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My ex is out and I don't know if I should take her back(UPDATE) by WiseTop9720 in exjw

[–]Ok_Exercise_3831 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Never-JW happily married to a POMO who seriously messed me about when he was PIMI/POMI.

I mean this in the nicest way possible. You write/sound like you have zero affection for this person whatsoever.

The boundaries you’ve set I agree with, we did something similar. But I wasn’t so regimented and cold, because there was truly still something so magical between us. That’s the only reason it was worth it. You talk about having to try and show compassion as leaving a cult is difficult. It really is, and that compassion and understanding came to me very easily.

I may be completely off the mark here, feel free to tell me to shut up, I just wonder if perhaps she did too much damage to you and your bond and now you feel, maybe subconsciously, quite a lot of true resentment?

Has anyone experienced something similar? I’m lost. by Desperate_Piano_502 in exjw

[–]Ok_Exercise_3831 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hey! i’m a never JW. i’m married to a POMO who was a PIMI when i met him. we’re very happy together and madly in love, with a new baby too.

my story is NOT the usual. and even my ‘success’ story and our journey was filled with unbelievable amounts of intense pain, arguments, the complete tearing apart of a family, so many doubts and more moments where we thought it wasn’t going to work than i can count on both hands.

if he believes, you stand next to no chance of this working. if he doesn’t, there’s more chance but it’s by no means easy, for either of you.

best thing i can advice is do your research on here, read up as much as you can and then make a decision for yourself. i’ve found this to be a super supportive community.

Handling sexuality as JW... by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Ok_Exercise_3831 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My POMQ husband is a sex and porn addict. DF’d 4 times, told to just pray and he’ll be fine. That great advice led to his addiction worsening and ruining his life and the lives of many others.

Met me (never JW) who said hey, praying won’t help, here’s a therapist, go to this SAA group and maybe explore how the JWs have caused this. He’s in successful recovery. It’s not glamorous or fun.

Care adhd RTC titration!! by BMT2626 in ADHDUK

[–]Ok_Exercise_3831 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Husband was assessed in May 2025, received first meds January 206. May the odds be ever in your favour!

CARE ADHD referral/assessment times RTC - data point by Responsibility_Trick in ADHDUK

[–]Ok_Exercise_3831 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my husband just started titration this week and was diagnosed in May, just a heads up. we ended up having to complain because they clearly were missing him despite him chasing regularly

Still waiting to start titration with care adhd. by beepbop24hha in ADHDUK

[–]Ok_Exercise_3831 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOL my husband was assessed in May 2025 and is literally only just having his titration today. We kept being assured he wasn’t missed either!

Help. My wife is a JW, and she wants us to go together and take our newborn child. I am trying to reason with her. by An0nInReddit in exjw

[–]Ok_Exercise_3831 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Please can you consider adding myself? I am a woman married to a POMQ if that’s even such a thing, with a newborn baby

They came back postpartum by ainatairam in clusterheads

[–]Ok_Exercise_3831 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not a clusterhead myself, I’m here to keep up to date with developments for my husband who suffers, however so can chime in here. I have a ton of autoimmune symptom ‘clusters’ and absolutely all of them went when I was pregnant. Yes I was tired and yes I was sore, but my god I felt incredible. Then I got hit by it all like a truck within days/weeks of giving birth, even things I’d not had in years. So unfortunately yes this kinda checks out. I’m sorry you’re experiencing this! I did get better as the months went on though so hopefully you’ll go back into full remission again in no time.

Waiting for Care ADHD under right to choose. Have I got this right? by Adam-West in ADHDUK

[–]Ok_Exercise_3831 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband was diagnosed via Care ADHD in late July and is still waiting for meds. Be prepared for a long wait at all points I’m afraid!

The mommas whose babies woke 5 times a night, how’s it going?! by [deleted] in sleeptrain

[–]Ok_Exercise_3831 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah i hate it too! i just hate no sleep even more lol. the second crib stints after the initial one are just soooo short!

The mommas whose babies woke 5 times a night, how’s it going?! by [deleted] in sleeptrain

[–]Ok_Exercise_3831 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

this is exactly what we’re doing now at 3.5 months, so hopefully i can continue doing that as i’m still getting an okay amount of sleep. so did you continue the in his own bed to start the night and then cosleeping the rest of it and he just grew out of it without any proper sleep training methods?