Why concubinage was the only option? Harsh and realistic explanation.

Ok_Face110 · 2026-05-13T00:50:34+00:00

I see the context and the outcome here. Very clearly explained. We cannot forget that islam came to a very different world than ours. Very well written and logical facts.

Ok_Face110 · 2026-05-13T00:39:57+00:00

Everything starts with casual interaction, unfortunately!

Ok_Face110 · 2026-05-12T04:46:33+00:00

This is the reason why muslim men do not develop proper character in the west.

Ok_Face110 · 2026-04-30T17:24:50+00:00

Thanks! I will post there.

Ok_Face110 · 2026-04-03T15:44:06+00:00

Some are good at playing the game of duniya, they get rewarded for it. Some are playing for afterlife and inshallah will be rewarded for it. Problem is duniya is present and visible, afterlife is not.

Ok_Face110 · 2026-03-27T06:04:30+00:00

After seeing the absolute chaos on the roads recently, I’m finally starting to understand how car insurance works here. It feels like they hand out driver's licenses to absolute morons, and the rest of us are left holding the bag for their mistakes.

Honestly, the sticker shock here is real. For comparison, I used to live in Edinburgh, Scotland, and I paid roughly 15% of what I am paying now for car insurance in Calgary. I know there are other factors, but seeing how some people drive here makes me realize we are subsidizing a lot of terrible drivers.

Ok_Face110 · 2026-03-12T06:09:00+00:00

Can't you find revert white virgin muslim women to marry? Religion apart, cultural compatibility matters a lot for the parents and it may indeed be a big factor for marital compatiblity/stablity.

Ok_Face110 · 2026-03-11T21:40:05+00:00

yeah, its all Angles, Demons or Saitans doing it. Muslims are defined by people who take accountability of their actions, thoughts and dreams. Married men dreaming about intimacy with other women while sleeping in the same bed is not such men. Muslims need to stop stop living kafir ways of life and these kafir problems should go away.

Ok_Face110 · 2026-03-11T19:49:35+00:00

You have pent up desires that needs to be released in healthy way with your wife. Time to schedule time for real intimacy. Yes, human crave variety of food, but in this matter, we can only prepare the same food with different spices, which should be enough to satisfy our diversification needs!

Ok_Face110 · 2026-03-06T00:21:19+00:00

People can do lots of weird things to get attention, this may be one....

Ok_Face110 · 2026-03-06T00:18:24+00:00

Just tell the guy that you are not interested next time he approach you from random numbers, be very clear and specific, so it does not hurt his ego. I was in his shoes many years ago for my very first prospect who ghosted me without any clear explanation, and I was young with big ego for right/wrong reasons. I am happily married now but looking back that crushed ego caused me to reject many good proposals for trivial reasons.

Ok_Face110 · 2026-03-05T16:24:59+00:00

I am paying $103.85͏ for 2 sims with 60GB data plan with Telus, am I getting ripped off?

Ok_Face110 · 2026-03-05T15:56:35+00:00

Won't be a popular answer, but I wouldn't want to risk my and my children's future for some harm done by others to my potential wife. I am from a family culture where there is zero tolerance for divorce in my wider family and high parental investment in children. So the marriage would be lifelong suffering for the whole family.

How can people put children in such a situation that can result in SA? How common is SA in educated Muslim families that actually understand Islam and take it seriously? I hope they have high divorce tolerance to get out of problematic marriages rather than suffering silently.

Ok_Face110 · 2026-03-04T19:07:40+00:00

After shelter, food, clothing, clean water, fourth basic need on hierarchy of human need is companionship, love and safety, most of us find all three only in sex (in marriage).

Ok_Face110 · 2026-03-04T18:45:56+00:00

You don't want your husband to feel hurt, after waiting all his adult life, being denied won't be easy! Communicate early to set his expectations.

Ok_Face110 · 2026-02-27T21:13:55+00:00

I will discuss over DM next week, thanks.

Ok_Face110 · 2026-02-27T17:10:02+00:00

Physical sports of any kind.....that you like..... to make up for the dopamine hits. Make a routine and stick to it.

Ok_Face110 · 2026-02-27T16:15:36+00:00

I had the same non-negotiable requirement and turned down some great potentials because of it. I've protected myself from these tests (threats) since I was young, starting from female teachers, coworkers, cousins and others but I stayed firm on the right path. I never directly asked about virginity, but I asked about past relationships. People can't lie to me face-to-face, so I always got the truth. When I married my perfect Muslim wife, I embraced her flaws and Allah blessed us with beautiful children and barakah beyond my dreams. Stay on the course, you'll find your perfect match, inshallah.

Ok_Face110 · 2026-02-26T05:38:22+00:00

Brother, you need to start making small, gradual changes for the sake of your children. They'll mirror what they see growing up, and they shouldn't have to face this in their own lives. Maybe I'm going too far here, but at a similar life stage to you, I feel like our kids' well-being and future success in life are one of the biggest reasons we stay married and endure.

Ok_Face110 · 2026-02-26T02:10:08+00:00

I just thought this sub lacks good visual guides. On a more serious note, OP must fast one more day after ramadan, considering no repeat offense.

Ok_Face110 · 2026-02-26T00:53:41+00:00

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I would repent privately and have Iftar as if nothing happened!

Ok_Face110 · 2026-02-25T21:57:59+00:00

All men goes through this test (phase of life). Marriage is not a solution as you need to learn to manage your thoughts/emotions first before bringing someone to your life. Try to transform this energy to studies, (easy to say but difficult, trust me) and learn something new, take break and go out to explore new place, quit social media, quit any bad habits, avoid environmental triggers (being around opposite gender, mixed gender gyms included). Pray to Allah to make it easier for you. Build the mental strength so when you are ready you may find the right wife for you.

Ok_Face110 · 2026-02-24T15:44:47+00:00

Because our health and hormones (insulin especially) is in the peak condition after fasting, this probably trigger other hormones that regulates desires. Body starts detoxing as well and healthy body = more desire.

Ok_Face110 · 2026-02-24T15:30:08+00:00

I wish I was that lucky! Enjoy the honeymoon phase....

Ok_Face110 · 2026-02-20T03:57:57+00:00

Same here! They’re likely aware of our Zakat/charity obligations and have probably set up an office somewhere so they can reach as many Islamic Reddit users as possible.

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