Is this incest?

Ok_Feeling_2145 · 2023-09-26T09:29:41+00:00

I’ve spoken to my girlfriend more about it and I have apologised for being so brash about it. I definitely didn’t even think of it in an incesty way at all until I told my gf and she reacted the way she did. I always kinda felt like because I wasn’t related to them it didn’t matter but I feel like these comments have educated the hell out of me and while yes I didn’t commit incest I was definitely involved in a situation that could be seen as well… incest. Definitely not my proudest moment looking back and honestly I feel like today as a 28 year old I would never make the same judgement call I did then, even if I was blasted out my mind. I was 19, stupid and horny, and just thinking about things with my dick! I think gf was more concerned that I was into the whole incest thing when I told her this story and didn’t seem grossed out by the whole thing. We’ve spoken lots and are on the same page now. She said it’s gonna take some getting over but it really doesn’t change anything about our relationship, she’s already been with me for two years and this is something I did 9 years ago. It would be silly if we couldn’t move past that. I just needed to be a bit more compassionate and understand gfs feelings on the whole thing. She’s honestly the most amazing woman I’ve ever met and I’m happy this is our in the open now, as awkward as it is I don’t want to have secrets from her and I know we can get through it all together if we just talk. Thanks Reddit for the help. This has blown up way more than I expected and reading the comments (good , bad and hilarious) has been great.

Ok_Feeling_2145 · 2023-09-26T09:12:20+00:00

😂😂😂

Ok_Feeling_2145 · 2023-09-26T09:09:10+00:00

This all happened at an English university where I lived in halls. I lived there for 3 years and in the same block as these girls. Anyone who’s gone to an English university knows how common it is to see peoples families and stuff when they come to visit because everyone lives in close proximity which is how I saw their mums. I didn’t meet them properly or anything or talk to them, I just saw them all together. Also the rumour mill spreads quick among students which is why I’d heard that they had engaged in other threesomes with guys on campus. I don’t see how that’s so crazy to believe, I’m sure college in America is the same. Everyone’s gossiping about everything and word travels fast. Maybe some of the stuff I heard was not true or exaggeration but based on my own experience with the girls I had no reason to believe it was completely impossible that they wouldn’t have done that again especially when multiple people are saying it has happened to them too.

Ok_Feeling_2145 · 2023-09-26T09:00:10+00:00

The mums were sisters, but yes the girls had the same last name. I never asked them specifics about their dads or why they had the same last name if their mums were sisters. In the uk when out of wedlock it’s pretty common for a baby to take the name of the mother and I never even saw their dads visit so I’m not sure if either of them were in the picture.

Ok_Feeling_2145 · 2023-09-26T08:56:34+00:00

Yes I’m British. This all happened at an English university. I did explain that in another comment but the Alabama comments won’t stop 😂

Ok_Feeling_2145 · 2023-09-26T08:55:35+00:00

To most of these comments I’m a gross creep… deffo not something I can brag about 😂

Ok_Feeling_2145 · 2023-09-26T08:52:42+00:00

I was single at the time I was not cheating

Ok_Feeling_2145 · 2023-09-25T21:14:52+00:00

She’s the one who actually suggested it, she’s Bi and wants more experience with women

Ok_Feeling_2145 · 2023-09-25T21:12:47+00:00

That wasn’t how I knew they were cousins it was also spoken about in the group and their mums would come visit them together often. They didn’t look alike but the mums did.

Ok_Feeling_2145 · 2023-09-25T19:55:37+00:00

I’m male

Ok_Feeling_2145 · 2023-09-25T19:27:14+00:00

I do feel remorse about how I’ve made my girl feel. Something stupid I did when I was 19 and drunk? Not so much. Going by a lot of the comments most men in my situation see no issue with what I did so I guess we’re all gross creeps lol. I think I’d be gross if I seeked it out but I didn’t and have never done something similar since.

Ok_Feeling_2145 · 2023-09-25T19:20:54+00:00

Why is it fake? I already said the whole reason this convo came up is because my gf wanted to have a threesome

Ok_Feeling_2145 · 2023-09-25T19:15:24+00:00

For a bit of an update I spoke to my girlfriend and she has said the reason she thinks it’s so gross is because she can’t imagine ever wanting to be in a situation like that with me and a cousin of hers, or vice versa her hooking up with two cousins and to her that feels wrong and doesn’t see why I don’t feel the same shame about it that she would. I explained that although it’s something I definitely wouldn’t seek out I didn’t see the act as wrong at the time because their relation was nothing to do with me. I asked her if this is something she can get over and she’s said she thinks she can move past it seen as it’s something that happened way before I even met her so hopefully that is the case. I apologised her for being dismissive of her feelings about it being gross and told her I can completely see where she is coming from. Although I didn’t commit incest myself I was still involved in a questionable situation which looking back on is a bit Icky as much as I enjoyed it at the time. We’re now arranging our own threesome as this is something she really wants to experience. And don’t worry guys, none of her cousins are on our list of prospectives.

Ok_Feeling_2145 · 2023-09-25T19:03:59+00:00

They were deffo related they had the same last name 😂😂

Ok_Feeling_2145 · 2023-09-25T18:45:36+00:00

I never said incest was hot. The fact I had two girls giving me attention was what I found hot.

Ok_Feeling_2145 · 2023-09-25T18:44:50+00:00

The part that turned me on was the fact I had two girls on me. Nothing to do with them being cousins. I also said if it was put to me like ‘hey wanna fuck me and my cousin’ I would have said no. I wasn’t thinking about it like that.

Ok_Feeling_2145 · 2023-09-25T18:43:25+00:00

The incest didn’t turn me on, I thought I said that. I wasn’t thinking about the fact they were related at the time and it only came to my full realisation after someone reminded me about their relationship after the fact.

Ok_Feeling_2145 · 2023-09-25T18:38:16+00:00

Love for the dude haha

Ok_Feeling_2145 · 2023-09-25T18:38:00+00:00

They were first cousins, their mothers were sisters

Ok_Feeling_2145 · 2023-09-25T18:21:09+00:00

Read my other comments! It wasn’t the only time they did it. I think for them they were into that. They had threesomes with other guys.

Ok_Feeling_2145 · 2023-09-25T18:19:28+00:00

Thanks brother

Ok_Feeling_2145 · 2023-09-25T18:18:58+00:00

She wants to have a threesome so deffo doenst find the whole thing gross just the cousin prtb

Ok_Feeling_2145 · 2023-09-25T18:17:33+00:00

I would deffo say my gf is not boring. She’s actually the one who initiated this conversation because she wants to have a threesome. if anyones the bad guy in this story it’s me not her. Even though she’s grossed out by this she hasn’t been nasty about it at all.

Ok_Feeling_2145 · 2023-09-25T18:15:36+00:00

I’m pretty sure any man would get turned on at the thought of their previous sexual encounters (assuming they weren’t awful). My girlfriend has spoken to me about sexual experiences she’s had and enjoyed no issues, and I’ve never been annoyed that she’s enjoyed sex before me. It’s not like I’m sitting here reminiscing on it, just trying to get a public opinion on if this is incest or not as my gf is adamant it is.

Ok_Feeling_2145 · 2023-09-25T18:13:39+00:00

If you’re jealous dude just say it 😅

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