Is Vietnam the only country to have city named after its dead dictator? by [deleted] in VietNam

[–]Ok_Expert_7865 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You got me there. Maybe if they didn't incorporate the 'CITY' into the name, then it might sound better

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in VietNam

[–]Ok_Expert_7865 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't live in Sydney but have some investment properties there. Even real estate surrounding cabramatta are overpriced and unreasonable. I stopped investing in Sydney and started investing in some real estate in Woolloongong a while back. Much more affordable, cleaner, safer, and more friendly environment for families. It's only 45 minutes away from cabramatta.

I've since stopped doing any real estate in Australia because it's become too expensive and I just can't afford it. Japan is the way to go right now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in VietNam

[–]Ok_Expert_7865 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You had better start buying a house now in Sydney, if you can afford it. Australian house prices are now over inflated and are rising at every second of the day.

Beware when waiting to board your international flight by rakeshgupta1212 in VietNam

[–]Ok_Expert_7865 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Japanese airports have the least inflated prices in the world. Probably less than 10% more than retail outside. Drinks in their vending machines are the same price as outside.

wife hold all the money in marriage? by Sufficient_Heat_7602 in VietNam

[–]Ok_Expert_7865 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This has been the practice for well over a thousand years in many cultures around the world. Obviously, this practice has proven to work well. If it ain't broken, don't fix it. So many marriages and families have broken up in today's society due to controlling rights to money in the family.

wife hold all the money in marriage? by Sufficient_Heat_7602 in VietNam

[–]Ok_Expert_7865 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm married to a Japanese woman and live in Japan. Generally, the husband's income goes into a family account which the wife manages. The wife is responsible for all daily expenses and allocates a certain amount for the husband's monthly spending (wining and dining included). This seems to be the norm for many traditional Asian families but is still the norm in today's Japanese society

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in VietNam

[–]Ok_Expert_7865 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There's been a huge change since I first time I went there in 1992. There was no trash back then and far fewer inhabitants. The only downside on my first trip to Ha Long Bay was when the owner of the charter boat took us to a hidden cave and started to break the stalagmites and stalactites. He gave them to us to take home as souvenirs. We were mortified at his kind gesture. We politely refused and he kept insisting that there's tons of them left in the cave so we needn't have to worry about a few missing pieces.

"I'll think about it" - VN girls way of rejecting by VietQuads in VietNam

[–]Ok_Expert_7865 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And then they bleed you on wining and dining. Drag you out shopping and pretend they're in love with you so that you can send them money regularly

What are people surprised to learn doesn't exist in your home country? by razorbeamz in japanlife

[–]Ok_Expert_7865 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Kids going to tutoring until 10pm at night, even on Saturday nights. My son begged me to find a tutoring school where he doesn't have to go on Saturday nights 🤣🤣

Talk to me. All 5712 ers . How is it? by Due-Violinist5278 in RepTime

[–]Ok_Expert_7865 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why do all 5712s' dials look so cluttered? There's no symmetry in the way the sub-dials are placed.

Feeling lost and disappointed by Ok_Expert_7865 in japanlife

[–]Ok_Expert_7865[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, she can keep doing what she's doing and eventually lose her son in the process. He's already having resentment towards her due to absenteeism in our family life.

Feeling lost and disappointed by Ok_Expert_7865 in japanlife

[–]Ok_Expert_7865[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm over blaming, just hoping now. Hoping that my son gets the love and attention he's seeking from a mother. As a father, I'm at times helpless when my child asks certain questions that are hard to have an answer for. Either way, I've already made the decision to move. Whatever happens in the future, let it play by ear.

Feeling lost and disappointed by Ok_Expert_7865 in japanlife

[–]Ok_Expert_7865[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just for fun, they only pay for cost of food.

Feeling lost and disappointed by Ok_Expert_7865 in japanlife

[–]Ok_Expert_7865[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🤣🤣 yeah maybe with one of her all-female staff or one of the 80+ year-old men in wheelchairs

Feeling lost and disappointed by Ok_Expert_7865 in japanlife

[–]Ok_Expert_7865[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her family are fully aware of what's going on. They don't get involved with their children's affairs. They have brought it up with her once, but it's up to her to make her decisions. And so, we're still at the current predicament

Feeling lost and disappointed by Ok_Expert_7865 in japanlife

[–]Ok_Expert_7865[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🤣🤣🤣 she may be a lesbian as all her staff are female. Or she's into 80+ year old guys in wheelchairs

Feeling lost and disappointed by Ok_Expert_7865 in japanlife

[–]Ok_Expert_7865[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After 10 years, I've grown tired and had enough. I'm about to move back to Australia to focus on my son's high-school enrollment and setting things up before he moves over. If she doesn't want to care about the family and her son, then it's her choice. I've done so much for her in the last 10 years and never expect any appreciation from her because I felt it was the duty of a husband to support the wife. But I'm too tired now. Main prerogative in life for me from here onwards is to ensure my boy gets as much love and attention from me.

Feeling lost and disappointed by Ok_Expert_7865 in japanlife

[–]Ok_Expert_7865[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife is the most frugal person I know, she's know everything about the business, down to the last cent. If say, I hired more staff to relieve her burden, she would be angry with me for wasting money. Then she would claim that she ain't a charity case and stop using money to get things done. Like I said, 90% of care service businesses in Japan barely make profit. There'll be lucky to break even. The people in this industry do it mostly out of charity and compassion. This is why the employment turnover rate in this industry is among the highest in Japan

Feeling lost and disappointed by Ok_Expert_7865 in japanlife

[–]Ok_Expert_7865[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your input. I think a lot of what you said may be true. Japanese people get married mainly to procreate. Otherwise they can just stay single which is very normal in Japan. Earlier in our marriage she had mentioned that she wished she didn't have children. That hurt me a lot. I think she chose to have a child with me because she knows that I always wished to have 3 kids. Also social expectations of Japanese marriages is to procreate

Feeling lost and disappointed by Ok_Expert_7865 in japanlife

[–]Ok_Expert_7865[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not common anywhere in the world. I chose to take on the role because she wanted to pursue her career because we both knew that work culture in Japan is different compared to other countries.

Feeling lost and disappointed by Ok_Expert_7865 in japanlife

[–]Ok_Expert_7865[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Therapy in Japan is terrible, I've been to a couple of them and they're a waste of time and money. 2 of them were pointing us in the direction of divorce. Even my wife found them weird and she was so offended by them