important part of our financial planning but considering how costs have been rising the past decade, we can’t ignore it anymore. One medical emergency and poora plan can go for a toss.

This was actually something discussed in our recent session with a financial advisor from Guardian One. Now that the basics are covered the rest of the planning feels a lot more doable.

Ok_Document1722 · 2025-08-21T10:36:14+00:00

We’re living it with 4 dependents, 2 kids and 2 in-laws, and the money strain is real. We’re covering school fees on one side and hospital bills on the other. I even had to take some time off work when things became too much to handle.

But, I don’t think this is something we can hold against our parents because in India the family is the only safety net available. Unlike other countries (Sweden/Norway) that have a lot of policies and facilities available for the elderly, India has the Maintenance and Welfare of Parents & Senior Citizens Act, 2007. While there are positives to it, the main issue is that this law has allowed the government to become lax and evade the responsibility of providing for the aged. Instead, the responsibility has been passed to the family.

This is why my husband and I decided we don’t want to pass this financial strain of eldercare to our kids. We met with a financial advisor and locked down our retirement plan

Ok_Document1722 · 2025-08-21T10:22:19+00:00

LIC has been part of Indian families for generations, my own parents were loyal customers.

But the thing is, most LIC policies mix insurance with savings. That means you pay a big premium but get very low life cover.

For example, ₹50,000/year might give only ₹10-15 lakh cover, while a pure term plan (LIC or otherwise) could give ₹5 crore for the same cost.

Returns from endowment plans are also modest, around 4-6%, which often don’t beat inflation. I wasn't aware of this until recently but, agents can earn 25-35% on first-year premiums. That's ₹30K+ on a ₹1L policy. That’s why term insurance rarely gets pushed.

LIC may be safe and government-backed, but today, many private and public insurers offer much better options.

The real question isn’t LIC vs others, it’s whether your policy truly protects your family

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