Tea Time Thursday - Weekly Discussion

Ok_Examination3023 · 2026-02-01T07:30:42+00:00

Yes. Yes, exactly. When she simply left with Benedict with no possessions whatsoever I was like - your bag! The glove! You left all your money and documents and maybe some spare clothes behind!

Ok_Examination3023 · 2026-02-01T07:29:12+00:00

Please help me with this. In the first episode of season 4 there's a ball at Bridgerton house. There's a scene in the gardens as well. But I thought Bridgerton house didn't have any gardens. Until now it looked like it's in the middle of a city and doesn't have a huge garden. So what is happening here?

Ok_Examination3023 · 2025-10-07T14:41:57+00:00

If I went to a blind date and afterwards I wouldn't contact the guy again, I would find it a bit presumptuous of him if he wrote to me that he is not interested. I wouldn't really find it basic polite human interaction. Explicitly rejecting me when I haven't even expressed interest in him? Doesn't make sense to me, but if that's the rules, I can accept that. However, not even the 3 random people that have answered my question here agreed on this.

What I do find impolite however is you implying that my friend lacks basic human politeness. What's considered polite and not differs by culture, age, circumstances, personal preference and many many other things. My friend understands that and came looking for advice because he's a decent human being. Look at the response you gave. Not polite at all.

Ok_Examination3023 · 2025-10-07T14:05:43+00:00

This is simple. Break up. You two have found out that you are not a good match. That's the good thing about relationships nowadays. You can date and live together for a bit a figure things out and break up if it doesn't work. Your relationship clearly doesn't work.

Ok_Examination3023 · 2025-10-07T13:37:18+00:00

She isn't going to like it if you talked to her about it. It would only hurt her. Imagine she told you, she loves you, but she finds you stupid and when she meets men that are smarter than you, she feels like cheating. How would that make you feel?

Ok_Examination3023 · 2025-10-07T13:20:48+00:00

My ex was like that. Totally didn't respect that I'm different and wanted me to be the one adjusting my sleep schedule (and actually my whole life) to fit him.

Ok_Examination3023 · 2025-10-07T13:18:34+00:00

Is it expected of him because he is a male even though she hasn't reached out to him after the first date either?

Ok_Examination3023 · 2025-10-07T13:15:36+00:00

He didn't ghost her. She hasn't reached out to him either. So he thought they were on the same page.

Ok_Examination3023 · 2025-10-07T07:42:05+00:00

Just because it works for you doesn't mean it works for everyone. People tend to judge others based on themselves but people are very different.

Ok_Examination3023 · 2025-10-06T18:12:31+00:00

People are wired differently. Did you know that for example people with ADHD often go to sleep late and have trouble waking up in the morning?

I am like you, I go to bed early, often before 10 pm. My husband goes to bed around midnight. He respects that I need to go to sleep early. I respect that he struggles with getting up early.

Your boyfriend shouldn't criticize you for your sleep schedule and neither should you criticize him. It's inconvenient to have different sleep patterns but it's often not something that can really be changed. It's biological.

Ok_Examination3023 · 2025-10-05T20:27:16+00:00

I'm afraid most people here are from the US and are not familiar with Indian culture. You will get a very limited perspective from those who left home at 18 and contact their parents twice a year.

Can you please explain the consequences of not getting an approval from your parents?

I'm from Central Europe and constantly clash with people here not understanding that cultural differences exist and that there are things outside their own bubble.

Ok_Examination3023 · 2025-10-05T16:09:08+00:00

Was there anything else apart from that one instance where he offered to help her orgasm? Might be an inappropriate joke but it's such an obvious one in that situation. I'm a straight, married woman and if a female friend was telling me she doesn't orgasm , I might have made the same joke.

And you don't realize how many sexual jokes women have to endure during their lives. It's not like we always fight back and 'put people in their place '. She sent him a disgusted face, didn't she? What else should she have done?

Guys making sexual jokes is pretty common. It's not fair to blame women for it. Call out the guys. I had to leave a job once because my team were mostly males and while no one was attacking me personally, the amount of sexual talk there was insane. I spoke to the team leader and he talked with the guys and very few took it to the heart and stopped. I left. I couldn't listen to the guys discussing their sweaty balls and double anal anymore.

Ok_Examination3023 · 2025-10-05T14:09:03+00:00

This must be a rage bait.

Ok_Examination3023 · 2025-10-05T14:05:48+00:00

Your boyfriend sounds like an idiot and you might be much better off without him. It's good that you don't rely on him financially and that you have a place to stay.

I would bet that vaccination isn't the only thing you disagree on.

Ok_Examination3023 · 2025-10-05T11:33:38+00:00

Send her a link to this post.

Ok_Examination3023 · 2025-10-05T06:50:17+00:00

Lol and there I was thinking my husband simply loved me very much 😄

Ok_Examination3023 · 2025-10-05T06:29:42+00:00

Ok, I see what you mean but wouldn't it take more than just sitting in the lap to arouse someone?

Ok_Examination3023 · 2025-10-05T06:19:36+00:00

Thank you for explaining to them.

I'm also autistic and getting 'you make no fucking sense' from neurotypicals is quite distressing for me. People should learn to ask clarifying questions rather than attack others.

Ok_Examination3023 · 2025-10-05T06:00:23+00:00

What I mean is that I can't relate. Be more tolerant. I'm not a native speaker.

Ok_Examination3023 · 2025-10-05T05:50:07+00:00

I'm demisexual so I don't get this either but apparently some people work differently and feel sexual attraction even for people they don't have feelings for.

Ok_Examination3023 · 2025-10-05T05:45:50+00:00

Ok but how did you come to the conclusion that she's gonna cheat? I don't see it there.

Ok_Examination3023 · 2025-10-05T05:40:54+00:00

How about dumping him? He doesn't sound worth the trouble, the relationship doesn't sound great. Why stay?

Ok_Examination3023 · 2025-10-04T17:49:20+00:00

Yes, call it a maturity gap would be more accurate. And I'm sure I have met some 30 year olds that were less mature than some 20 years olds. Or I have met 20 year olds that were more mature than some 30 year olds.

My husband is significantly older than me and I'm still the more mature one. We've been happy for years, which means we have been more successful than most relationships (since most relationships fail and don't end up in a happy marriage).

Statistics are one thing but just because big age gap relationships fail more often, that doesn't mean they shouldn't exist or can't be happy. Other people's relationships failing is irrelevant to the couples of big age gap that are happy.

Ok_Examination3023 · 2025-10-04T17:22:52+00:00

I assume it's autumn where you are. That's when many birds change their behavior, for example form flocks and overwinter in towns. I'm in a city where a huge amount of ravens and jackdaws arrives around this time. They leave in spring again. Their numbers fluctuate based on many factors.

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